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Today’s episode is all about the thrilling yet sometimes messy and confusing world of crushes. We’ve got three letters:

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0:00 What to expect in this video

00:47 This week’s letters 

1:22 Letter 1: “Can I be friends with my crush?”

2:50 Response to Letter 1 begins 

4:43 How we use B&W thinking to protect ourselves

9:00 Failure is not regression 

12:21 Script: “We can’t be friends” 

13:02 Letter 2: “I’m in love with my co-worker”

14:45 Response to Letter 2 begins

15:55 What’s spiking my Hayesy senses 

18:30 Stop hoping he’s going to change

 20:59 Finding the love you deserve

21:31 Letter 3: “I’m not sure I want to marry my fiance” 

22:43 Response begins 

24:45 Pros of couple therapy 

25:41 Hayes’s thoughts on “forever”

27:25 “Relationships are hard”

28:00 What your crush means

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