Ever feel like feedback is just code for "you're not enough"? You're not alone. If you have an insecure attachment style, receiving feedback can feel like punishment—like proof that you're failing, falling out of favor, or just not doing it right. We get defensive, take it personally, and totally miss the growth, care, and connection that feedback is meant to bring.

In this episode, I’m sharing my own journey with feedback (yes, even in my marriage!) and how shifting your mindset can turn feedback from a threat into a gift. Tune in to learn how to stop taking it so personally and start using it to thrive—at work, in relationships, and beyond.

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

If you thought becoming securely attached meant pretending you have no needs (looking at you, Anxious Preoccupied), never asking for space again (hello, Avoidant), or blindly trusting someone overnight (nice try, Fearful Avoidant), then… we need to talk.

In this episode, I break down the biggest misconceptions insecurely attached folks have about “doing the work” and why forcing yourself to abandon your old patterns isn’t the answer. Spoiler: You don’t have to become a totally different person to be secure—you just need better communication tools. Let’s get into it! 🚀

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Dating can be tricky for anyone, but when you have an insecure attachment style, it can feel like a rollercoaster. Whether you’re anxiously chasing connection, avoiding commitment, or stuck in the push-pull of a fearful avoidant cycle, dating often brings out old patterns that just aren’t working.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

Anxious daters – Why they ignore red flags, say yes when they mean no, and prioritize being in a relationship over the actual person.

Avoidant daters – Why they tend to avoid dating, take forever to commit, and struggle with knowing what they really want.

Fearful avoidants – How they crave connection but also fear it, leading to trust issues and a lot of internal conflict.

The anxious-avoidant cycle – Why these patterns keep repeating and how to break free.

If dating has ever felt frustrating, confusing, or downright exhausting, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to ditch the insecurity and date with more confidence!

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Attachment parenting might sound hard, but honestly, it’s a mix of deep connection, big emotions, and hoping coffee can get us throught the day. This week, we’re diving into the four pillars: setting boundaries (and sometimes being flexible about them), creating space for vulnerability and big feelings (like crying over the wrong color cup—again), modeling how to meet needs (even if it’s just five minutes alone in the bathroom), and embracing patience, because if attachment parenting had a slogan, it’d be, “Breathe through the tantrum, yours and theirs.” 

Join us for laughs, insights, and practical tips on how these pillars can strengthen your parenting game—chaos and all!

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Emotions are the original gateway drug—especially guilt and shame. In this episode, we unpack why my 20-year smoking habit wasn’t about the bad health effects but instead, it was about the delicious, twisted guilt behind it. Inspired by Carolyn Lovewell’s Existential Kink, we ask the big question: Can you actually get off on the reality that you’re bringing into your life? Spoiler: gratitude for your inner gremlin might just be the weirdest (and most effective) self-help hack ever. Tune in for laughs, existential dread, and maybe a kink you didn’t know you had.

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. 

Join us as we dive deep with Suzanne L’Heureux, Jungian life coach and founder of Diving Deep Coaching, who helps women in midlife uncover their true selves.

We explore:

• What is the Jungian Shadow, and why should you care?
• How shadow work reveals self-sabotaging patterns in relationships.
• Sarah and Suzanne’s personal journey with shadow work and the power of self-discovery.

It’s time to shine a light on your shadow and step into empowerment!

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Breaking up is rough—yes, even if you’re the one who pulled the plug. Now you’re left to rebuild, face the cringe-worthy emotions, and maybe (just maybe) figure out what you brought to the chaos. From anxious-avoidant drama to dismissive ghosting vibes, we’re diving into what the different attachment styles are bringing to the table. Let’s do the work so you can start attracting healthy, secure relationships—and leave those late-night "U up?" texts in the past.

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. 

Join my free workshop, Surviving and Thriving Your Divorce or Breakup on January 16th at noon. RSVP here for the zoom info: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/nN0qNVzORvS32g9RYtmMqg

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com

Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/

If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Fights, disruptions, and awkward moments happen in every relationship—but repair is the magic that brings us back together. In this episode, we’re diving into how different attachment styles approach repair (or avoid it!). Whether you’re an AP people-pleaser quick to fix, a DA avoiding the issue entirely, or an FA stuck between both worlds, we’ve got you covered. Plus, we’ll explore creative ways to repair: from heartfelt apologies to playful jokes, and even the power of a good hug. Tune in to learn how to rebuild connection, no matter your style!

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. 

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

Follow Sigrid Blom on Instagram: @sigfoot 

Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com

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If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. 

In this episode, we break down the difference between intuition and markers of insecure attachment, like emotional flooding, repeated patterns, self-sabotage, avoidance, and clinginess. Learn how to spot the quiet wisdom of intuition—it’s soft, surprising, and unattached to outcomes—and why it feels so different from the turbulence of insecurity. Plus, tips to hone your intuition so you can confidently navigate life and relationships. Get ready to trust yourself like never before!

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com

Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/

If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Ever feel like you’re talking to a wall when your partner shuts down? This episode dives into the many ways we emotionally check out—from silent treatments to disappearing into work—and why your partner might be retreating. We’ll help you flip the script: What are you making their shutdown mean about you? Learn how to offer support, space, or even a breather (without taking it personally). Plus, tips for keeping your own cool while they take the space they need. Don’t shut down—tune in!

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. 

Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043

Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com

Visit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/

If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/