A listener wants to know how to stop pressing the bruise after a breakup. Here's her letter:

I have a tendency to get caught up in limerence and stalk my exes Spotify to see what he puts on his playlists. This has often kept me stuck on him, since some of the songs appeared to specifically reference issues he and I had.

I recently stalked him and saw that he was creating playlists with another girl. I looked the girl up of course, and she looks like a prettier and thinner version of me. I know it’s my fault for prying but how do I not let this fuck with me.

I’ve vowed to stop stalking him but feel horrible about myself and rageful that this shitty man was able to pull someone hotter than me. Thanks for having this space to let me send in letters where I’m being petty and ridiculous.

Grateful for both of you and the podcast.

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