Conflict. Woof.
As someone who was raised in a home with constant conflict (but no model for how to actually deal with it in a healthy or productive way), I learned to see it as completely destructive – and to be avoided, at all costs.
But, as I bop along in life, one thing has become clear to me:
If you want to hit your goals, do what you love, and be yourself… you gotta learn how to handle this stuff.
I know it can be tough (I'm right there with you), so today I'm talking to Dr. Jen Fry, who's got this on lock ✊🏼
Jen is a Sports Geographer, tech founder, TEDx speaker, and sought-after speaker and educator. Her firm, JenFryTalks, specializes in transforming organizational dynamics by addressing how conflict and culture shape leadership and overall business outcomes.
She's also the author of I Said NO: How To Have Boundaries And Backbone While Not Being A Jerk: The No-Bullsh*t Guide to Setting Boundaries, Speaking Up, and Being Unbothered by Other People's Feelings.
An expert on conflict and confrontation, in this episode she explains what conflict really tells us, and how to deal with it – in a way that serves everyone.
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🕙TIMESTAMPS 🕙
00:00:00 - Intro
00:02:40 - Sports Geography, intersectionality, and conflict
00:07:40 - Why Jen decided to get into "conflict work"
00:12:37 - Gate 6 (Conflict) in HD
00:17:06 - The #1 reason conflicts don't resolve
00:18:29 - What Jen asks people to help them feel heard
00:19:16 - How to answer someone's question when they seem hostile
00:23:38 - How to address aggressive behavior w/o being reactive
00:29:07 - The solar plexus, emotions + confrontation
00:31:27 - Growing up in a non-conflict household
00:34:51 - Before reconciling, ALWAYS do THIS
00:36:27 - Success stories!
00:39:31 - Do you really need to resolve it…?
00:42:23 - What to do if people don't support you doing what you love
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CONNECT WITH JEN!
📚 Grab Jen's new book! https://www.amazon.com/Said-NO-Boundaries-No-Bullsh-Unbothered-ebook/dp/B0F9W4WN28
💻Jen's website: https://jenfrytalks.com/
📷Jen's IG: https://www.instagram.com/jenfrytalks/
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