welcome back to the podcast!! in this episode, we’re talking about beauty, discipline, confidence, perfectionism, and why how you show up for yourself matters more than people want to admit.after posting a tiktok about why i think it’s important to look cute every day, someone commented that we should “decenter aesthetics”.tbh yes beauty culture can be exhausting, but there’s also a huge difference between consumerism and genuinely investing in yourself.i get into:✨why looking good affects how people treat you✨beauty vs consumerism and where the line is✨pretty privilege, discipline, and self respect✨why waking up early matters more than people admit✨perfectionism as a strength instead of a flaw✨how confidence is built through action✨romanticizing your life without losing yourself✨the glow from within vs chasing external validation✨the “young hoe” era and protecting your peacesometimes looking your best is about alignment, confidence, boundaries, and becoming your best self.if you’re on your glow up journey, trying to lock in, or learning how to invest in yourself without burnout, this episode is for you.enjoy & dont forget to tweet/ig story me a screenshot of you listening!MY NEW WEBSITE!! Shop merch, sign up for my newsletter, book a coffee chat, & more: http://stellaraeherself.comGet $1000 off the health coach certification program I'm doing with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263I edit using Riverside! https://www.riverside.fm/?utm_campaign=campaign_5&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=rewardful&via=stella-holtshop my new glo up merch!! https://stellarae.myspreadshop.com/instagram http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastlisten to and/or support the podcast: https://anchor.fm/stella-raetiktok: http://tiktok.com/@stellaraeherselftwitter: http://twitter.com/stellaraegoodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-raemy fav books/products/health: https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellaraemy current filming set up:camera: https://amzn.to/4cEQiLOmicrophone: https://amzn.to/3Z2A5gctripod: https://amzn.to/3AEmxgKring light: https://amzn.to/3XxZrShbox lights: https://amzn.to/4e1Q1Ubportable light for phone: https://amzn.to/3XxZspjlisten on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id125561818200:00 why looking cute every day matters01:10 the tiktok comment that started this conversation02:05 saving your cute clothes for “someday”03:00 why wearing your nice things changes your energy03:45 how looking good changes how people treat you04:40 beauty, discipline, and self respect05:50 the habits that actually make you glow06:45 boundaries, confidence, and personal standards07:45 where beauty becomes draining instead of empowering08:40 beauty culture vs consumerism09:15 knowing your personal line with self care10:00 why i stopped getting my nails done10:45 knowing when to log off social media11:10 glow from within vs overdoing aesthetics11:50 natural beauty, alignment, and peace12:10 why adults need to wake up earlier13:10 perfectionism is actually a strength14:15 growth mindset vs fear of failure15:30 how perfectionism helps you improve16:20 confidence, swag, and not settling for mediocre17:40 why looking good sets the tone for everything18:10 investing in yourself without guilt19:00 beauty appointments, self care, and soft life moments19:45 the “young hoe” era and freedom20:00 protecting your peace and loving your own company20:45 knowing your “happy edge” with beauty and self care21:20 when to step it up vs when to scale back22:00 temporary discomfort for long term results22:20 fitness updates + spring reset mindset#StellaRaePodcast