Katy Butler was dedicated to supporting her parents at the end of their lives and acting as their part time caregiver and full time medical advocate. But the experience taught her just how hard it is to craft a good death in the highly medicalized environments in which most of us die. Discovering how hard it is to keep control over our choices at the end of our lives, she wrote a beautiful book honoring her parents and making a case for a better way of dying. In sharing their stories, we are given a window into what stands in the way of our wishes being honored in this most precious time in our lives. She now speaks and works for changes in end of life care, convinced that we can, and should, do better.