Lessons from a Quitter

This week I want to talk to you about why sometimes you just need to throw yourself the party. You should always make time to celebrate yourself and since I always want to be an example for you, I'm throwing a party next week and you're invited!

This week I want to talk to you about being selfish. This is kind of a hot topic but I want to argue that you can't help others until you help yourself. Really tuning into your needs and asking what you can do to move yourself a little closer to what you want every day is not a big lift. So if you're always putting everyone else's needs before yours and always putting yourself last, give this episode a listen.

On this week's episode, I'm sharing the lessons I learned from our month in Wyoming. Some of these are lessons I've been learning and relearning for awhile and one totally blew me away.

On this week's episode, I talk with Kathryn Finney, a former Yale-trained epidemiologist turned blogger turned investor and philanthropist. Before Wordpress even existed and you had to print out photos and then scan and upload them online, Kathryn created her blog, The Budget Fashionista. After running that for many years, she sold the blog and founded digitalundivided, a social enterprise focused on helping Black women own their work. She then went on to found and manage Genius Guild, a $20M venture fund. At the onset of the pandemic, she wanted to do more to support Black-women owned businesses so she founded The Doonie Fund, giving out micro-investments from her own personal investment. Most recently, she published Build The D*mn Thing: How To Start A Successful Business If You're Not A Rich White Guy, in it she empowers entrepreneurs to take advantage of their unique networks and resources. Kathryn has such an incredible quitter story and I can't wait for you to hear more from her on the episode.

On this week's episode, I talk with Zubin Pratap, a recovering lawyer turned entrepreneur turned software engineer. After over 14 years in international corporate law, Zubin went into commercial roles and then eventually taught himself to code at 37 and became a software engineer at Google at 39. Today he is still working as an engineer and educator and spends nights and weekends privately coaching committed career changers on how to transition to tech. Zubin is a prime example of how to pivot in your career and follow your dreams but also how you need to shift your thoughts along the way.

Find Zubin here:

• Free webinar: https://futurecoderstraining.com
• LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/zubinpratap
• Twitter: @ZubinPratap
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5GcpG4iD0Rtwr5llQPZ9Qg

This week, I dive into emotional maturity. Most of us live in emotional childhood, meaning we want everyone else to fix how we feel. Spoiler alert: there's a bit of tough love coming so prepare yourself. I like to use the analogy of a car accident. If you get hit by a car, the accident is not your fault but it's your responsibility to do the work to heal, to go through PT. Life is not fair. You will never control the things outside of you. But you can control how you react to what happens to you. In this podcast, I teach you the difference between emotional maturity and emotional childhood, how your emotions affect your actions, and how to take responsibility for your own life.

This week on the podcast I have three of my current students join me to talk about the program. I can only sell you on the program so much and so I thought it would be helpful to hear it directly from the people in it. Each one of these ladies came in with different problems seeking different paths and yet, thought work and working on mindset has changed each of their lives in a big way. If you've wanted to know what Pave Your Path can offer you, this episode is for you.

This week I want to talk to you about why it's okay to change your mind. Part of my brand is wanting to change the connotation around quitting because all quitting is is just changing your mind. Can you imagine if we forced ourselves to stick with things we liked when we were younger the way we do with our careers? Your favorite food at 6 years old was ice cream so that's your favorite food for the rest of your life. It's absurd when we think of it like this but we think the same way about our jobs. So this week I want to talk to you about how it's normal to change your mind… about anything.

This week I want to talk to you about why you should go after those big, scary goals. I've already done an episode on destination addiction so you should know that the reason isn't because of what you'll get when you accomplish the goal. There's more to it than just the outcome. So this week I want to offer that it's the journey, not the destination, that's worth it.

Too often, we're stuck in automatic thinking. Our brain just adopts the beliefs and thoughts it was fed from society. It becomes unconscious. Just a repetitive loop of thoughts in the background of our head. But if we're going to create the lives that we truly want to live we have to learn how to think on purpose. Whenever I teach thought work, I often get questions like "okay, I have the thought I wanna change, now what?" So this week I want to help you identify the thoughts to change and teach you how to practice new ones - this exercise is one of my favorites and it is truly life-changing.