Marriage and Martinis

When Danielle discovered Dr. Kat, she knew she needed to have her on to ask her about so many recent revelations she’s had about her personal experience with perinatal OCD, birth trauma, and postpartum depression. As Danielle learns more and unpacks an experience she had almost 20 years ago, she can’t help but wish she could go back and tell her younger self so many things. She can’t, but she can ask the questions for the women who may encounter (or have encountered) similar issues during their pregnancies. This conversation is one that should be listened to be everyone, regardless of gender, marital and parenting status, and whether or not people personally deal with issues with perinatal Mental Health….it absolutely should be on EVERYONE’S radar. Danielle and Dr Kat discuss:

⁃What exactly does the term “perinatal mental health” encompass?

⁃Are there regulations in place to ensure that OBGYNs are educated on modern discourse concerning PMH?

⁃What are Dr Kat’s thoughts about waiting three months to tell people you’re pregnant?

⁃What necessary questions would she tell every couple (or single human looking to get pregnant) to ask prospective OBGYN’s before choosing a physician?

⁃What might be some prior warning signs that someone might encounter issues with perinatal mental health?

⁃What exactly is a “birth trauma,” and how does a woman know whether or not she went through one?

⁃What does Dr. Kat want every person to know about perinatal mental health and how you can help someone who might be experiencing it in some way? 

Make sure you follow Dr. Kat on IG at @momandmind and listen to her podcast Mom and Mind wherever you get podcasts.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In what will most likely be the most honest conversation about masturbation you've ever heard a real couple have, Adam and Danielle answer every question you've been wanting to ask about self pleasure. The two discuss the first time they each discovered they were capable of achieving orgasm without a partner, and how their experiences with masturbation have continued throughout the years. Some extremely open and raw discussions include:

• What are each of their routines before and following sessions of masturbation.
• Danielle asks Adam what his feelings are about mutual self-pleasure, and shares her past experiences.
• Adam discusses why he rarely makes time for self-pleasure, and what the circumstances are when he does.
• Danielle talks about why self-pleasure is one way women are absolutely the "luckier" gender.
• The two discuss sex toys such as "the fleshlight," "the stroker," vibrators," and "extra large replicas of the make sexual anatomy.
• Danielle asks Adam if he would ever experiment with Prostate play.
• The two, for the first time, reveal their fantasies during self-pleasure and why it's been such a questionable topic in the past.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Listeners always ask Danielle and Adam to do an episode with their three kids, asking what it's like to have them as parents, and to have the podcast out there in the world for all to hear. Finally, the time has come for Danielle and Adam to sit down with each kid, individually, (Mia 18, Ean 16, and Jonah 12) to discuss all the questions about life with Danielle and Adam. Some questions include:

• What are the best and worst things about having them as parents
• In what ways are Danielle and Adam "abnormal" parents
• In what ways has the podcast impacted their lives?
• What do they think the podcast is really about?
• What do they really think about Danielle's recent boudoir shoot?
• What do they think Danielle and Adam will be like as grandparents?

And so much more!!

Download our Mother's Day activities here and use code "MAMALOVE" for 15% off.

Contact Evgenia to learn more about her special boudoir offer ONLY for listeners of Marriage and Martinis.

Check out Sojo Spa Club for the perfect Mother's Day experience, or just an experience to slow down and savor the day.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Danielle sits down with the amazing boudoir photographer, Evgenia Ribinik, to hear all about what it's like to be a part of such an intimate, momentous experience from the other side of the camera. The two discuss:

• How Evgenia first got into boudoir photography.
• What Evgenia wants each person who enters her studio to learn and better understand about themself.
• The different reasons why women commit to having a Boudoir shoot, and why they feel they need to have this specific experience.
• How shooting couples in this intimate manner is different from shooting a woman or women.
• Do men usually respond differently to the photo shoot, and in what ways?
• What does she want her daughters to know about her work and why it's important?
• How this journey has bonded Danielle and Evgenia in a very unique and powerful way.

To check out Evgenia's amazing work, visit her website.

Make sure to follow her on instagram at @evgeniaribinikstudios

To read Danielle's latest blog about her experience, click here.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this follow up episode from Danielle's Boudoir shoot, Adam and Danielle discuss how it felt to finally see the pictures, and how they handled posting pictures that most suburban moms don't reveal to over half a million people. What did Danielle say to her 15 year old son and how did that discussion go? How did she prepare people like her mother-in-law and others whom she was worried might feel uncomfortable with the situation? How did Adam react initially, and what was his ultimate takeaway from the whole experience? Plus, the two discuss:

• Why is Danielle finally ready to reveal her size when she never has been before?
• An honest talk about period sex and why it's turned complicated with perimenopause.
• What negative comments did Danielle receive and how did she respond?
• How has this whole experience affected her confidence?
• What did guilt cause Danielle to do in the midst of all of this excitement?
• What would Adam like them to do as a couple that will even further their connection and sex life?
• Why was this one of the most memorable experiences Danielle has ever had?

don't forget to follow Danielle's new hero @evginiaribinikstudios

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle has wanted to work up the courage to have a Boudoir shoot for years. Finally, after finding a photographer she knew she could be comfortable with, she went to have this experience, without informing Adam. In this episode, the two discuss:

• Why it was important to Danielle to do this without Adam knowing.
• Why it took so much courage to jump this hurdle and go through with the photoshoot.
• What Adam is most "concerned" about her posting the pictures.
• If Adam would be willing to go back and do a couples' shoot.
• How doing this shoot has affected Danielle's confidence, and more!

To find out more about Danielle's amazing photographer, check out Evgenia Ribinik.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Recently, Danielle heard something on Tik Tok that really struck her: "are we all just spending the second half of our lives recovering from the first half?" This got her thinking about all the things we're taught for so long while growing up, only to figure out that all of those messages and concepts are all just a bunch of BS. Are we all too "gaslit" to even know what we, as individuals, even want in life? How can we separate our own goals and desires with those we've been TOLD we should want? In this interestingly nostalgic-yet-eye-opening episode, Adam and Danielle discuss:

• why weren't they taught more preparedness strategies for life in school, rather than subject matter that has proven to be almost totally obsolete
• why Danielle is no longer looking back on elementary school through rose-colored glasses, and how she thinks the whole experience affected her self-esteem
• who the "cool kids" were in school, as opposed to who should have been deemed "cool"
• what messages were Adam fed about what being a boy means?
• what messages was Danielle fed about what being a girl means?
• what did they both get wrong about body image, and what do they now realize?
• in what ways have movies and TV shows helped in disseminating so many false messages
• is chivalry still allowed?

and so much more!

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Molly had reached her breaking point as an overwhelmed mom and wife when she and her husband decided to open up their marriage back in 2008. In this honest conversation, Danielle asks Molly questions that are on so many people's minds when we think about allowing our partners to be intimate with other humans. Some of these include, how do you handle the intense moments of jealousy that follow knowing your partner has been sexual with someone else? What happened when your kids found out, and how did they react? Were you worried about your parents finding out? And, has the experience been all you hoped it would? Molly's new memoir, "More," takes readers through the journey of becoming polyamorous, and all of the layers, hardships, and joys involved in this process. Luckily, Molly was willing to share some of those stories on the podcast. Hearing these reflections helps us to understand the concept of open marriage from a different, more honest perspective.

Buy Molly's book More, A Memoir Of Open Marriage wherever books are sold.

If you loved this episode, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts and/or on Spotify.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this not-so-conventional "check-in" episode, Adam and Danielle answer some deep questions about recent lessons on life they've learned, what's something they've each done recently about which they're proud, and a lighting round of quick answers concerning how they're feeling about certain aspects of life. Plus, Danielle introduces Adam to the term, "tradwife," and wants to know if he secretly wishes she was more like one of those wives. Get a pen and paper out, because partners are going to want to write down these questions to ask one another (or anyone in your life with whom you'd like to have a deep conversations).

Check out our upcoming, awesome sessions of Beyond Permission, including a discussion on Sex Toys, Libido and Desire, and a DATE NIGHT opportunity with Danielle and Adam!

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.