Love, ADHD

Tony and Julie return from a hiatus to discuss the concepts of fibbing, emotional maturity, and narcissistic traits in individuals with ADHD. They delve into the science behind the fight, flight, freeze, or fib response, examining how fibbing serves as a self-preservation strategy. They highlight the importance of authenticity and sharing true selves to foster a sense of belonging. Using real-life examples and referencing expert insights, they encourage acceptance and emotional growth in managing ADHD traits. The episode concludes with personal anecdotes and a love letter to ADHD.

00:00 Welcome Back After Hiatus

00:46 Substantial Growth Retreat Explained

01:16 Top ADHD Podcast Recognition

02:16 Funny Client Story

07:10 Emotional Immaturity and ADHD

14:34 Managing Notifications and Missed Calls

15:24 The Truth Behind Ignored Messages

15:59 Embracing Integrity in Communication

17:30 Understanding ADHD and Fibbing

18:56 The Science of Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fib

20:58 The Impact of Fibbing on Self-Esteem

22:25 Authenticity and Belonging

25:05 The Importance of Knowing Your Story

30:10 Final Thoughts and Personal Reflections

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Tony and Julie welcome the 2024 American Ninja Warrior Women’s Champion, Addy Herman, to “Love, ADHD!” They discuss her journey with ADHD and how it's played a pivotal role in her training, competitive mindset, and personal growth. Addy shares insights into the challenges and triumphs of the American Ninja Warrior course, her battle with perfectionism, and how her ADHD diagnosis came as a turning point in her life. Addy emphasizes the importance of finding identity outside achievements and recognizing ADHD as a part of her unique strength. They also explore the nuances of training, nutrition, and mental health and provide valuable lessons on persistence, self-acceptance, and the transformative power of growth through discomfort. You can find Addy on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/addyherman.116/

And follow her on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@addyherman

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00:00 Welcome to Love ADHD: Introducing Addy Herman

00:44 Diving Deep: Addy's American Ninja Warrior Experience

03:00 The Power of Focus: Competing with ADHD

04:34 Unveiling ADHD: Addy's Personal Journey and Insights

05:15 Embracing Failure: Learning and Growing Through Discomfort

14:56 Identity and Success: Finding Fulfillment Beyond the Sport

17:35 Exploring the Depths of ADHD and Identity

20:02 The Joy and Challenges of Ninja Training

20:39 Behind the Scenes: The Nervous Excitement Before Competing

21:26 The Supportive Ninja Community

23:05 The Fun of Filming and Preparing for the Show

26:50 Training, Diet, and ADHD: A Personal Journey

31:58 The Positive Impact of ADHD on Success

33:36 Connecting with Addy: Social Media and Future Plans

Julie Lee and Tony Overbay, LMFT, scrap an episode they were planning on and instead get personal about their experiences and thoughts surrounding ADHD, medication, and handling societal perceptions. They share personal anecdotes related to the challenges of ADHD medication, including shortages, dosage adjustments, and the stigma attached to taking medication. They touch upon the impact of medication on daily functioning and quality of life, exploring the complexities of treatment options, including antidepressants and stimulants. They emphasize the importance of individualized care, and the potential benefits of early treatment and address misconceptions surrounding ADHD medication and addiction. Through their conversation, the hosts aim to provide insights, comfort, and encouragement to those navigating similar journeys with ADHD.

00:00 Opening Banter and Humor Attempts

01:22 Navigating Medication Shortages and Personal Experiences

05:45 The Journey of Mental Health and Medication Adjustments

08:06 The Impact of ADHD Diagnosis on Medication and Mental Health

11:58 A Weekend Without Adderall: A Personal Story

13:42 Navigating Medication and Self-Acceptance

14:14 The Confusion Around Medication Reviews and Personal Experiences

15:02 The Impact of Medication on Daily Life and Self-Perception

16:30 Exploring Genetic Therapy and Future ADHD Treatments

17:28 The Role of Lifestyle in Managing ADHD

18:46 The Challenge of Maintaining a Perfect Routine for Mental Health

21:10 The Power of Struggle and Embracing Discomfort

23:32 The Complexities of ADHD Medication and Self-Identity

25:20 Addressing the Stigma and Misconceptions Around ADHD Medication

27:09 The Importance of Personalized Care in ADHD Treatment

31:46 Looking Forward: The Journey Continues

In this week's episode, Julie engages in a candid and enlightening conversation with her close friend, Lindsey Harris. Lindsey is a school counselor who works with children diagnosed with ADHD and a parenting educator who helps parents navigate the experience.

Lindsey, drawing from her expertise in counseling children with ADHD, offers valuable insights and practical advice throughout the conversation.

Their conversation is filled with empathy, humor, and mutual understanding, creating a safe and empowering space for listeners to feel inspired and encouraged on their ADHD journeys as parents.

Tune in to this engaging episode, in which Julie and Lindsey offer relatable perspectives, expert guidance, and heartfelt encouragement for anyone navigating life with children with ADHD.

For inquiries, contact Lindsey Harris at [email protected]

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Tony and Julie engage in a candid and illuminating discussion about ADHD, particularly focusing on its implications for parenting. They share personal anecdotes and explore how ADHD can affect children's behaviors, such as inattentiveness, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. The conversation includes insights on the genetic aspect of ADHD, the importance of education for parents, and approaches for managing and supporting children with ADHD effectively. It also touches on the therapeutic aspects of ADHD, including the potential impact of medication, and highlights the importance of maintaining a positive parent-child relationship. With a mix of humor, empathy, and an informed perspective, Tony and Julie aim to destigmatize ADHD and empower parents and individuals dealing with it.

00:00 Welcome to Love ADHD: The Podcast Intro

00:09 Navigating Recording Challenges and ADHD Traits

01:23 The Paradox of ADHD and Authenticity

02:08 Parenting a Child with ADHD: Insights and Strategies

04:04 Understanding ADHD Symptoms in Kids

08:25 Hyperactivity and Impulsiveness: A Deeper Dive

11:14 Empowering Parents: Education and Understanding ADHD

15:33 Understanding ADHD and Anxiety: A Deep Dive

15:57 The Impact of Labels and Accommodations in Education

16:36 Exploring the Nuances of ADHD vs. General Anxiety

18:40 Medication and ADHD: Insights and Personal Stories

25:44 Parenting Strategies and Support for ADHD

27:03 Discipline, Understanding, and Love: Key Parenting Approaches

29:56 Concluding Thoughts: Embracing ADHD with Love and Understanding

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Julie and Tony revisit the topic of “executive functioning” and explore what embracing “executive dysfunction” looks like. They discuss how individuals with ADHD know what tools they should be using to organize their lives; they struggle with executing these tasks consistently. They discuss strategies like externalizing to-do lists, setting up automatic payments, using password managers, and making processes enjoyable to combat inconsistency. They continue to advocate for acceptance and the creation of systems to support the brain processes for a more consistent approach toward task completion. And then the episode falls apart as Julie’s computer freezes and Tony rushes to capture a screenshot of Julie’s “frozen face” only to then realize the file was lost…until now!

00:00 Introduction and Technical Difficulties

00:11 The Lost Episode and ADHD Topics

00:33 The Freeze Face Incident

01:08 Recovering the Lost File and ADHD Experience

01:35 Starting the Show and Sound Issues

02:31 Discussing ADHD and Time Management

04:08 Understanding ADHD Executive Dysfunction

11:50 Strategies to Support Executive Functioning

13:15 Muscle Memory and ADHD

15:00 Embracing the Chaos: My Planner Journey

16:11 Acceptance: Embracing the Present

16:48 The Never-Ending Pursuit of More

17:56 The Struggle of Being Enough

18:37 The Value of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

20:45 The Generational Gap: Understanding Different Perspectives

22:44 Speed Round: Quick Tips for Managing ADHD

26:04 The Importance of Self-Credit and Handling Setbacks

26:55 Closing Thoughts and Farewell

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Join Julie and Tony in 'Love ADHD' Episode 17 (and a half, due to earlier technical issues) as they discuss the balance between structure and flexibility in their lives, their experiences with self-imposed structures, and how they're gradually transitioning to a more mindful approach to life. They mention their struggles with interactions, miscommunications, time management, and even their physical appearances. They reveal how setbacks are opportunities for self-discovery and share their growing acceptance of 'doing and being.' They also discuss how certain activities, such as pickleball and meditation, have therapeutic effects that help them stay regulated. This frank and open conversation revolves around their insights on relationships, careers, socially compliant goals, and validation. The hosts demonstrate resilience, humor, and unshakeable positivity through their ADHD journey.

00:01 Introduction and Casual Banter

01:03 Welcome to Love ADHD Episode 17

01:20 High Forehead and Self-Image Discussion

02:25 Continuing with Quotes from ADHD 2.0

02:53 Contact Information and Listener Engagement

03:24 Exploring Quotes from ADHD 2.0

04:27 Personal Experiences and Reflections

10:52 Technical Difficulties and Perseverance

12:23 Continuing the Discussion on ADHD

14:55 Embracing Emotional Freedom

15:15 The Power of Humor and Personal Anecdotes

15:52 Exploring Personal Growth and Self-Reflection

16:17 The Balance Between Self-Care and Self-Improvement

16:58 The Journey to Acceptance and Commitment

20:27 The Impact of Structure on Personal and Professional Life

20:42 Embracing the Hippie Lifestyle

20:51 The Power of Now: A Personal Transformation

21:20 The Role of Structure in Career Choices

24:37 The Joy of Challenges and Problem-Solving

27:30 Finding Peace in Every Step

29:28 Conclusion: Embracing Opportunities for Mindfulness

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Julie and Tony delve into the understanding provided by the book 'ADHD 2.0' and compare adult ADHD to a Ferrari engine with bicycle-strength brakes. They discuss learning to work with this energy and attention rather than attempting to control it. The paradoxical nature of ADHD is also explored - with traits often exhibiting as extremes in impulsive behaviors, punctuality, cleanliness, and emotional responses. The dialogue further touches on topics of rejection sensitivity and taking ownership of ADHD as part of their identity.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:33 Behind the Scenes: Podcasting with ADHD

01:50 ADHD 2.0: The Book That Changed Everything

04:19 Understanding the Paradoxical Nature of ADHD

05:10 Strengthening Your Brakes: Strategies for Managing ADHD

10:31 The Contradictory Tendencies of ADHD

11:17 Interpersonal Relationships and ADHD

14:24 Embracing Straightforwardness and Dealing with Abrasiveness

15:17 The Role of a Therapist in Managing ADHD

16:16 Understanding the Impact of ADHD on Relationships

17:26 The Journey of Self-Awareness and Improvement with ADHD

18:32 The Struggles of Dating with ADHD

20:17 The Road to Emotional Maturity with ADHD

21:44 The Paradox of Impulsivity in ADHD

21:59 The Challenges of Controlling ADHD

22:28 The Importance of Self-Acceptance in ADHD

26:16 The Consequences of Impulsive Decisions in ADHD

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Tony takes the reins solo in this episode as he returns the favor of Julie hosting last week. Tony explains Julie’s quote of him saying, “Kids are little narcissists,” and talks about ego-syntonic vs. ego-dystonic behaviors in children. He then shares the importance of positive connections, the effects of childhood trauma on adult health, the impact of ADHD on familial relationships, and more. Listening to this episode will also reveal the correlation between behavioral issues and emotional immaturity, how to grow emotionally, and an interesting perspective on childhood development stages. Furthermore, it discusses the findings from a pioneering study on adverse childhood experiences (ACES) and their influence on adult lifestyle and health conditions. Tune in to understand ADHD better and to appreciate the incredibly powerful role of love and positive connection in our lives.

00:00 Introduction and Recap of Previous Episode

00:27 Understanding Narcissism and Emotional Immaturity

00:47 The Impact of Labels and Self-Perception

02:11 The Role of Empathy in Relationships

04:18 Exploring the Concept of Egosyntonic and Ego-dystonic Behaviors

06:44 The Connection Between ADHD and Emotional Immaturity

07:05 The Importance of Self-Confrontation and Ownership

09:01 The Healing Power of Connection

10:25 The Impact of Childhood Trauma on Adult Health

15:56 The Role of Love and Connection in Healing

16:32 Understanding the Rabbit Effect and the Grant Study

20:38 The Importance of Feeling Heard, Seen, and Understood

24:24 Conclusion and Preview of the Next Episode

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Julie goes solo in this episode and reflects on the role of labels, particularly ADHD, and how to understand them better. She emphasizes viewing ADHD as a context, not a cause for certain behaviors. She shares personal experiences and thoughts about emotional immaturity, the development of narcissistic tendencies, and self-compassion. With an encouraging note, she reminds listeners that learning about ADHD is a journey of self-discovery and understanding that leads to greater success and fulfillment in life.

00:00 Introduction and Absence of Tony

00:51 The Power of Context Over Cause

02:02 Understanding Labels and Diagnoses

02:34 The Role of Labels in Behavior

04:00 The Importance of Growth Mindset

04:15 Exploring Narcissism and Its Implications

04:58 The Spectrum of Narcissism

07:39 Understanding Emotional Immaturity

09:51 Taking Responsibility for Personal Behavior

10:55 The Power of Self-Compassion

14:00 The Root of Narcissism: Self-Loathing

17:04 Understanding ADHD as Context, Not Cause

20:04 The Importance of Interdependency

22:08 Conclusion: Embracing the Journey with ADHD

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