We made it to 200 episodes, and we’re celebrating with a twist — it’s an Ask Me Anything attachment style episode! 🎤✨ Sarah hands over the mic (well, kind of) to guest host and client Molly McGuire, who asks allll the juicy questions about attachment styles, dating, online ghosting, anxious pet parenting, and the wild ride of personal growth.

From Sarah’s earliest manifestation goals (hello, $6M TV host dreams) to the real-deal transformation that came from healing her attachment style, we dive into the myths, patterns, and hard truths about what it takes to become securely attached — and why it’s never about being perfect.

Expect laughs, real talk, and the kind of emotional honesty that makes you feel seen. Plus: Can your dog help you become securely attached? (Spoiler: yes. And his name might be Drake.)

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

In this deeply personal episode, I’m sharing something super fresh: I was just diagnosed with ADHD this week. Yep, it’s official—and I’m still very much in the thick of processing it all. Join me as I talk about how I got the diagnosis, what it’s bringing up in my marriage (yep, we’re a double ADHD couple!), and how it’s reshaping how I see myself, my past, and my parenting.

From the messy car-packing fights to the guilt of passing traits onto my kid, I’m unpacking it all—raw, unfiltered, and with a lot of heart. I’m also sharing how healing my attachment style gave me a head start on understanding ADHD, and why sensitivity and distractibility might just be superpowers.

If you’ve ever wondered how ADHD shows up in adult relationships—or if you're just looking for real talk about neurodivergence, emotional growth, and love—this one’s for you.

👉 Plus, don’t miss the free worksheet I created to help you feel your emotions—a foundational skill for both ADHD and secure attachment. Get it at sarahcohan.com/emotions

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Who would you be with secure attachment? Would life be a fairytale? Drama-free? Maybe… boring? 😅 In this episode, we unpack the myths we tell ourselves about becoming secure—like needing a whole new friend group or quitting your job. (Spoiler: You might get to keep more than you think.) Tune in to explore what secure attachment really looks like—yep, even the messy parts—and how it might surprise you.

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. 

Gentle parenting. Conscious parenting. Attachment parenting. No matter your style, they all ask one thing: get comfortable with big emotions.

Easier said than done—especially if you grew up stuffing yours down.

In this episode, we talk about what really happens when your kid has a meltdown and your insecure attachment kicks in (hi, anxious fixers and avoidant silencers 👋). Spoiler: it’s about making your own emotions valid. This is big, beautiful, messy work.

If you’d like help with the first step of naming your emotions, download this free worksheet here: https://www.sarahcohan.com/emotions

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com

Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/

If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. 

Ever feel like all hell breaks loose when someone pulls away? Panic. Fear. “Are they leaving me forever?!” In this episode, I answer a juicy question from Instagram about how to communicate your attachment style—especially when you're spiraling. We talk about asking for what you need (even when it feels terrifying), why that tiny request can change everything, and how a hug from my husband and a win with my boss taught me the power of speaking up. Spoiler: It’s awkward at first, but it so pays off.

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

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Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/

If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. 

Ever been on the receiving end of a sudden outburst from your anxious preoccupied partner? Or maybe you are the one who panics and lashes out when you feel someone pulling away?

Here’s the deal: It’s not about anger—it’s about fear.

When someone with an anxious preoccupied attachment feels rejected or senses abandonment, their nervous system goes into panic mode. The thought of losing connection feels like life or death, and in that desperation, they might use harsh language, lash out, say things they don’t mean, or even reject someone’s bid for attention before they can be rejected first.

The work is about rewiring their fear of abandonment and expanding their emotional tolerance for discomfort—without self-sabotaging.

Let’s break it all down in this episode. Tune in.

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

I used to think that once I became securely attached, life would be smooth sailing—no triggers, no fights, just endless happiness. Turns out… that’s not how this works.

Every client I work with wants to fix their attachment style—stop being clingy, stop avoiding, stop fearing. But here’s the twist: the secret to secure attachment isn’t about changing your patterns. In fact, trying to force change can backfire.

Tune in to here the answer to creating secure attachment.

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Is it intuition or just your attachment wounds talking? In this episode, we’re diving into the messy, confusing, and totally relatable struggle of trusting yourself while breaking free from old relationship patterns. From dating dilemmas to parenting choices, cultural expectations to family judgment—it's hard AF to do what feels right when everyone else has an opinion. Whether you’re running, clinging, or struggling with trust (hello, FA), this episode will help you tune into your intuition and stop letting attachment wounds call the shots.

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com

Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/

If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Do you feel like you’re carrying emotions that aren’t even yours? That’s codependency in action! Growing up, we were taught to take on other people’s feelings—sometimes with real consequences if we didn’t. It’s a classic insecure attachment trait, but here’s the good news: You don’t have to keep doing it. In this episode I explore how this trait shows up and how to start letting it go. Imagine how much lighter (and freer!) you’d feel if you let go of emotions that were never yours to hold. Let’s get into it!

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com

Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/

If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Embarrassment? Nope, never heard of it. At least, that’s what the dismissive avoidant would love you to believe. But deep down (like way deep down), they have a huge fear of being shamed or criticized. As natural perfectionists, they’re laser-focused on how others see them—because if they just get everything right, then everything will be fine... right?

In this episode, we’re talking about why embarrassment is particularly cringe for the dismissive avoidant, why ignoring emotions doesn’t actually make them disappear (sorry!), and how embracing the uncomfortable can lead to healthy connection. Trust me, you don’t want to miss it!

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com

Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/

If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform