In this episode of the Anxiety Matters podcast, it's all about anxiety, people-pleasing, and the shift from FOMO to JOMO, or the Joy of Missing Out. Drawing from their personal experiences, BZW and BZE engage in a spirited conversation about the transformation many have undergone since the pandemic and how it has reshaped their preferences regarding social interactions and personal well-being.

BZE reflects on her own journey of both embracing solitude and finding joy in staying home during the pandemic. She shares anecdotes about how she created memorable staycations for her family in lieu of travel, creatively transforming their home into various thematic experiences. This exploration leads to a discussion about the profound changes in societal behavior regarding social commitments influenced by isolation and technology. They articulate how the pre-pandemic FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) has shifted for many to JOMO, highlighting how some individuals have developed a newfound appreciation for being at home or engaging in solitary activities.

The dialogue naturally transitions into the difficulties faced by individuals with social anxiety and their tendency to agree to social plans out of a desire to please others, even when it doesn't align with their true feelings. They examine the slippery slope of being overly accommodating, noting how it can exacerbate anxiety and lead to a cycle of flakiness. They emphasize the importance of mindfulness in handling social invitations, advocating for setting boundaries and honoring one’s own needs while nurturing relationships.

HIGHLIGHTS:

0:59 Discovering JOMO and FOMO

6:18 The Impact of Social Anxiety

12:54 Understanding People Pleasing

20:10 Balancing Personal Preferences

26:24 Podcast Dynamics and Personal Growth

27:35 Key Takeaways for Listeners

mentioned in this episode:

The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome

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Bonnie Zucker Ph.D.(west) Website

Bonnie Zucker Psy.D. (east) Website

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