In this episode, we’re talking to Vaughan Roberts. Vaughan is a pastor at St Ebbe’s Church Oxford, where he has been for 30 years. Here he shares his experiences of coming out as same-sex attracted and what he’s learned about sharing personal experiences with others. He explores whether it’s wise for all same-sex attracted Christians to come out, and some things to think about when we do share with others. We also discuss friendship and what Song of Songs can teach us about intimacy with Christ.

Resources mentioned

• Should All Same-Sex Attracted Christians Come Out? Vaughan Roberts
• True Friendship Vaughan Roberts
• Song of Songs 1:1-2:7 – “Better than wine” Vaughan Roberts
• Song of Songs 2:8-3:5 – “The season of singing” Vaughan Roberts
• Song of Songs 3:6-5:1 – “You have stolen my heart” Vaughan Roberts
• Song of Songs 5:2-6:3 – “Faint with love” Vaughan Roberts
• Song of Songs 6:4-8:14 – “Come away, my beloved” Vaughan Roberts

In this episode, we’re talking to Sam Allberry who works as a pastor and an apologist, and was part of the team that founded Living Out. Here Sam talks to us about how the church is supporting same-sex attracted Christians, which bits of the Bible he focuses on when he teaches about sexuality and why it is a gospel issue. We also chat about his recent books about singleness and sexual ethics and explore themes of consent, Christian community and the purpose of marriage.

Resources mentioned

• What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality? Sam Allberry
• Why Can't Christians Agree to Differ? Sam Allberry
• 7 Myths about Singleness Sam Allberry
• Why does God care who I sleep with? Sam Allberry
• The Plausibility Problem Ed Shaw
• From Shame to Sin: The Christian Transformation of Sexual Morality in Late Antiquity Kyle Harper
• Faithful: A Theology of Sex Beth Felker Jones

In this episode, we’re talking to Dani Treweek who is the chair of singlemindedconference.com and has recently completed PhD research into a theological ethic of singleness. Dani explains about her research into singleness in the church and unpacks some of the issues that we all need to think about in order to value and include single people in church life. She talks about how we can learn from historical Christian thinking that challenges our contemporary cultural blind spots and leads us into a richer understanding of God’s design for singleness, marriage and our sexualities.

Resources mentioned

·      Single Minded Conference

·      Liberty Sydney

·      On ‘Old Books’ and the Single Christian Life Dani Treweek

·      7 Myths about Singleness Sam Allberry

·      Breaking the Marriage Idol: Reconstructing Our Cultural and Spiritual Norms Kutter Callaway

In this episode, we have a fascinating conversation with Adam Curtis. Adam is a Curate in Sidcup and oversees evangelism at his church. In this interview Adam gives an honest, warm and hopeful account of how he came to terms with his same-sex attraction and applied the truths of the gospel to his sexuality. We also discuss his research on Queer Theology and the sexuality of Jesus.

Resources mentioned

• What is Queer Theology? Adam Curtis
• The Sexuality of Jesus Adam Curtis 
• Intimate Jesus: A Review Adam Curtis

For this episode, we’re chatting to Andrew Bunt. Andrew is part of the leadership team at King’s Church Hastings and Bexhill and is also a speaker and writer with Living Out. In this interview we explore his story as he sought to reconcile his faith and his sexuality. He covers coming out, forming views on what the Bible says about homosexuality, wrestling with the implications of biblical teaching, issues of identity and emotional dependency and advice on how we can do better to nuture godly intimacy.

Resources mentioned

• 'Who in Heaven’s Name Do You Think You Are?' Andrew Bunt 
• ‘Is My Sexuality Who I Am?’ Andrew Bunt 
• ‘Emotional Dependency’ Andrew Bunt
•  ‘Identity in Christ’ conference talks