Life in Relationship

ILMS 19 – Ten Minutes of Consolation

Consolation – "…the comfort received by a person after a loss or disappointment; a person or thing providing comfort to a person who has suffered…" (google dictionary)

Ten minute truth #1 – There are many and various losses and griefs of life

Ten Minutes Truth #2 – There are two types of consolation we can offer people:

The wrong way – Job 2

The Jesus way – John 11

Ten Minute Truth #3 – The power of showing up

Philippians 2:1-2

Ten Minutes Truth #4 - The Spirit intercedes

Advocate, Comforter, Counselor

The value of words of restoration

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ILMS 18 – YA: With

We often formulate our ideas of God based on our ideas of people.

Psalm 46:7 7 The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress.

• This is a refrain of Psalm 46
• Refrain: something repeated

Question: Why might this be a useful chorus to repeat to ourselves or one another in our own lives?

What kinds of things happen in the Psalm and in our lives that draw us to remember and need God? What kinds of things cause us to forget God or set God aside?

God with us = Never alone, even at our loneliest, God in the middle of everything

Spiritual truth- We have a "With Us" God

Biblical Proof:

Zephaniah 3:17

What does God enjoy watching you do in life?

Joshua 1:9

Where is God going with you today?

Psalm 23:4

What kinds of shadows is God walking through with us?

Consider how God is with each person in these passages and what that means for us:

Judges 6:12

Matthew 28:20

Isaiah 7:14

Proverbs 18:10 - running to God to be with Him

The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous man runs into it and is safe.

Drawing Near = running to our fortress and strong tower

https://blog.cph.org/read/4-ways-to-draw-near-in-the-new-year

ILMS 17 – Ten Minutes of Agape

With Pastor Matt Schuler

What in the world is Agape?

Ten Minute Truth #1 - Agape = sacrificial love

Sacrificial love v love for my pizza

What do we do when relationships disappoint?

Ten Minute Truth #2 - Agape = love that isn't disrupted by anything

Romans 8:38-39 – What can separate us from God's Agape Love?

Bethel Music – You Make Me Brave

https://youtu.be/MLgpFMWboYw

Ten Minute Truth #3 - Agape = no preference

Matthew 5 –brave love of those we don't really want to love

Brave love against prejudice

Ten Minute Truth #4 - Agape = there when we fail

John 21

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Show notes:

The nations rage, the kingdoms totter; he utters his voice, the earth melts. – Psalm 46:6

What images come to mind from this verse?How do people generally picture the end of the world?

Hebrews 1:1-3

Just like us, God speaks in different ways, speaking different messages at the different times we need them. Sometimes God speaks loud and sometimes God speaks soft.

Examples of God's voice in the OT-

Find the example in each, how and where is God speaking.What do we learn about God and His character from the passage?What's the message and why does the person need it?

Moses and bush – Exodus 3

David asking to build a temple – 2 Samuel 7

Eli and Samuel – 1 Samuel 3

Elijah and small voice – 1 Kings 19

How do we hear God's voice?When does God speak loud in life figuratively and when does He speak soft figuratively?

How do we use our voices?What kinds of things do we say and do each day which speak God and do not speak God?

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ILMS 15 – Ministry Talks: 6 Dynamics of Ministry and Marriage

Vocation and amplification

Marriage Dynamic 1 – What's Love and Respect Got to Do with it?

criticism and sensitivity

questions and practical suggestions

Marriage Dynamic 2 –They appreciate me!

Communicate early and often:

Ministry is not less when done at home

State what you need

Assume the best

Get very creative

Marriage Dynamic 4 – I don't want to burden him/her!

The crazy caregiver cycle

What all needs your time - block days and creating time

Marriage dynamic 5 – But we have no money!

I wish we had just a little more

The miracle of a paycheck

Honoring provision

The struggle of debt (Ministry Talks - Finances and Budgeting -https://youtu.be/g4uIlLk4arQ

Marriage Dynamic 6 – The Spiritual Mountain top and the Spiritual Desert

Tending to faith and Co-conspirators

I Love My Shepherd, Marriage and Family page - https://ilovemyshepherd.com/marriage-and-family-1/

Gottman Institute - https://www.gottman.com/

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ILMS 14 – Ten Minutes of Joy

With Matt Schuler

For the moment and eternally

Psalms emphasis on Joy, worshipful

John 16:22 – Jesus's promise of Joy in Him, no one can take away

Grief transformed – looking to the Psalms

James 1:2-3 – joy in trials…for real?

Delight Biblically related to time with God, awareness of God working, time in God's Word

Matthew 28 – the resurrection of Joy

Paradox and joy

Matthew 25 – humility and joy, abundance in joy, finding our place in joy

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Show notes- YA: Help

Fun Question: What kinds of New Year's resolutions do people make?

- Health

- Money

- Relationships

- School/Work

Psalm 46:1-5, focus on v. 5

The sandwich of Help in Psalm 46, verse 1 and 5

Look at one example in the Bible of needing help and not asking for it, and one of wisely asking for help:

Exodus 18:13-17

Acts 6:1-6

What do you need help with?

Challenge: make a resolution and include who you will ask for help from

Ministry Talks 12 – Wellness for the Church Work Student

Physical wellness

Intellectual wellness

Spiritual Wellness

Emotional Wellness

Relational Wellness

Vocational Wellness

Wisdom from students

Wisdom from professors

Wisdom from other church workers

Special thanks to:

Julianna Shults, YA Corps - https://www.lcms.org/young-adult-corps

Dave Rueter, author and ministry leader

Deaconess Kristin Wassilak, Concordia University Chicago

Celina Haupt

Madalyn Short

Irene Swift

Special topic to come:

Financial Wellness – understanding student loans, considering alternatives

https://lfcu.everfi-next.net/student/dashboard/lfcu/paying-for-college

ILMS 11 – YA: Glad

YA series – ilovemyshepherd.com/ya

Psalm 46:4

4 There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy habitation of the Most High.

What do you picture the place where God dwells?

Where does God live?

We are His habitation!

Why this matters…

Sometimes life feels like a big ball of Christmas lights

What can God do with that giant ball of Christmas lights?

Psalm 16:8-10

A psalm of David

What do you remember about David?

David was secure in God alone even after he made his own mess of life and life messed with him.

What makes our hearts glad?

What makes God's heart glad?

Who holds your ball of lights with you?

Challenge:

Name one person who you can trust in to help untangle your Christmas lights with you.

Name on person who you can be that person for today.

Jesus makes Glad. Jesus makes Joy.

ILMS9 - The Truth about Mental Health: Suicidality

Suicide Prevention Hotline -

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Special guests: Brandon Hamilton, student, hiphop artist; Joshua Mertz, teacher

Podcast Outline

Brandon's Song

The Ocean of Social Media

Body Image

John 10:10

Making faith your own

Just be the friend – be there for one person

One Last Breath on YouTube - https://youtu.be/KEV9ZPqKWqw

Koinonia groups

Sources of Strength - https://sourcesofstrength.org/

Brandon's Lyrics –One Last Breath

Have you ever been so off track

That every breath you wish was your last

Wished you could put on a plastic mask that could change the fact that your past

Is hurting your present self so bad that you never laugh

Unless you're in the presence of people so they don't always have to ask

If you're okay or why your face is red and your eyes always look sad

You can't be mad cause they care but you hate explaining it drags

You back to the place you don't wanna go anymore because of it leading to

All of the puddles of blood that you made on the floor from the lines on your wrist when you slashed

Do you live in darkness?

Heart ripped up from hardships?

Shadows creeping up closer every day and you're the target

True love lost makes you jump off the edge into this dark cliff

Or you're not cute enough you bruise and cut until your wrist is hard skin

Whatever the situation is please take a second and listen

You're way too special to visit

The grave and let your life quicken

There's so much beauty in and out. Don't shake your head like there isn't

Open your eyes and take my hand and maybe let it this vision

You and I may not know each other but both have been through some pain

I knew the ruthless game

That Lucifer played

Doubt grew into my brain

Hate and jealousy had preyed especially like flu in veins

I was truly a fool to blame

The Christ of whom for you was slain

What I'm saying ain't fake

I relate because I've been grey

Not so great and my brain was raging with hate and making me crazed

Each day I was in pain and afraid I would waste away

This is what I would say until I learned I was saved

I'm getting sick of fighting for what I want. There's no more defense

I'm tired of the well-deserved punishments that the lord has sent

I miss just being bored to death

It's better than getting more depressed

Cause everything's been crashing around me. My life's been torn to shreds

More than less

It's sorta been

A glorious mess

No more respect

I'm lying on the ground, Satan's above me and his sword descends

It's way too heavy for my chest

I'm forcing breaths

Record and send

Ev-er-y error that I have made, make the Internet full, I'm a royal pest

I'm used to saying "Jesus Christ" to curse

I need to see your light in church

But I am hurt, this fire burns

You need to redefine the terms

Instead of bleeding, crying, worse

Turn it to healing, smiling. Work

me into a teen disciple on earth

That would preach your life and serve

I thought then the dark storm clouds had their way with me

Patiently waiting ain't saving so I went and prayed on my scraped up knees

It's amazing, he came to me majorly changing the way I see

Hate has a cage up here while his grace took my heart and makes it beat

Back when I was saddened feeling hopeless I figured out

I should open my ears to the biggest mouth

That spoke and it made me lift my frown

I'm bigger now

With Him I'm proud

Im gifted, how?

He's given to me all his scriptures

Delivered his gifts no doubt

I've forbidden the sin and don't sit and pout

From god our creator

He gave us his son the savior

Today is the day we made up our brains and prayed for our haters

Get away from thangs that negate you to raise up to praise our maker

He's what let me feel like a giant when ripped like a piece of paper

Happiness is magic when you haven't had it! No adjectives

Can describe just how vast all this passion is cause he grabbed our sins

Took it with him, extracted it, threw it at Satan's advocates

Our Lord isn't your average patient weak little pacifist

Even in your darkest time

It's hard defining dark from light

To spark the fire starts inside

With knowing you're never too far from Christ

Our martyr tried with his hardest might

He fought and died for all our lives

But still lives inside your heart and mine

So you aren't confined insular in this darkest of fights

Suicide Prevention Hotline -

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

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