Why is it so damn hard to know what we really want?

In this vulnerable and unfiltered episode, April and Scott get real about the psychological and emotional roadblocks that make naming our desires feel confusing, overwhelming, and even scary—especially in non-monogamy.

They explore:

• Why childhood and culture train us to want what’s safe—not what’s true

• The difference between relief and real desire

• Why pretending to “want what they want” can quietly destroy you

• How non-monogamy doesn’t make desire clearer—it just makes it louder

• The 3 most common mistakes people make when trying to name what they want

• Practical tools to help you reconnect to your real, wild, messy desires

Plus, they share personal stories, relationship bumps, and how desire work is showing up in their own marriage, right now.

This one’s for anyone who’s ever said, “I don’t know who I am anymore” or “I’m not sure what I want—but I know it’s not this.”

🎧 Listen, breathe, reflect—and start the journey back to your truest self.

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