Rejection happens in the lifestyle. What do you do with the sting. April and Scott sit down with pleasure educator Luna Matatas to unpack expectations, etiquette, and empathy when play does not line up for all four people. They dig into clear asks, enthusiastic consent, and how to set goals that are sexual, sensual, and social so the night still feels like a win. Luna shares her worst threesome, her best threesomes, and practical scripts for saying yes and no with kindness. Plus a peek at what she is bringing to Be Better at Being Bad this January. Tune in for real stories, real growth, and a reminder that someone else’s no is a big yes to themselves.

Luna Matatas website: https://lunamatatas.com/en-us

Naughty Gym Info:

Website: www.naughtygym.com

Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events

What happens when a longtime marriage says “yes” to curiosity? In this candid convo, Freddy and Andi share how a flirt turned into a slow, consent-first path to non-monogamy and how they “accidentally” became poly. We dig into the real stuff: jealousy and the fear of being replaced, what “check-ins” actually mean (hint: eye contact isn’t enough), and why emotional regulation beats willpower when the feelings get loud. They open up about past secrecy, rebuilding trust, discovering compersion, and why retreats (hello, Expansive Connection) gave them tools that parties never could. Expect practical takeaways on requests vs. mind-reading, setting pace without pressure, navigating separate dates, and creating love that expands, without losing “my person.”

Featuring:

• Freddy & Andy’s 15-year journey from “big no” to sustainable poly
• The exact check-in framework that stopped spirals
• Lessons from men’s/women’s circles, real-time coaching, and a regulation breakthrough
• Hot-wife dynamics, long-term girlfriend logistics, and staying special while sharing

If you’re opening up, curious about poly, or healing after a breach, this episode is your field guide to honest rules, softer landings, and deeper love.

Naughty Gym Info-

Website: https://www.naughtygym.com/

Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events

Devious Dragonfly:

https://www.deviousdragonfly.com/

Expansive Connection:

https://www.expansiveconnection.com/

In this playful and thought-provoking episode, Scott and April explore one of the most surprising dynamics in the lifestyle: choosing connection over sex. With their friends Dave and Andi, hosts of Tales of The Lastborns, they discuss topics as varied as “blue-ball moments” at full resort takeovers to the deeper reasons why some swingers deliberately opt for fewer play sessions, at least for a season. This conversation is equal parts hilarious and heartfelt.

They share details about upcoming Naughty Gym events (Jamaica takeover, El Salvador retreat, and even a Barcelona adventure) while reflecting on the tension between sexual freedom and the power of saying “not tonight.” This one will make you laugh, think, and maybe rethink what intimacy really means.

Naughty Gym Info-

Website: https://www.naughtygym.com/

Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/naughty-gym-show-intersection-of-non-monogamy-wellness/id1701360007

Tales Of The Lastborns-

Website: https://talesofthelastborns.com/

Podcast: https://talesofthelastborns.buzzsprout.com/follow

In this raw and hilarious episode, April and Scott sit down with their dear friend Roderick — filmmaker of Open: A Journey Through Love — to explore the intersections of neurodivergence and non-monogamy. From awkward flirting misfires to the surprising superpowers of direct communication, the three share personal stories about autism, sensory overwhelm, compersion, and why neurodivergent lovers might just be the best in bed. If you’ve ever wondered how differently-wired brains navigate open relationships, this one will open your eyes, your heart, and maybe even your bedroom.

Learn about Roderick's documentary, Open: A Journey Through Love

Learn about Naughty Gym

Come Party & Travel with us!

What happens when Naughty Gym hands over the reins for the very first time? In this episode, Scott (“The Coyote Whisperer”) and April sit down with coaches Matt & Cara to unpack the very first PNW Naughty Gym meetup in Portland, Oregon.

The day started at Sauvie Island’s clothing optional beach and ended with a packed Naughty Gym takeover at Club Pravada — one of Portland’s most iconic lifestyle clubs. Nearly 300 people showed up, proving that connection-focused events are exactly what the sex-positive community is craving.

You’ll hear:

• The nerves (and pride) of letting others host a Naughty Gym event
• Why connection-first events change the lifestyle experience
• Behind-the-scenes of hosting at Club Pravada Portland
• The magic of Sauvie Island and authentic community building
• Why friendships make the lifestyle more fun (and more meaningful)

👉 Want the After Chat with the spicier details? Join us inside the Naughty Gym Lounge at https://www.naughtygym.com.

🏝️ Come travel with us! See your entire event schedule: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events

In this powerful episode, April and Scott open up about two months of unexpected personal chaos—and the tools that got them through it. From setting firm family boundaries to rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, they explore how to protect your peace without shutting down or giving up.

April shares the story behind a life-changing letter she wrote to her brothers, the surprising fallout, and why pausing—even in non-monogamy—can be the healthiest move.

They dive into the struggle of being the family fixer, the trap of overgiving, and the question at the heart of it all: Who do you think you aren’t… to deserve peace, trust, and space to be yourself?

You’ll also hear:

• How to nurture yourself when you’re always the nurturer

• Why intuition matters (and how to listen without self-doubt)

• The real impact of setting boundaries in open relationships

• What to do when the people you love disappoint you

Whether you’re juggling relationships, caregiving, or just trying to find your center again—this episode offers raw honesty, laughter, and some hard-earned wisdom.

📍 Join the community at naughtygym.com 

📅 See upcoming events, meetups & retreats 

Men's & Women's Retreat Details: 📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains: -

👯‍♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between

🙋🏻‍♂️ For men: Mancation Mountain

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UPCOMING EVENTS

Can a relationship thrive without rules?

Or does lasting love require some limits?

In this candid and thought-provoking episode, Scott sits down with one of his personal training clients (also named Scott) for a deep dive into one of the most uncomfortable questions in modern relationship philosophy: Are some imposed boundaries necessary to preserve long-term commitment?

Centering mostly around Wild Love Theory’s radical premise—that maximal happiness requires maximal freedom—the conversation challenges traditional ideas about relational doubt, how much freedom is too much and staying together “no matter what.”

Together, they explore:

 • How much relational freedom is optimal

 • If boundary-free love is liberating or potentially reckless

 • How cultural norms about divorce shape our definitions of commitment

 • The emotional trade-offs between safety and sovereignty

 • Why ENM spaces often avoid talking about relational maintenance

Whether you’re in a long-term monogamous marriage or navigating ethical non-monogamy, this episode asks the question most couples never dare say aloud:

Can you be truly free—and still choose to stay?

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📍 Join the community at naughtygym.com 

📅 See upcoming events, meetups & retreats 

Men's & Women's Retreat Details: 

📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains: - 👯‍♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between 💻 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise - 

🙋🏻‍♂️ For men: Mancation Mountain https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain 

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UPCOMING EVENTS: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events

When a viral kiss-cam moment exposed a workplace affair, the internet exploded with judgment, doxing, and moral outrage. In this raw and honest episode, April and Scott—who know a thing or two about public scandal—open up about their own affair-turned-marriage, the cultural obsession with punishing cheaters, and why so many people feel stuck in unhappy relationships.

They unpack the real reasons people cheat, how shame prevents open communication, and why compassion is a better teacher than cruelty. Plus, they share upcoming Naughty Gym retreats, including a free PNW meetup and their wild and wise women’s event.

Whether you’ve been cheated on, done the cheating, or just love a spicy hot take on relationships—this episode dares to go there.

📍 Join the community at naughtygym.com

📅 See upcoming events, meetups & retreats

Men's & Women's Retreat Details: 📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains: - 👯‍♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between 💻 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise -

🙋🏻‍♂️ For men: Mancation Mountain https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain

JOIN NAUGHTY GYM'S COMMUNITY: www.NaughtyGym.com

UPCOMING EVENTS: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events

Why is it so damn hard to know what we really want?

In this vulnerable and unfiltered episode, April and Scott get real about the psychological and emotional roadblocks that make naming our desires feel confusing, overwhelming, and even scary—especially in non-monogamy.

They explore:

• Why childhood and culture train us to want what’s safe—not what’s true

• The difference between relief and real desire

• Why pretending to “want what they want” can quietly destroy you

• How non-monogamy doesn’t make desire clearer—it just makes it louder

• The 3 most common mistakes people make when trying to name what they want

• Practical tools to help you reconnect to your real, wild, messy desires

Plus, they share personal stories, relationship bumps, and how desire work is showing up in their own marriage, right now.

This one’s for anyone who’s ever said, “I don’t know who I am anymore” or “I’m not sure what I want—but I know it’s not this.”

🎧 Listen, breathe, reflect—and start the journey back to your truest self.

📍 Join the community at naughtygym.com

📅 See upcoming events, meetups & retreats

🎉 New listeners welcome. Just don’t be an asshole.

Men's & Women's Retreat Details:

📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains:

- 👯‍♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise

- 🙋🏻‍♂️ For men: Mancation Mountain

https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain

JOIN NAUGHTY GYM'S COMMUNITY: www.NaughtyGym.com

UPCOMING EVENTS: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events

What if menopause wasn’t something to dread, but a wake-up call, a shift, a powerful evolution?

In this raw and empowering episode, April is joined by her friend and retreat co-host Catherine from Expansive Connection Coaching to break down the messy, misunderstood truth about menopause. They get honest about perimenopause, HRT, sex, sleep, relationships, brain fog, identity, body image, and why so many women feel like they’re losing their minds, or burning their lives down.

But this conversation isn’t just for women. If you’re a partner, a son, a friend, this episode matters to you too. Because understanding menopause means understanding the people you love.

Expect laughter, vulnerability, hard truths, and plenty of F-bombs (the literal and metaphorical kind). Plus, learn more about their Wild & Wise Women’s Menopause Retreat, a space for education, connection, and maybe even a few healing flames.

Retreat Details:

📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains

👯‍♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between

💻 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise

Expansive Connection Coaching: https://www.expansiveconnection.com/enm

JOIN NAUGHTY GYM'S COMMUNITY: www.NaughtyGym.com

UPCOMING EVENTS: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events