Love Marriage Again with Dr. Chavonne

One of the most important distinctions you need to be able to make in your marriage is what is healthy vs. what is unhealthy.

So much unhappiness and conflict arises when one or both of you are operating from a relationally UNhealthy place.

In our episode today I'm breaking down the most common unhealthy dynamics I see - both those that I would considered "marital neglect" and those that I would define as "marital aggress".

When you clearly understand what is healthy and what is not, you are more able to see yourself, your marriage and your partner more clearly.

You understand what's yours to own and work on, vs. the work that belongs to them.

You also open the door to breaking some of the dysfunctional patterns you may have grown up with as a child.

Also mentioned in this episode:

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Does your spouse sometimes feel like an enemy to you? Do you struggle to get on the same page about simple things? Find yourself always feeling like you are on the defensive with them? Does it feel like they look for ways to make things harder to you to get along?

If so, this episode will help you so much.

I'm breaking down the concept of the Enemy Mindset and how it's taking a toll on you and your marriage.

I also teach you a simple shift in your perspective to go from feeling like enemies to having more accurate and neutral thoughts about your spouse. This opens the door to you feeling better, and then ultimately having better interactions.

This episode will offer you relief for the heaviness and hardness of your marriage right now.

Also mentioned:

You can also work with me directly in one of my coaching programs and learn how to create a happier, more peaceful experience with your partner. I offer couples and individual coaching programs that teach you the mindset, skills and tools to have better communication and rekindle your loving connection. To schedule your call, visit: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

This one is a vulnerable and personal podcast about my own parenting challenges as my daughter enters her tween years. In several conversations I've had, I noticed the striking parallels between different seasons of the parenting relationship and different seasons of the marital relationship.

At the end of the day relationships are relationships are relationships.

As I've processed my own shifting dynamics as a parent, there are so many relevant lessons, take aways and helpful approaches that will support you in our own shifting dynamics with your spouse.

I walk you through a variety of valuable perspectives to help you navigate difficult moments with greater ease, and insight. I offer some specific tips and strategies you can use to keep yourself grounded and focused on the right things. I also help you understand some of your underlying fears and how to react differently to them.

Grab a coffee and let's connect with each other on this important conversation.

Mentioned in this Episode: If you're looking for help and support to improve how you and your spouse interact, and are ready to have an easier, more peaceful marriage, I invite you to book a private consultation with me where we will explore how my coaching program can give you the help and guidance you are looking for. BOOK YOUR CALL HERE

How do you lead yourself well in a challenging season of your marriage? What does it look like to still show up as your best, even when you are angry, hurt and upset? What are the standards you commit to holding yourself to, no matter what?

In today's podcast episode, we are diving into the topic of self leadership - showing up, doing what's right, with kindness, love and respect.

This concept is so important in order for you to create the experiences and positive changes that you want. Your ability to lead yourself well sets the tone for your marriage and can radically shift unhealthy patterns.

Today, I build upon two previous conversations I've had on this topic (see my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@drchavonne) and you'll walk away with a deeper understanding of it's importance and some tangible next steps to create some positive momentum in the dynamics with your spouse.

And if you're ready to create a marriage where it's easy to talk to each other and you feel seen, understood, and on the same page, I invite you to book a private consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode of the podcast we are having a sensitive conversation about the topics of grief, compassion and radical acceptance.

So many people struggle with what to do with their unmet expectations. The answer is to grieve.

So many people struggle with regret and shame for past choices. The answer is to have compassion.

So many people exhaust themselves trying to make their partner or marriage something different than what it is. The answer is to practice radical acceptance.

I break down each of these concepts today and show you what they mean and can look like for you in your marriage.

For more help and support moving things in a positive direction, I invite you to work with me privately in one of my coaching programs. To learn more and to book your complimentary consultation call, go to: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

We all have behaviors and actions we take that keep us from our goals. In marriage, there are likely things you have a habit of doing that keep you from experiencing the healthiest and happiest marriage possible.

In this episode of the podcast I break down some of the most common "bad" habits I see couples engage in. Underneath any behavior that keeps you from your goal is an underlying need. We will be discussing how to go beyond "will power" and "discipline" to change the foundation of how you operate so that forming more desirable and helpful habits becomes easier.

I walk you through a specific process for understanding "bad" behavior and leave you with a dose of inspiration to help you continue to do the work of creating positive shifts.

Also mentioned on this episode:

If you want to work with me inside of one of my coaching programs, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation. There you can share exactly what you want to work on, and I'll offer the exact process and support I can offer to help get you there.

Take the next step here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In today's podcast, we are diving into the experience of being STUCK. So many people come to me feeling like they are not making the progress they want. And it's a long-term experience for them.

If you have this same experience it's important to identify exactly where you are stuck. There are 4 specific categories of "stuckness" to consider. Once you have more information about where the bottle neck is for yourself, then you have the roadmap for making positive changes that move you forward.

So whether you feel stuck with changes you want to make within yourself, confused about whether to stay in your marriage, or feel like you are at an impasse with your spouse on certain issues, this episode will give you the clarity you need to make progress.

If you'd like to learn more about my coaching programs and how I can support you in getting "unstuck", book a complimentary consultation with me here:

Does your life feel like groundhog day, where you're just going through the motions day in and day out with little that brings you joy?

Or maybe the troubles in your marriage weigh you down so much it's hard to find joy in the rest of your life.

If so, this episode is for you. We are diving into the topic of how to create a more fulfilling life.

No matter what circumstances you currently find yourself in, there is a perspective, way of thinking and being that can help you create more contentment and fulfillment.

You don't need to wait for things to change, or your spouse to change in order for YOU to have a life that feels good to you.

It just takes a commitment to following through on the process I outline for you in this episode.

So grab your pen and journal and get ready to do things differently so that you can feel great about yourself and your life.

Looking for some 1:1 support on creating your joy-filled and more fulfilling life? I have openings in my private coaching program. Your next step is to book a complimentary consultation call with me to get to know each other better and make sure it's a great fit.

GO HERE to schedule your call: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

When you read the words, Giving Up within the context of marriage, one idea may come to mind - ending the marriage.

But before a couple ever gets to that point, there are other decision points where the action is to give up.

In this podcast episode I break down the 3 most common ways I see people give up - on trying, on the process of help, and the marriage itself.

For each, I break down the mindset and circumstances that lead to giving up, and the specific questions you want to ask yourself to determine if giving up is the best option for you.

Giving up is often a last resort because it feels like no other options are working or will work. This is something that should be explored fully with help and support and through a process that will give you clarity instead of keeping you stuck.

If you are questioning if your marriage will work, and would like my help determining what to do next, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

If you've ever wondered, what is marriage coaching, and exactly how does it work to improve a marriage, this episode is for you.

I share my own personal notes for how I move my clients from conflict and disconnection, to productive conversations and emotional closeness again.

There are 10 very specific, concrete skills, shifts, and approaches we take inside my couples coaching programs.

As you listen to me describe each one, assess in your own marriage, how well you are doing in these areas.

This IS the roadmap. There are no other steps needed to tangibly improve your marriage for good.

You'll have a crystal clear picture of what you could expect from coaching, and 10 huge things that will be better in your own marriage.

And to grab a spot to work with me now, schedule your initial consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/