Gay Men Going Deeper

How to Not Lose Yourself in Your Relationships


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In this episode, Matt speaks with therapist and author, Tom Bruett, about how to avoid losing yourself in your relationships. By balancing connection and autonomy in our relationships, we can foster more secure relationships that allow us to maintain our sense of self while allowing our partner to do the same. 

If you easily lose yourself in your relationships or you’re having a hard time establishing intimacy, this episode will offer a refreshing perspective and tangible takeaways to help you improve your relationship with yourself and others. 

The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:

  • What is codependency and enmeshment?
  • What are the consequences of being codependent or enmeshed in relationships?
  • What causes codependency and enmeshment?
  • How can we heal from codependency and enmeshment?
  • What is interdependency and differentiation?
  • How does interdependence and differentiation support secure relationships?
  • How does attachment style play a role in this topic?
  • What are some tangible ways to practice interdependence and differentiation?
  • Book by Tom Bruett:

    The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men: From Honeymoon to Lasting

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