This week, we’re diving into dating patterns, gut instincts, and the uncomfortable truth that sometimes… it’s your trauma playing matchmaker. We break down a listener letter from someone who thought she finally found a unicorn — until he bailed out of nowhere. Was it anxiety? Or was her intuition picking up on something real?

We talk about the difference between anxiety and intuition, why emotionally available partners can feel “off,” and how repetition compulsion makes you chase familiar pain — not because you’re broken, but because your brain is trying to fix the past. Spoiler: it never works.

Plus: Fuck That Guy Summerfest continues with a sweaty mustache bro who’s out here raw-dogging the sidewalk with bad boundaries, peak audacity, and zero self-awareness.

We get into:

• Trauma as a matchmaker

• Repetition compulsion in dating

• Anxiety vs. intuition — how to tell the difference

• Ghosting, self-trust, and breaking the cycle

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