In this episode of Intimacy Evolution, we’re diving into one of the most common challenges couples face: staying connected during the holidays. Between family expectations, overloaded schedules, childhood programming, and unspoken obligations, the holiday season can easily create distance between partners. In fact, research shows that stress, increased responsibilities, and family dynamics contribute to a spike in relationship conflict during November and December.

We explore the difference between obligation energy and choice energy—and how operating from obligation often leads to resentment, overwhelm, and emotional shutdown. You’ll hear how to shift into choice-based decision-making that supports intimacy, teamwork, and grounded connection.

Inside this conversation, we unpack:

• How childhood traditions shape your current holiday expectations
• Why visiting family can trigger anxiety or old identity patterns
• How to create shared traditions instead of defaulting to what you “should” do
• Practical ways to reduce stress, overstimulation, and schedule overload
• A simple reflection process to identify what actually feels nourishing
• Our “scale system” for navigating events, in-law dynamics, and overstimulation
• How to support each other when one partner feels overwhelmed
• Why so many couples argue—or feel disconnected—during the holidays
• How to prioritize emotional closeness and partnership even during busy seasons

Whether you’re navigating family expectations, figuring out boundaries, or trying to prevent holiday burnout, this episode will give you the clarity and language to stay connected as a team.

You’re not alone in this—holiday challenges are incredibly common. This episode will help you move through the season with more intention, compassion, and connection.

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Join us for our free webinar all about staying connected through the holidays! Thursday, December 18th at 7pm CST

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