Making Polyamory Work

Libby talks about the effect withdrawal patterns can have on our nervous systems, and how to navigate that if it is showing up in your relationship.

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"How could she ask for that?" is a phrase I have heard before. It's a phrase I've even said. But I firmly believe, it's okay to ask for whatever you want. The problem lies in whether or not your partner feels like they can say no. 

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Sometimes in our relationships we reach a point where something needs to change or it just won't work for us. But is that even possible? Or do you have to break up? Libby goes over two losing strategies that a lot of people try when they want something different from their partner than what they're getting, and offers what she believes is a better way to get what you want.

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By listener request, Libby talks about the one p*nis policy and why it's not a great idea (and the one time it's okay.) 

CN: language. Libby uses several words for the male genitalia on this episode.

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RECOMMENDED READING For the Love of Men by Liz Plank 

The Will to Change by bell hooks 

I Don't Wanna Talk About It by Terrence Real 

Playing Fair by Pepper Mint

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In her recent workshop Break Up Better, Libby answers a question from a participant: "How can I get the other person to own their part to help with closure [after a breakup]?"

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Libby has special guest Terry Real join her on the show to talk about how patriarchy does its work on our relationships, even for those of us who choose to do things differently.

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Libby blows up the idea that there is any difference between rules and agreements and offers some alternative ways to communicate and negotiate needs in polyamorous relationships.

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Break Up Better Workshop on November 30 at 7:30 PM: https://libbysinback.com/break-up-better/

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Libby shares her best tips for coming out as polyamorous, mostly hard won through her own coming out mishaps.

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Break Up Better Workshop on November 30 at 7:30 PM: https://libbysinback.com/break-up-better/

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In this episode, Libby outlines 3 different scenarios in which it's unclear who is the giver and who is the receiver, and how to use a magical tool called the Wheel of Consent to help answer this question. 

Betty Martin's website: https://bettymartin.org/ 

The Wheel of Consent: https://bettymartin.org/videos/ 

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Libby reviews some of the biggest challenges that can show up around the holiday season when you're non-monogamous and how to navigate them without exploding an already stressful season.

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Kathy Labriola on Polyam Holidays: https://www.kathylabriola.com/articles/poly-holiday-tips

Elisabeth Sheff on not coming out during the holidays: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201612/poly-the-holidays

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