From September 11, 1998 Oprah Winfrey Show: Iyanla Vanzant, author of "In The Meantime:  Finding Yourself And The One You Want" and "One Day My Soul Just Opened Up," talks about how to love yourself and counsels women in the audience about how to change what you believe, in order to get what you want. Iyanla also talks about how she connects with her spirit.