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In this episode, I sit down with Deb Dana, renowned clinician, author, and expert in Polyvagal Theory, to explore the transformative power of GLIMMERS - those small, everyday moments of safety and connection that help regulate our nervous system. 

The concept of glimmers has captured the imagination of millions, resonating across social media with over 27 million hashtags on TikTok alone. 

But why do these fleeting moments of ease hold such profound significance? We discuss how glimmers counterbalance our survival responses, why they matter for healing and resilience, and how we can intentionally cultivate them in our daily lives. 

Whether you're a mental health professional, someone on a personal healing journey, or simply curious about the science of feeling good, this conversation will leave you with accessible tools to bring more ease and connection into your everyday life.

Deb Dana’s links:

Glimmer Journal: Glimmers Journal: Reflect on the Small Moments That Bring You Joy, Safety, and Connection: Amazon.co.uk: Dana, Deb: 9781324082071: Books

Deb’s website & resources: 
Media Library — Rhythm of Regulation

Helen’s links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/h.e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e?igsh=MXVsZHZwcTl2Zmppdw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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Welcome back to The Mini Edit - a new weekly feature from the I Don’t Think We Talk Enough About podcast.

In this mini edit from Episode 14, I chat with stress management consultant Alice Law about stress. I hope this shorter version offers you some comfort. If you’re looking for more in-depth advice, be sure to check out the full conversation.

Stress affects so many of us and although it can feel incredibly isolating, Alice reassures us that we are not alone. I hope you find her warmth and wisdom a nourishing boost to help you feel less stressed. 

Show notes and the full episode are available at: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/i-dont-think-we-talk-enough-about/id1749855543?i=1000671609274

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Let’s talk happiness. I absolutely loved this conversation with writer, poet, podcast host, and social media sensation David Larbi. I think you will too. 

With over 1.5 million followers on Instagram and Tiktok, David has built a space that encourages vulnerability, emotional depth, and self-acceptance—offering the kind of caring voice we all wish we had in a friend.

In this episode, he shares his personal journey of hope, growth, and self-discovery, inspiring others to embrace their emotions and find true happiness. We dive into powerful themes like comparison, self-worth, self-responsibility, self-belief, letting go, and working through self-consciousness.

We also talk about his beautiful new book, Frequently Happy, which gently guides us to find joy in the smaller, often overlooked moments of life. This episode promises to help you feel happier. 

This conversation is a reminder that feeling deeply is not just okay—it’s necessary. Tune in for an episode filled with wisdom, warmth, and the encouragement we all need. Happy listening. 

David’s links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidlarbi?igsh=MTJqbGdvc3UzMzNlcA==

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/mindful-moments-with-david-larbi/id1694174623

Frequently Happy book: https://lnk.to/frequentlyhappy

Helen’s links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/h.e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e?igsh=MXVsZHZwcTl2Zmppdw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Choose You book: https://lnk.to/ChooseyouHelenMarie

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Welcome back to The Mini Edit - a new weekly feature from the I Don’t Think We Talk Enough About podcast.

In this mini edit from Episode 12, I chat with consultant psychologist Jo Rodriguez about the experience of feeling stuck. We explore what triggers this state, how the body’s survival mode plays a role, and practical ways to move forward. Plus, we answer some of your questions on the topic.

The full episode was my most downloaded to date, and I hope this shorter version offers you some comfort. If you’re looking for more in-depth advice, be sure to check out the full conversation.

Jo’s warmth and insight are truly generous, and I hope you’ll find inspiration in our discussion.

Show notes and the full episode are available at: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/i-dont-think-we-talk-enough-about/id1749855543?i=1000670007919

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In this heartfelt episode, I’m joined by the incredible author Daisy Buchanan as we delve into her personal journey with anxiety, perfectionism, and her battle with a shopping addiction. Daisy opens up about her experiences, sharing how these shaped her path, and discusses her deep passion for storytelling. 

We also explore her new book, Read Yourself Happy. A book guaranteed to inspire you to pick up your favourite books again. 

With her beautiful honesty and warmth, Daisy offers profound insights into the power of vulnerability, hope, and sharing stories. This conversation is sure to inspire, uplift, and encourage anyone who has ever struggled with their inner critic or felt trapped in perfectionism. 

Join us for an empowering discussion that reminds us all that healing, growth, and joy are within reach.

Daisy’s links:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/thedaisybee?igsh=YmM0NGF5Z2JxOW12

Read Yourself Happy: 
Read Yourself Happy | DK UK

Substack: Daisy Buchanan on Substack


Helen’s links:

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/h.e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e?igsh=MXVsZHZwcTl2Zmppdw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Choose You book:
https://lnk.to/ChooseyouHelenMarie

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Welcome to The Mini Edit - a brand new weekly feature from the I Don’t Think We Talk Enough About podcast.

In today’s mini edit from episode 16, I sit down with Dr. Lalitaa Suglani to explore the topic of high-functioning anxiety. Together, we delve into what it means, inner child work, people-pleasing, inner wounds, and so much more.

Lalitaa brings her incredible insight, warmth, and wisdom to this vital conversation. I hope this episode will offer you something new and meaningful.

Show notes and the full episode are available at: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/i-dont-think-we-talk-enough-about/id1749855543?i=1000673367340

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In this first solo episode, I’m talking about why it’s so hard to face seeing people for who they really are, rather than who we wish they could be. I explore why letting go of this idealised version is so challenging and how it can bring up complex emotions, such as grief and the fear of loneliness.

I also share tools to help you gain clarity and move forward, freeing yourself from the grip of expectations that come with holding on to these idealised versions of others.

Happy listening. 

Helen’s links:

Instagram: 
https://www.instagram.com/h.e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e?igsh=MXVsZHZwcTl2Zmppdw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Choose You Book: 
https://lnk.to/ChooseyouHelenMarie

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In this episode, I’m delighted to speak with one of Instagram’s most beloved relationship coaches, Jillian Turecki. We discussed the importance of the relationship we have with ourselves and how it influences every other relationship in our lives. It really does start with us.

Jillian and I also talked about her new book, It Begins With You, which provides a powerful roadmap for doing the work to love ourselves and, ultimately, find the love we deserve.

This conversation is especially meaningful because of Jillian’s personal journey. She speaks from the heart, which brings such authenticity and depth to what she shares. 

In this episode, she gently guides us to:
•Choose ourselves first.
•Understand how our relationships teach us about our fears, patterns, and beliefs.
•Take responsibility for our role in relationships.
•Navigate partnerships with emotionally unavailable partners.
•Recognize the importance of repair work in relationships.
•Cultivate a healthy relationship with ourselves.
•Quiet the "monkey mind."
•Move beyond solely focusing on attachment theory.
•Make peace with our parents.
•See that it’s us and our partner against the problem—not us versus each other.
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This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to deepen the relationship they have with themselves and improve their connections with others.

Happy listening!

Jillian’s links:

Instagram: 
https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki?igsh=MWRjbnY0OGIxZjMwZA==

Jillian’s book: Book — JILLIAN TURECKI

Helen’s links:

Instagram: 
https://www.instagram.com/h.e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e?igsh=MXVsZHZwcTl2Zmppdw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Helen’s book Choose You: 
https://lnk.to/ChooseyouHelenMarie

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The choices we make today lay the foundation for our health as we age. In fact, our midlife health is one of the strongest predictors of our long-term well-being. It really matters. Lavina inspires us to take action now, with her contagious optimism and enthusiasm shining through. I absolutely loved our conversation.

Drawing on evidence-based research, Lavina shares that just 11 minutes of movement a day can significantly improve our health. Considering the average person in the UK spends 10 hours a day sitting, Lavina offers practical ways to reduce this sedentary behaviour and prevent the physical decline often associated with ageing.

In this episode, we cover:

How maintaining serotonin and dopamine levels supports mental health as we age.
The critical role of movement during perimenopause, menopause, and beyond.
Staying motivated and building a personalized movement toolkit.
Reframing how we think about exercise.
Strategies to preserve energy and maintain independence long-term.
Managing brain fog and optimising brain function as we age.
Practical tips and resources for living a healthier, happier life.
This conversation goes far beyond movement. Lavina brings a holistic perspective on how to protect and enhance both our physical and mental health for years to come.

Lavina’s links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feelgoodwithlavina?igsh=MW44ZWU2bjJ2Y2dlag==

The Feel Good Fix book: https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-feel-good-fix/lavina-mehta-mbe/9780241665084

Resources mentioned in show:

British Menopause Society: https://thebms.org.uk/

Menopause Mandate: https://www.menopausemandate.com/

Balance App: https://balanceapp.com/

Helen’s links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/h.e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e/profilecard/?igsh=MXVsZHZwcTl2Zmppdw==

Choose You: https://lnk.to/ChooseyouHelenMarie

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In this episode, I chat with Dr. Claire Plumbly about burnout. Recent reports state that up to 80% of the UK workforce have experienced or are experiencing burnout, but burnout doesn’t just happen in the workplace. Through this conversation and her brilliant new book, Claire shares with us:

•What burnout actually is
•What burnout isn’t 
•What causes it
•The importance of boundaries
•Who gets affected 
•How Covid has changed our supportive community
•The loss of community 
•The importance of feeling safe in our bodies 
•The impact of being ‘on’ all the time
•Where to go to for support

She also provides a game-changing way of understanding our nervous system—how to recognize when it’s in fight, flight, or freeze mode, and how to bring it back to a feeling of safety (which might not be how you imagine!).

We also answer many of your questions.

This episode isn’t just for those experiencing burnout, but for everyone, as Claire introduces tools to help us prevent burnout in our lives. Understanding and listening to our nervous system is key, and this episode promises to equip you with the knowledge you need.

I truly hope you enjoy listening as much as I enjoyed having this conversation!

Claire’s links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drclaireplumbly?igsh=b3JibTF5cTBrZmpy

Her book ‘Burnout: how to manage your nervous system before it manages you’ https://www.drclaireplumbly.com/feel-better

Mental Health UK annual burnout report: Burnout Report: one in five needed to take time off work due to stress in the past year - Mental Health UK

My links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/h.e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e/profilecard/?igsh=MXVsZHZwcTl2Zmppdw==

My book CHOOSE YOU: Choose You