Lit AF Relationships

By Sarah CohanSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement Relationships

Lit AF Relationships episodes

August 05 257. Listening to defend vs listening to connect
Are you listening to defend yourself with your partner instead of listening to connect? In this episode, I break down why you feel the need to defend yourself when your partner is sharing. I explain which attachment styles tend to do this. And then I share how you can work on listening to connect with your partner. When you drop this habit and start helping your partner feel seen and heard it really changes your relationship for the better. Plus you can use this tool in other areas of your life like work and with family. Tune in to drop the defensiveness.
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043
Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com
Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
21 min
July 29 256. Stop Offering Solutions to Your Partner
Is your partner shutting down when you’re offering solutions to them? On this week’s podcast episode, I explain why offering solutions to your partner who is just trying to share with you isn’t working. They feel like you’re telling them what to do. You don’t feel like your help is being appreciated. I share how you can change it from a conversation that leads to disconnection to a conversation that leads with connection. Tune in to have healthier communication today.
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043
Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com
Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
19 min
July 22 255. How to Not Get Swept Up in Your Partner's Emotions
Do you get caught up in your partner’s emotions when they are angry or disregulated? Do you feel the need to match their emotion? When we react to our partner’s emotions, it actually just means we have two disregulated people instead of one. I talk about why we do this and simple ways to not get swept up in them. Tune in to start having more productive conflict with your partner.
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043
Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com
Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
19 min
July 15 254. How do secure people set boundaries?
If you have an insecure attachment style, you likely don’t set boundaries or set them from a reactionary place. In this episode, I break down how the different attachment styles approach or avoid setting boundaries. Then I talk about how a securely attached person sets boundaries.
Tune in to hear why secure people use them to sustain their relationships and my simple process to setting boundaries in a loving and supportive way. It’s an important tool to help you create a better relationship.
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043
Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com
Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
20 min
July 08 253. Forgiveness After Betrayal
On today’s episode, I talk about the important process of forgiveness after betrayal. Betrayal can feel really painful, and when we experience it we often tell ourselves really painful stories like I am not enough or I am not worthy. This episode covers how to get started on the path to forgiveness I share the surprising first step that doesn’t actually even include forgiveness. But it will help you get started.
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043
Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com
Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
16 min
July 01 252. It’s safe to have needs in your relationship
If you grew up with an insecure attachment style you likely have a story about what it means to have a need. The dismissive avoidant believes they are a burden for having needs. The anxious preoccupied believes their needs will get in the way of having a close relationship. What ends up happening is nobody gets their needs met. In this episode, I share how to start seeing your needs as neutral and healthy to have. Tune in to learn how to have a healthy relationship with your needs.
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043
Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com
Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
19 min
June 17 251. The cost of reacting to our emotions
In this episode I slow down a real life example of a coaching session I had this week with a couple working on their healthy communication. I share how you can take a small tiny moment with your partner that would usually escalate conflict and instead reduce the conflict between you so you can actually have a conversation. When we stop reacting to our own emotions that’s when we can treat our partner with the love and respect they deserve. Tune in to start having healthy productive conflict today.
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043
Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com
Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
21 min
June 10 250. Seven things I wish I had known before I got married
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043
Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com
Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
24 min
June 03 249. Relationship math that causes defensiveness
If you’re getting caught hashing over the details and disagreeing with your partner’s version of the story you are stuck in relationship math and it’s hurting your relationship. When we nitpick the details our partner has shared we’re losing out on the big picture, how they’re feeling. I share the most important thing to work on to get out of relationship math so you can start connecting with your partner. Tune in to learn how to drop this harmful habit.
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043
Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com
Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
18 min
May 27 248. How to get rid of blame in your relationship
In this week’s episode I talk about how blame can be used in a relationship to take us out of our own power. I share how I have blamed my partner (and still catch myself doing this) to avoid feeling discomfort. It’s an easy escape hatch, but it robs us of our own power and independence. I explain what to use instead in order to feel more empowered in your relationship.
Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043
Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com
Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I’d love to help drop the doubt that you’re not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Book a free 60-minute healthy relationships roadmap call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
18 min

About Lit AF Relationships

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Lit AF podcast is your resource for healing and transforming attachment styles. Sarah Cohan is a relationship and communication coach. She helps folx end old relationship patterns like people-pleasing and codependency in order to show up confidently in secure relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style. Tune in to start healing today.