Life in Relationship

Grouchiness in Marriage

Questions:

What makes you grouchy? Especially in marriage, keeping a household, and family life?

How does the law motivate in marriage, or does it?

How does the gospel motivate more fully or better in marriage?

What does the gospel look like when you'd like to see a change in your marriage?

Wellness exercise:

Identify one change you'd like to see in your marriage. Consider what the Law would communicate about that problem and what the Gospel communicates about that problem. Where might you start with a Gospel oriented solution?

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Who are Your Marriage Rockstars?

Who do we look to in our culture(s) or as couples to tell us what marriage should look like or be like?

Read John 6:67-68. Where does God tell us to go?

What difference does the Word of God make in discerning what our marriages should look like?

Who are your marriage rockstars?

Wellness exercise:

If you currently have marriage mentors, give them a call, a card, or a text to say hello and check in. Try asking them a question like, "Who taught you what you know about marriage?" or "What Bible verses or passages have been helpful for you to understand marriage better?" If you do not have marriage mentors, identify together who might make a good couple to ask for mentoring from… then ask. Define what that relationship will look like for both couples involved – is it casual - just watching to grow - should there be check ins, etc?

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Podcast episode: 22

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The Power of Pursuit

What are your communications like on a day to day basis?

What parts of the statement, "Pursuit is still necessary," do you agree or disagree with?

What benefits are there to still pursuing our spouse in marriage?

Song of Songs 8:5-6

What gets in the way of sacrificially pursuing our spouse, both personally and for people in general?

Wellness exercise:

Consider two ways you can sacrificially pursue your spouse this week and engage in carrying one of them out in the next seven days.

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Always Growing...in Marriage

Riding the Storms

What storms of life come into people's marriages?

What kind of storms or changes have you experienced in your marriage?

Matthew 8:24-25

How can we remind one another we are in it together?

Wellness exercise:

Practice praying together once a day, holding hands, for 5 days straight.

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The Marriage Sandwich

What might your marriage sandwich check-ins look like?

What rituals of connection do you already have?

How does your stage of life impact your ability to connect and check in with one another?

How do you ease the transitions in your days?

Wellness exercise:

Consider times you have connected well and other times you have not connected well. Acknowledge both to one another and ask God to forgive the hurts and praise Him for the successes.

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Marriage and the Fallen World

How does the culture around you view people?

How do you think those cultural views impact marriages, your own and others? In other worlds, why does the fallen world matter in marriage?

John 1:16

What opportunity do you see in recognizing the fallenness in your own marriage? Where do you see grace alive in your marriage?

Wellness exercise:

Consider three ways you can bring more grace and forgiveness in your marriage today.

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Same and Different

What is the same about the two of you?

What is different about the two of you?

Ephesians 2:10

What are the tattoo discussions in your marriage?

How can do we grow by talking things out and how do we grow by letting something go for a time?

Wellness exercise:

Celebrate your sameness and your differences together today in some way.

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Unpacking the baggage of the word "Church" What is it? Body of Christ, believers, gathering around the Word together The church in transformation

Very basic: Matthew 18:20 local community Gathering/meeting together

Moderate concept: Little c and Big C Church The family unit as mini-church Encouraging and building one another up Hebrews 10:24-25 Acts 2:46-47 Colossians 3:16

Advanced: We will all look different as individuals and as churches We have different functions and contexts Romans 12:4-5

Question of the day: Is God too serious?

God has a sense of humor, which is one of the reasons we have a sense of humor.

Why do we have a hard time seeing God as playful?

Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, "The LORD has done great things for them." Psalm 126:2

Psalm 126

God's promise of salvation includes our mourning turning to laughter.

Laughter is good for our physical and mental health.

Ecclesiastes 3:4: "A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance."

• There is a time for everything, including laughter
• We are created by God to have a sense of humor
• it's good for our physical and mental health

He who sits in the heavens laughs Psalm 2:4

Psalm 2

This is not yin/yang. There is no equal power. God laughs at our attempts to live our own way. It's better to live his way.

Question of the day: Is God too serious?

God has a sense of humor, which is one of the reasons we have a sense of humor.

Why do we have a hard time seeing God as playful?

Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, "The LORD has done great things for them." Psalm 126:2

Psalm 126

God's promise of salvation includes our mourning turning to laughter.

Laughter is good for our physical and mental health.

Ecclesiastes 3:4: "A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance."

• There is a time for everything, including laughter
• We are created by God to have a sense of humor
• it's good for our physical and mental health

He who sits in the heavens laughs Psalm 2:4

Psalm 2

• This is not yin/yang. There is no equal power. God laughs at our attempts to live our own way. It's better to live his way.

How can you say yes to God and yes to laughter today?

Episode 15 – Ten Minutes of Journey

Growth-orientation of the faith walk:

God bringing me from where I'm at to where He wants me to be.

Long history of journeying in Scripture, since the garden of Eden and onward:

Hebrews 11:9-11

1 Chronicles 29:15 – Old Testament understanding of journeying

Distraction culture, good tools, and dialing into the journey

Journey through many different landscapes

Looking for different directions

Proverbs 3:5–6

Proverbs 16:9

We anguish over making the right decisions sometimes too much.

Take the next faithful step, and trust that God's got this.

Romans 8:28

Moving to thinking spiritually

Ephesians 2:19-20