Recognizing the value and worth of all people, knowing that there is no spectrum of value, opens us up to feeling more compassion and empathy and acceptance of others. When we can recognize and embrace our own value, we can move into a greater space of compassion and confidence for ourselves as well. Separating out the difference between value and contribution is where we sometimes get hung up on both of these processes, and that is an understanding that is definitely worth stepping into as it helps us to move forward in our own lives.

Learning how to coach yourself on a daily basis is an important tool for helping you to align the life you are living with the life you really want to be living. Today I share some of my favorite strategies that I use to increase my awareness around my thoughts so that I can gain clarity around the experiences I am having and learn how to better show up the way I really want to more often.

Our brains have a natural tendency to always look for what is fair and what is equal. But when we're working to create a more intimate, close relationship, fair and equal is destructive. When our brain is keeping score of who is doing what to make sure it is fair, we are creating a transactional relationship, and that isn't going to create the deeper intimacy that we are seeking. Learning instead, to look for what is needed in our relationship rather than what is fair will do amazing things to move our relationships forward.

The relationship circle is a concept that helps us to stay in our own lanes and resist the temptation to try and take control of things that aren't ours to control. When we more clearly understand how to allow the other person the space to work through their own struggles and challenges and show up empathetic, supportive, and kind, we can start tapping into the intimate partnership relationships have the possibility of becoming.

This week my husband, Sione, joins me as we share a recent experience we had in which we had the opportunity to step into some pretty honest communication. It took a lot of vulnerability, courage, and awareness for both of us to create this experience, but it ended up being a beautiful exchange. Our hope is that by sharing how we are stepping into better communication, you can understand how you can as well.

Circling back around is a technique that my husband, Sione, and I use in our marriage that allows us to apologize better and show up more as the partners that we really want to. We incorporate the concepts of awareness, acknowledgement, apology, and application to increase our connection and communication. This episode delves into these concepts more depely and helps you understand how you can become more the person you want to be.

Forgiving someone who has hurt us can seem like a herculean task sometimes. The pain can run deep and wide and it can feel that if we forgive that we are condoning the behavior that was so painful to us. And yet, forgiving is the path to peace and progress. Learning to let go of the pain and lean into the love exemplified by Christ is one of the purposes of forgiveness. There is a stronger and better you waiting on the other side.

So many of us unintentionally engage in passive-aggressive behaviors, and it's hurting our relationships. Today we are going to talk about 18 different ways that these behaviors show up. When we create greater awareness around our own passive aggressive behaviors, we can start to clean them up and start healing our relationships.

When we want/need to have a tough discussion with someone, we can have a tendency to blame and accuse the other person, which generally tends to lead to defensiveness and a fight. In this podcast I'm sharing with you a tool I use to help communication around difficult circumstances that allows us to share what we're experiencing without blaming, and creates a safer space to discuss tough things.

There are times when we feel as though our cup is so low that we don't have anything left to give, and then we need to check out of our lives long enough to replenish and refill. But what if we could get to a place where we always have more than enough and are in a constant state of overflow, never running out? Maybe it's possible. Let's talk about it!