On this week’s episode of The Waves, Slate senior editor Shannon Palus talks with Heather Havrilesky about the divine tedium of marriage. They discuss Heather’s book, Foreverland and the explosive response the book initially got (especially when Heather called her husband “a heap of laundry”). Later in the show, they dig into what to do when your husband is truly being a little bit of a patriarchal jerk.  

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In this episode, Rachelle Hampton and Candice Lim are joined by writer, comedian and Glamorous Trash host Chelsea Devantez to break down this watershed year of celebrity memoirs. The trio crowns the best and the worst titles, dissect what separates a good memoir from a great one, and reveal the shocking figure who has appeared in way more memoirs than you’d expect.
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The Year in Celebrity Memoirs

On this week’s episode of The Waves, we say goodbye by contemplating a key word of the podcast - feminism. Slate senior producer Cheyna Roth and original Waves host June Thomas discuss what feminism means, the historical problems with the word, who should get to call themselves feminist, and so much more. 

Endorsements and Discussed in Episode:
A Place of Our Own by June Thomas
Between Two Wars by Cheyna Roth
In Defense of Lean In Feminism on The Waves
We Were Once a Family by Roxanna Asgarian
What the Hart Family Murders Reveal About Foster Care on The Waves
The Lady Vanishes

In Slate Plus: What is the most feminist holiday?
 
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What is a Feminist, Really?

On this week’s episode of The Waves, why can’t the feminists all get along? Slate senior producer Cheyna Roth is joined by Danielle Kurtzleben, NPR political correspondent and author of the Substack, This F**king Job. They dig into what went wrong with Sheryl Sandberg’s book Lean In, why it wasn’t all completely wrong, and how to stop giving anti-feminists the ammo they need to attack.   

In Slate Plus: We’re talking May December! 

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Clips Used:
“Sheryl Sandberg: Women Must Learn to ‘Lean In’” - ABC News
“I bought the book Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg” - Sarah Tollemache
“Girl boss culture gotta go” - Rachel Turner 

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In Defense of Lean In Feminism

On this week’s episode of The Waves, we’re bringing out the dead girls. Everywhere you look in popular culture there seems to be a new movie, TV show or true crime documentary detailing the mystery of yet another woman’s death. At least, that was how author and guest Alice Bolin saw things when she wrote her book Dead Girls in 2018. She sits down with Slate senior producer Cheyna Roth to unpack what has - and hasn’t - changed in dead girl culture (from Twin Peak’s Laura Palmer to our persistent obsession with Elizabeth Short aka The Black Dahlia) and what this fixation says about all of us.
In Slate Plus: What was really going on inside the Playboy Mansion. 
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On this final episode of our Golden Bachelor recap episode of The Waves, Gerry’s makes his decision but maybe loses the audience along the way. 

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