Tony and Julie return from a hiatus to discuss the concepts of fibbing, emotional maturity, and narcissistic traits in individuals with ADHD. They delve into the science behind the fight, flight, freeze, or fib response, examining how fibbing serves as a self-preservation strategy. They highlight the importance of authenticity and sharing true selves to foster a sense of belonging. Using real-life examples and referencing expert insights, they encourage acceptance and emotional growth in managing ADHD traits. The episode concludes with personal anecdotes and a love letter to ADHD.00:00 Welcome Back After Hiatus00:46 Substantial Growth Retreat Explained01:16 Top ADHD Podcast Recognition02:16 Funny Client Story07:10 Emotional Immaturity and ADHD14:34 Managing Notifications and Missed Calls15:24 The Truth Behind Ignored Messages15:59 Embracing Integrity in Communication17:30 Understanding ADHD and Fibbing18:56 The Science of Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fib20:58 The Impact of Fibbing on Self-Esteem22:25 Authenticity and Belonging25:05 The Importance of Knowing Your Story30:10 Final Thoughts and Personal ReflectionsHead to http://love-adhd.com to learn more.

Tony and Julie welcome the 2024 American Ninja Warrior Women’s Champion, Addy Herman, to “Love, ADHD!” They discuss her journey with ADHD and how it's played a pivotal role in her training, competitive mindset, and personal growth. Addy shares insights into the challenges and triumphs of the American Ninja Warrior course, her battle with perfectionism, and how her ADHD diagnosis came as a turning point in her life. Addy emphasizes the importance of finding identity outside achievements and recognizing ADHD as a part of her unique strength. They also explore the nuances of training, nutrition, and mental health and provide valuable lessons on persistence, self-acceptance, and the transformative power of growth through discomfort. You can find Addy on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/addyherman.116/And follow her on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@addyhermanhttps://www.instagram.com/addyherman.116/00:00 Welcome to Love ADHD: Introducing Addy Herman00:44 Diving Deep: Addy's American Ninja Warrior Experience03:00 The Power of Focus: Competing with ADHD04:34 Unveiling ADHD: Addy's Personal Journey and Insights05:15 Embracing Failure: Learning and Growing Through Discomfort14:56 Identity and Success: Finding Fulfillment Beyond the Sport17:35 Exploring the Depths of ADHD and Identity20:02 The Joy and Challenges of Ninja Training20:39 Behind the Scenes: The Nervous Excitement Before Competing21:26 The Supportive Ninja Community23:05 The Fun of Filming and Preparing for the Show26:50 Training, Diet, and ADHD: A Personal Journey31:58 The Positive Impact of ADHD on Success33:36 Connecting with Addy: Social Media and Future Plans

Julie Lee and Tony Overbay, LMFT, scrap an episode they were planning on and instead get personal about their experiences and thoughts surrounding ADHD, medication, and handling societal perceptions. They share personal anecdotes related to the challenges of ADHD medication, including shortages, dosage adjustments, and the stigma attached to taking medication. They touch upon the impact of medication on daily functioning and quality of life, exploring the complexities of treatment options, including antidepressants and stimulants. They emphasize the importance of individualized care, and the potential benefits of early treatment and address misconceptions surrounding ADHD medication and addiction. Through their conversation, the hosts aim to provide insights, comfort, and encouragement to those navigating similar journeys with ADHD.00:00 Opening Banter and Humor Attempts01:22 Navigating Medication Shortages and Personal Experiences05:45 The Journey of Mental Health and Medication Adjustments08:06 The Impact of ADHD Diagnosis on Medication and Mental Health11:58 A Weekend Without Adderall: A Personal Story13:42 Navigating Medication and Self-Acceptance14:14 The Confusion Around Medication Reviews and Personal Experiences15:02 The Impact of Medication on Daily Life and Self-Perception16:30 Exploring Genetic Therapy and Future ADHD Treatments17:28 The Role of Lifestyle in Managing ADHD18:46 The Challenge of Maintaining a Perfect Routine for Mental Health21:10 The Power of Struggle and Embracing Discomfort23:32 The Complexities of ADHD Medication and Self-Identity25:20 Addressing the Stigma and Misconceptions Around ADHD Medication27:09 The Importance of Personalized Care in ADHD Treatment31:46 Looking Forward: The Journey Continues

In this week's episode, Julie engages in a candid and enlightening conversation with her close friend, Lindsey Harris. Lindsey is a school counselor who works with children diagnosed with ADHD and a parenting educator who helps parents navigate the experience.Lindsey, drawing from her expertise in counseling children with ADHD, offers valuable insights and practical advice throughout the conversation.Their conversation is filled with empathy, humor, and mutual understanding, creating a safe and empowering space for listeners to feel inspired and encouraged on their ADHD journeys as parents.Tune in to this engaging episode, in which Julie and Lindsey offer relatable perspectives, expert guidance, and heartfelt encouragement for anyone navigating life with children with ADHD.For inquiries, contact Lindsey Harris at [email protected] to http://love-adhd.com to learn more.

Tony and Julie engage in a candid and illuminating discussion about ADHD, particularly focusing on its implications for parenting. They share personal anecdotes and explore how ADHD can affect children's behaviors, such as inattentiveness, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. The conversation includes insights on the genetic aspect of ADHD, the importance of education for parents, and approaches for managing and supporting children with ADHD effectively. It also touches on the therapeutic aspects of ADHD, including the potential impact of medication, and highlights the importance of maintaining a positive parent-child relationship. With a mix of humor, empathy, and an informed perspective, Tony and Julie aim to destigmatize ADHD and empower parents and individuals dealing with it.00:00 Welcome to Love ADHD: The Podcast Intro00:09 Navigating Recording Challenges and ADHD Traits01:23 The Paradox of ADHD and Authenticity02:08 Parenting a Child with ADHD: Insights and Strategies04:04 Understanding ADHD Symptoms in Kids08:25 Hyperactivity and Impulsiveness: A Deeper Dive11:14 Empowering Parents: Education and Understanding ADHD15:33 Understanding ADHD and Anxiety: A Deep Dive15:57 The Impact of Labels and Accommodations in Education16:36 Exploring the Nuances of ADHD vs. General Anxiety18:40 Medication and ADHD: Insights and Personal Stories25:44 Parenting Strategies and Support for ADHD27:03 Discipline, Understanding, and Love: Key Parenting Approaches29:56 Concluding Thoughts: Embracing ADHD with Love and UnderstandingHead to HTTP://love-adhd.com to learn more.

Julie and Tony revisit the topic of “executive functioning” and explore what embracing “executive dysfunction” looks like. They discuss how individuals with ADHD know what tools they should be using to organize their lives; they struggle with executing these tasks consistently. They discuss strategies like externalizing to-do lists, setting up automatic payments, using password managers, and making processes enjoyable to combat inconsistency. They continue to advocate for acceptance and the creation of systems to support the brain processes for a more consistent approach toward task completion. And then the episode falls apart as Julie’s computer freezes and Tony rushes to capture a screenshot of Julie’s “frozen face” only to then realize the file was lost…until now!00:00 Introduction and Technical Difficulties00:11 The Lost Episode and ADHD Topics00:33 The Freeze Face Incident01:08 Recovering the Lost File and ADHD Experience01:35 Starting the Show and Sound Issues02:31 Discussing ADHD and Time Management04:08 Understanding ADHD Executive Dysfunction11:50 Strategies to Support Executive Functioning13:15 Muscle Memory and ADHD15:00 Embracing the Chaos: My Planner Journey16:11 Acceptance: Embracing the Present16:48 The Never-Ending Pursuit of More17:56 The Struggle of Being Enough18:37 The Value of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy20:45 The Generational Gap: Understanding Different Perspectives22:44 Speed Round: Quick Tips for Managing ADHD26:04 The Importance of Self-Credit and Handling Setbacks26:55 Closing Thoughts and FarewellHead to HTTP://love-adhd.com to learn more.

Join Julie and Tony in 'Love ADHD' Episode 17 (and a half, due to earlier technical issues) as they discuss the balance between structure and flexibility in their lives, their experiences with self-imposed structures, and how they're gradually transitioning to a more mindful approach to life. They mention their struggles with interactions, miscommunications, time management, and even their physical appearances. They reveal how setbacks are opportunities for self-discovery and share their growing acceptance of 'doing and being.' They also discuss how certain activities, such as pickleball and meditation, have therapeutic effects that help them stay regulated. This frank and open conversation revolves around their insights on relationships, careers, socially compliant goals, and validation. The hosts demonstrate resilience, humor, and unshakeable positivity through their ADHD journey.00:01 Introduction and Casual Banter01:03 Welcome to Love ADHD Episode 1701:20 High Forehead and Self-Image Discussion02:25 Continuing with Quotes from ADHD 2.002:53 Contact Information and Listener Engagement03:24 Exploring Quotes from ADHD 2.004:27 Personal Experiences and Reflections10:52 Technical Difficulties and Perseverance12:23 Continuing the Discussion on ADHD14:55 Embracing Emotional Freedom15:15 The Power of Humor and Personal Anecdotes15:52 Exploring Personal Growth and Self-Reflection16:17 The Balance Between Self-Care and Self-Improvement16:58 The Journey to Acceptance and Commitment20:27 The Impact of Structure on Personal and Professional Life20:42 Embracing the Hippie Lifestyle20:51 The Power of Now: A Personal Transformation21:20 The Role of Structure in Career Choices24:37 The Joy of Challenges and Problem-Solving27:30 Finding Peace in Every Step29:28 Conclusion: Embracing Opportunities for MindfulnessHead to HTTP://love-adhd.com to learn more.

Julie and Tony delve into the understanding provided by the book 'ADHD 2.0' and compare adult ADHD to a Ferrari engine with bicycle-strength brakes. They discuss learning to work with this energy and attention rather than attempting to control it. The paradoxical nature of ADHD is also explored - with traits often exhibiting as extremes in impulsive behaviors, punctuality, cleanliness, and emotional responses. The dialogue further touches on topics of rejection sensitivity and taking ownership of ADHD as part of their identity.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:33 Behind the Scenes: Podcasting with ADHD01:50 ADHD 2.0: The Book That Changed Everything04:19 Understanding the Paradoxical Nature of ADHD05:10 Strengthening Your Brakes: Strategies for Managing ADHD10:31 The Contradictory Tendencies of ADHD11:17 Interpersonal Relationships and ADHD14:24 Embracing Straightforwardness and Dealing with Abrasiveness15:17 The Role of a Therapist in Managing ADHD16:16 Understanding the Impact of ADHD on Relationships17:26 The Journey of Self-Awareness and Improvement with ADHD18:32 The Struggles of Dating with ADHD20:17 The Road to Emotional Maturity with ADHD21:44 The Paradox of Impulsivity in ADHD21:59 The Challenges of Controlling ADHD22:28 The Importance of Self-Acceptance in ADHD26:16 The Consequences of Impulsive Decisions in ADHDHead to HTTP://love-adhd.com to learn more.

Tony takes the reins solo in this episode as he returns the favor of Julie hosting last week. Tony explains Julie’s quote of him saying, “Kids are little narcissists,” and talks about ego-syntonic vs. ego-dystonic behaviors in children. He then shares the importance of positive connections, the effects of childhood trauma on adult health, the impact of ADHD on familial relationships, and more. Listening to this episode will also reveal the correlation between behavioral issues and emotional immaturity, how to grow emotionally, and an interesting perspective on childhood development stages. Furthermore, it discusses the findings from a pioneering study on adverse childhood experiences (ACES) and their influence on adult lifestyle and health conditions. Tune in to understand ADHD better and to appreciate the incredibly powerful role of love and positive connection in our lives.00:00 Introduction and Recap of Previous Episode00:27 Understanding Narcissism and Emotional Immaturity00:47 The Impact of Labels and Self-Perception02:11 The Role of Empathy in Relationships04:18 Exploring the Concept of Egosyntonic and Ego-dystonic Behaviors06:44 The Connection Between ADHD and Emotional Immaturity07:05 The Importance of Self-Confrontation and Ownership09:01 The Healing Power of Connection10:25 The Impact of Childhood Trauma on Adult Health15:56 The Role of Love and Connection in Healing16:32 Understanding the Rabbit Effect and the Grant Study20:38 The Importance of Feeling Heard, Seen, and Understood24:24 Conclusion and Preview of the Next EpisodeHead to HTTP://love-adhd.com (http://love-adhd.com) to learn more

Julie goes solo in this episode and reflects on the role of labels, particularly ADHD, and how to understand them better. She emphasizes viewing ADHD as a context, not a cause for certain behaviors. She shares personal experiences and thoughts about emotional immaturity, the development of narcissistic tendencies, and self-compassion. With an encouraging note, she reminds listeners that learning about ADHD is a journey of self-discovery and understanding that leads to greater success and fulfillment in life.00:00 Introduction and Absence of Tony00:51 The Power of Context Over Cause02:02 Understanding Labels and Diagnoses02:34 The Role of Labels in Behavior04:00 The Importance of Growth Mindset04:15 Exploring Narcissism and Its Implications04:58 The Spectrum of Narcissism07:39 Understanding Emotional Immaturity09:51 Taking Responsibility for Personal Behavior10:55 The Power of Self-Compassion14:00 The Root of Narcissism: Self-Loathing17:04 Understanding ADHD as Context, Not Cause20:04 The Importance of Interdependency22:08 Conclusion: Embracing the Journey with ADHDHead to HTTP://love-adhd.com to learn more.