Once you are vulnerable and somebody shuts you down because they don’t know what to do with it, you’re going to have double reactions: “Oh, I shouldn’t have done that.”

That is a clue that, number one, he might be wrong for you — he just can’t get you. But more than that, he’s simply not used to it.

He doesn’t know what to do. He’s afraid. He’s afraid that if you’re crying, it means he did something wrong.

The shift is this:

“My power, when I cried, had a profound effect on him.”

Say that to yourself. Let yourself notice — “Whoa, I just had a profound effect on him. I cried. I must have been vulnerable.”

Check in with yourself:

• Are you leaning back?

• Are you letting the tears fall freely without anger or blame?

  
  

Breathe. Open up. Stay with yourself.

Your emotions are natural — they’re part of your feminine energy. You don’t need to push or perform. Simply allow yourself to feel, to open, to let the energy move through you.

And if a man says something like “Don’t cry,” shift the story inside yourself:

• He’s not angry at me — he’s scared.

• He doesn’t know what to do with my emotion.

• But my emotion is powerful. It’s not wrong.

  
  

Say to yourself, “Thank you for being here with me while I feel this.”

This is how you create deeper connection — not by shutting down or blaming, but by leaning in to your own truth and letting him witness it.

If this resonates with you, imagine having a safe, supportive space to practice these shifts every week.

That’s exactly what you’ll find on Siren Island — my official course and community where we dive into feminine energy tools, live coaching, and powerful truth-telling practices.

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Love, Rori