Let's cut through the comforting narratives and examine a common behavioral pattern with a sharper lens: the stark difference between how anger is managed in professional settings versus domestic ones. Many individuals can navigate challenging workplace interactions with remarkable restraint, only to unleash significant anger or frustration at home shortly after. Why does this disparity exist?

Common psychological explanations trot out concepts like "stress spillover," "ego depletion," or the home being a "safe space" for authentic emotions. While these factors might play a role, they feel like half-truths—neatly packaged but ultimately failing to explain the targeted nature and intensity of anger displayed at home. This analysis proposes a more unsentimental approach, rooted in evolutionary biology, game theory, and behavioral science: leverage and exit costs. The real question isn’t just why we explode at home—it's why we so carefully avoid doing so elsewhere.

The Logic of Restraint: Low Leverage in [...]

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Outline:

(01:14) The Logic of Restraint: Low Leverage in Low-Exit-Cost Environments

(01:58) The Home Environment: High Stakes and High Exit Costs

(02:41) Re-evaluating Common Explanations Through the Lens of Leverage

(04:42) The Overlooked Mechanism: Leveraging Relational Constraints

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First published:
April 1st, 2025

Source:
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/G6PTtsfBpnehqdEgp/leverage-exit-costs-and-anger-re-examining-why-we-explode-at

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