We can “have our own backs” before, during, and after triggering or stressful situations.
Before you enter the stressful/triggering situation/environment, try this:
- tell yourself the truth: “I don’t want to go.”
take control of the decision to go: “I’m deciding to go.”decide the minimum amount of time you’re willing to be there: “I’m willing to be there for 20 minutes or until I… “While you’re there, try this if you get triggered:
- excuse yourself to a quiet place or to the restroom
take two rapid breaths through your noseacknowledge the trigger: “I’m triggered right now.”describe the physical sensations of stress in your body: “My chest is tight and my back’s sore.”tell yourself: “Once I’m alone again, I’ll take care of myself.”buy yourself time to process before you react/respond to what someone says/does: “I’m going to process everything and I’ll circle back when I’m ready.”After you leave the triggering situation/environment, try this:
- ask your body: “What do you need?”
exercise?journalinghug/affectionmore breathing?talk to someone?rest?do something creative?after you’ve calmed your body, get curious about what triggered you - “Oh, there’s the story I’ve had about needing her approval to feel worthy.”I invite you to click on the link below to book your complimentary happy hour call:
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