April and Scott are back from the Smoky Mountains and very well-rested… because they slept for 3 days. In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April & Scott share details about their upcoming gig as sexy Mr. & Mrs. Claus at Sapphire Starlington’s Christmas party in Huntsville before diving into a day-by-day recap of their Naughty Holidaze retreat.

You’ll hear how 14 adventurous couples (plus host couples) turned a giant mountain cabin into a rotating celebration of Halloween, Friendsgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Year’s Eve—complete with connection circles, icebreaker bingo, a “lazy man’s” gratitude drive through bear country, moonshine tastings in tacky Christmas sweaters, and a day of roller coasters at Dollywood. They talk about pop-up play spaces with massage tables and flogging demos, why consent and vibe made this group feel uniquely safe and non-predatory, and the unexpected intimacy of group massages and cuddle puddles.

April and Scott also unpack their Relational Freedom workshop based on their Wild Love Theory book, why Telegram groups can totally mislead you about people, and how a dueling piano New Year’s Sneaker Ball brought their entire origin story full circle. They wrap with a look at upcoming Naughty Gym trips and retreats—and why, whatever you do, you should never stop playing.

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Today we go deep on throuples—what makes a three-person relationship (triad) work in real life. Our guest is Dr. Rachael Meir, a Stanford-trained psychologist, sex & relationship coach, author of 50 Questions to Ask Before Opening Your Relationship, and host of retreats designed specifically for throuples.

In this episode (throuple-forward):

• Shapes of throuples: V vs. closed triad, the “everyone dates everyone” myth, and why symmetry isn’t the only path to stability.

• Avoiding triangles (the bad kind): How to reduce coalitions, secret alliances, and “two against one” dynamics with simple, predictable check-ins.

• Jealousy in 3s: Why jealousy feels different in a triad, Dr. Meir’s “dashboard warning light” frame, and how to respond without spiraling.

• Differentiation = less codependence: Staying three whole people (not one fused blob) actually strengthens the connection between all of you.

• Logistics that keep love humane: Calendars, re-entry rituals, and short “state-of-us” huddles so no one becomes the project manager (or the parent).

• Ethics & invitations: Power imbalances, “unicorn hunting,” and creating consent that’s real for all three partners—not just the original pair.

• Retreat lessons: What Dr. Meir sees thriving throuples do differently (language, expectations, and how they handle NRE without breaking the triangle).

Plus, we pull 5 key prompts from Dr. Meir’s book to ground any non-monogamy journey:

• What desires/needs do I believe non-monogamy could fulfill (for me, not just my partner)?

• Do I have enough self-esteem to stay out of comparison traps?

• Are we differentiated—two/three whole people with overlap—rather than merged?

• Are we opening to fill a void/fix a problem (and what would repair look like first)?

• What small agreements would make us feel safer without turning into surveillance?

Big takeaways you can use tonight

• Trade control for clarity: one short weekly check-in beats constant play-by-play.

• Re-entry rituals after solo or third-partner time keep connection warm and resentment low.

• In triads, fairness ≠ sameness—aim for dignity for all three, not equal minutes.

Find Dr. Meir: https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/

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Rejection happens in the lifestyle. What do you do with the sting. April and Scott sit down with pleasure educator Luna Matatas to unpack expectations, etiquette, and empathy when play does not line up for all four people. They dig into clear asks, enthusiastic consent, and how to set goals that are sexual, sensual, and social so the night still feels like a win. Luna shares her worst threesome, her best threesomes, and practical scripts for saying yes and no with kindness. Plus a peek at what she is bringing to Be Better at Being Bad this January. Tune in for real stories, real growth, and a reminder that someone else’s no is a big yes to themselves.

Luna Matatas website: https://lunamatatas.com/en-us

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What happens when a longtime marriage says “yes” to curiosity? In this candid convo, Freddy and Andi share how a flirt turned into a slow, consent-first path to non-monogamy and how they “accidentally” became poly. We dig into the real stuff: jealousy and the fear of being replaced, what “check-ins” actually mean (hint: eye contact isn’t enough), and why emotional regulation beats willpower when the feelings get loud. They open up about past secrecy, rebuilding trust, discovering compersion, and why retreats (hello, Expansive Connection) gave them tools that parties never could. Expect practical takeaways on requests vs. mind-reading, setting pace without pressure, navigating separate dates, and creating love that expands, without losing “my person.”

Featuring:

• Freddy & Andy’s 15-year journey from “big no” to sustainable poly
• The exact check-in framework that stopped spirals
• Lessons from men’s/women’s circles, real-time coaching, and a regulation breakthrough
• Hot-wife dynamics, long-term girlfriend logistics, and staying special while sharing

If you’re opening up, curious about poly, or healing after a breach, this episode is your field guide to honest rules, softer landings, and deeper love.

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In this playful and thought-provoking episode, Scott and April explore one of the most surprising dynamics in the lifestyle: choosing connection over sex. With their friends Dave and Andi, hosts of Tales of The Lastborns, they discuss topics as varied as “blue-ball moments” at full resort takeovers to the deeper reasons why some swingers deliberately opt for fewer play sessions, at least for a season. This conversation is equal parts hilarious and heartfelt.

They share details about upcoming Naughty Gym events (Jamaica takeover, El Salvador retreat, and even a Barcelona adventure) while reflecting on the tension between sexual freedom and the power of saying “not tonight.” This one will make you laugh, think, and maybe rethink what intimacy really means.

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In this raw and hilarious episode, April and Scott sit down with their dear friend Roderick — filmmaker of Open: A Journey Through Love — to explore the intersections of neurodivergence and non-monogamy. From awkward flirting misfires to the surprising superpowers of direct communication, the three share personal stories about autism, sensory overwhelm, compersion, and why neurodivergent lovers might just be the best in bed. If you’ve ever wondered how differently-wired brains navigate open relationships, this one will open your eyes, your heart, and maybe even your bedroom.

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What happens when Naughty Gym hands over the reins for the very first time? In this episode, Scott (“The Coyote Whisperer”) and April sit down with coaches Matt & Cara to unpack the very first PNW Naughty Gym meetup in Portland, Oregon.

The day started at Sauvie Island’s clothing optional beach and ended with a packed Naughty Gym takeover at Club Pravada — one of Portland’s most iconic lifestyle clubs. Nearly 300 people showed up, proving that connection-focused events are exactly what the sex-positive community is craving.

You’ll hear:

• The nerves (and pride) of letting others host a Naughty Gym event
• Why connection-first events change the lifestyle experience
• Behind-the-scenes of hosting at Club Pravada Portland
• The magic of Sauvie Island and authentic community building
• Why friendships make the lifestyle more fun (and more meaningful)

👉 Want the After Chat with the spicier details? Join us inside the Naughty Gym Lounge at https://www.naughtygym.com.

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In this powerful episode, April and Scott open up about two months of unexpected personal chaos—and the tools that got them through it. From setting firm family boundaries to rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, they explore how to protect your peace without shutting down or giving up.

April shares the story behind a life-changing letter she wrote to her brothers, the surprising fallout, and why pausing—even in non-monogamy—can be the healthiest move.

They dive into the struggle of being the family fixer, the trap of overgiving, and the question at the heart of it all: Who do you think you aren’t… to deserve peace, trust, and space to be yourself?

You’ll also hear:

• How to nurture yourself when you’re always the nurturer

• Why intuition matters (and how to listen without self-doubt)

• The real impact of setting boundaries in open relationships

• What to do when the people you love disappoint you

Whether you’re juggling relationships, caregiving, or just trying to find your center again—this episode offers raw honesty, laughter, and some hard-earned wisdom.

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Can a relationship thrive without rules?

Or does lasting love require some limits?

In this candid and thought-provoking episode, Scott sits down with one of his personal training clients (also named Scott) for a deep dive into one of the most uncomfortable questions in modern relationship philosophy: Are some imposed boundaries necessary to preserve long-term commitment?

Centering mostly around Wild Love Theory’s radical premise—that maximal happiness requires maximal freedom—the conversation challenges traditional ideas about relational doubt, how much freedom is too much and staying together “no matter what.”

Together, they explore:

 • How much relational freedom is optimal

 • If boundary-free love is liberating or potentially reckless

 • How cultural norms about divorce shape our definitions of commitment

 • The emotional trade-offs between safety and sovereignty

 • Why ENM spaces often avoid talking about relational maintenance

Whether you’re in a long-term monogamous marriage or navigating ethical non-monogamy, this episode asks the question most couples never dare say aloud:

Can you be truly free—and still choose to stay?

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When a viral kiss-cam moment exposed a workplace affair, the internet exploded with judgment, doxing, and moral outrage. In this raw and honest episode, April and Scott—who know a thing or two about public scandal—open up about their own affair-turned-marriage, the cultural obsession with punishing cheaters, and why so many people feel stuck in unhappy relationships.

They unpack the real reasons people cheat, how shame prevents open communication, and why compassion is a better teacher than cruelty. Plus, they share upcoming Naughty Gym retreats, including a free PNW meetup and their wild and wise women’s event.

Whether you’ve been cheated on, done the cheating, or just love a spicy hot take on relationships—this episode dares to go there.

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Men's & Women's Retreat Details: 📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains: - 👯‍♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between 💻 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise -

🙋🏻‍♂️ For men: Mancation Mountain https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain

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