Life in Relationship

Episode 3 – Mystery of Church

A reading from the Mighty & The Mysterious, pg. 214 – a little glimpse into the Church on Earth

The Church = people, community, life together

Perfect & Far from Perfect

Broken & Redeemed

Order and organization + Family Life

How is the church mysterious like family?

How would the church look different if we treated it like a family?

Family life -> church life

Affection

Ephesians 5

Song of Songs

Value of each person

Vulnerability

Connecting activities/rituals

Celebrating Pentecost ideas:

https://blog.cph.org/read/to-the-church-on-her-birthday

Eating together and learning/growing together

Impact of criticism, contempt, isolation, and dysfunction

What questions do you have about the mystery of the Church on Earth?

Podcast Question – What is a relationship that has influenced you?

Jeanie, mentor and friend

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Episode 2 – Mystery of Relationship

Intro: God as the Great Connector

• mystery to God's connecting work
• the gift of God's connecting work

Know and Being Known

Genesis 1

Genesis 2:18-25 – the creation of marriage, not just marriage

Knowing with God

• the connection of grace to knowing – forgiveness, questions, confessing our stuff, telling him our difficult emotions and pain
• What could we ask God if we had no shame before Him?

Knowing with our Family and Friends

• Is there anyone you feel you can be your true self with and still be loved and accepted?
• What does that relationship look like that helps us know we are known and it's that place of acceptance and grace?

Knowing in the Church

• God's idea for giving us a place to be known and be safe
• How do we know each other in the church than in the people of God differently outside of that?
• What depth should there be in the relationship of believers?
• How do we build up that knowing in the Body of Christ?

How does hiding (Genesis 3) impact knowing?

Safety

The difference between Known and Safe

Safety in development

Safety within the home

Safety in knowing we aren't alone in belief, being honest with what isn't safe in the church

Podcast Question – What is a relationship that has influenced you?

My mom -Looking at the process of relationship

Welcome to Season 3!

Episode 1 – The Mighty Mystery of God

4 Episode series:

The Mighty Mystery of God

The Mighty Mystery of Relationships

The Mighty Mystery of Prayer

The Mighty Mystery of the Church

Episode Design- this mystery's impact on our relationship with God, our relationship with others, and our relationships within the church

Mystery of God 101

It's time to become OK with questions.

God is not deceptive.

God is mighty. He is bigger than we are.

What is the impact of the mystery of God on my relationship with God?

The place of mightiness

The place of honesty

The place of control

The place of knowing

What is the impact of the mystery of God on my relationship with other people?

Conversation about creation and the Creator

Admitting we are uncomfortable, don't know, or don't understand

What is the impact of the mystery of God on my relationship with the community of the church?

Imagine if we could have an open place to ask our questions and admit we don't have all the answers

We have to take off the masks of good and right and holy, so we can be ourselves and ask our questions

God is both powerful and personal. He doesn't just have to fit in one box.

Is God in the &?

Colossians 3:11 – the ALL of Christ

The podcast question: What is a relationship that has influenced you?

Name change time!

I Love My Shepherd -----> Life in Relationship

What's coming at you this season?

Where do I get the resources?

First episode drops September 10th.

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ILMS25 – WII: Prodigal Mercy

Release Date: May 14

Special Guest: Paula Isakson, Faith Family Reunions

Paula's Story

The "I Don't Know" Moment

The connection between childhood experience and faith development

We all have shame and grace moments

Lies we believe and the whiny voice

God writes our testimonies

Restoration is better than what we started with

Law as a shape for grace

Looking forward to the reunion in heaven

Shame is nothing in Jesus

Who helps you sort through Who God is?

Faith Family Reunions

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ILMS24 – YA: Still

Release Date: May 7

Psalm 46:10-11

Let's take a poll –

How many of you want to live your best life?

How many of you want to live a junky life, or even a so-so life?

What do people need for their best life? (Consider as a group or on your own.)

Maslow's Hierarchy of needs

https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html

We look at this list and can see some of our problems in the spaces on the pyramid

• Where are my friends? Do I have them?
• Worried about money for college or even food and our homes
• We might struggle with some sadness or depression
• What the heck am I here for? What should I do with my life?
• In down moments, we wonder if we're really worthwhile, if we're loved.

We start to feel anxious, certainly don't feel like we're living that best life.

Our #1 Need is…knowing God.

Knowing we have a real present God.

Our pyramid forgot its foundation.

Let's find the foundation in Psalm 46:10-11:

"Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!"

1. 11 - The Lordof hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress.

Heidi's Hierarchy of Need

https://drive.google.com/open?id=1kPUYvfeXnRg6NIf-9-Xd8icQRCo53Jr-

Here's the thought I want you to remember today:

God has no needs. He just wants to know you.

And God is really our only need.

To get to the Stillness - less anxiety, feeling better, less overload and stress, and frustration, we need to Know God, walk this life with Jesus.

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IMLS 23 - Ten Minutes of Compassion

Ten Minute Truth #1 - Compassion assumes some discomfort

Ten Minute Truth #2 - Compassion includes the "and" of truth and mercy

What about discipline and truth?

Psalm 119:77 -Let your mercy come to me, that I may live; for your law is my delight.

Ten Minute Truth #3 - compassion includes a "but"

Nehemiah 9:16-19a

Ten Minute Truth #4 – love them anyway

We are going to need it ourselves

Mark 6

Matthew 9

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ILMS 22 – Altogether Beautiful: Middle Schoolers and Teens

Altogether Beautiful Identity

Concept of the Sense of Self

They are asking: What are my personal values and beliefs? What are my goals? What are my ideas? Can I share them?

Ask: What they think about a current event? A big topic?

Build trust by listening, with no judgement, freedom to disagree, gentle guidance/boundaries

Dealing with comparison

Say: You are beautiful. But also You are strong. You are smart. You messed up. You are forgiven. You can figure this out. I'm happy to help. Tell me what you need.

Altogether Beautiful Friendship

Teach social skills: learning to listen, valuing conversation, asking questions, what demands a text, what is a snap chat, social media post, etc. what is public and private, humor v making fun,

Teach friendship skills: showing up when someone needs them, friendship is different than teamwork, friendship is different than similar interests, trust and confidentiality, listening to know, inviting and accepting invitation, encouragement

Find our "Others":

What do you think a good friend looks like?

What part does forgiveness play in friendship?

What part does accountability and boundaries play in friendship?

Where is Jesus the perfect friend when others fail us?

Altogether Beautiful Faith

Jesus in everything

I Spy God at work

Ask: What is God up to? Where do you see Him? What do you think He wants from you? Where is He sending you?

Intentionally Drawing Near

Big theological concepts are important, relationships are more important

ILMS 20 – Ministry Talks: Friendship and Ministry

1 Samuel 14:1-7 - Jonathan and his armor bearer

Step One of Friendship: Prayer

Step Two: Admitting friendship isn't easy

Friendship will continue to be a challenge as long as we walk the earth

- God = relational, Genesis 2:25

- Satan likes isolation

- dual relationships

- Ministry and friendship are both personal

Step Three: Vulnerability = walking into a situation exposed

- no hiding

- Boundaries with flexibility

How do we drop the armor satan would put on us and pick up God's armor so we can walk vulnerably into relationships?

1) Do the inviting

2) Know there will be hurt and pain

3) Two things that grow relationships – awkwardness and forgiveness

4) Addressing expectations directly, having uncomfortable conversations

5) Finding a script

Step Four: Mindfulness = awareness, bringing what is unconscious to consciousness

- consider the dynamics at play

6 things to be particularly mindful of for friendship in ministry

1) confidence and confidentiality

2) Misunderstandings and assumptions

3) Differences

4) Baggage

5) Power dynamics in ministry

- Address these honestly and upfront

6) Confusion of spirituality

Resources: Uninvited by Lysa Terkheurst

SWF seeking BFF by Rachel Bertsche

Focus on the Family article about friendship for teens - https://www.focusonthefamily.com/pare...

Articles on friendship:

The Four Myths of Friendship https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...

Bring me a Friend, Lord! https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...

Tending Friendship https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...

Dessert Night https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...

Moving and friendship – addressed further in episode 15

ILMS 21 – YA: Brought

The best way to make sense of God's work in destruction is to remember what He is done and Who He is.

Psalm 46:8-9

Come, behold the works of the Lord, how he has brought desolations on the earth. He makes wars cease to the end of the earth; he breaks the bow and shatters the spear; he burns the chariots with fire.

Brought

Desolations

End to war

• The grey area of destruction
• God does destroy and allow destruction, Ecc 3, God created for our benefit but He will work in destruction to reveal Himself, without Good Friday there is no Easter
• Hebrew for desolations = waste or horror
• (Shawmah) to (shawbath)

Come behold the works of the Lord

• what is there to behold that the Lord does?
• He place of rememberance in getting through life's hard stuff
• Brainstorm-

God creates

God provides

God disciplines

God watches over

God changes - hearts and history

God saves

God brings in rest and restoration

Brought Israelites out of Egypt – Exodus 14-15

What were the hard parts (the destruction and loss) and where was the rest (victory)?

Brought His people into the Holy Land - Joshua 6

What was hard and what was rest?

Brought Jesus to the earth – Luke 1:26-2:40

What was hard and what was rest?

Brought the disciples to Jesus – Luke 5:1-11; Matthew 4:18-22

What was hard and what was rest?

Brought Jesus back to his throne – Acts 1

What was hard and what was rest?

Will Bring Jesus back to earth – Matthew 24; Revelation 21

What was hard and what was rest?

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