Marriage Lab

In this episode, we break down 10 helpful beliefs about sharing pain.

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Jenna and Aaron share 7 unhelpful beliefs people have (they themselves used to have) about sharing pain with your spouse. Stay tuned for an episode on the helpful beliefs!

Here is a review of those 7 unhelpful beliefs:

1. Tell them everything I’m thinking
2. Reveal to them how they hurt me
3. Get them to see how they failed me
4. I can resolve my hurt by hearing an apology/admission of guilt
5. This is urgent. Don’t go to bed angry (two sleepy dysregulated people are horrible communicators)
6. The goal of conflict is to eliminate future pain or to become pain free
7. It’s a one and done. If we can have this convo long enough we will fix it once and for all

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Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.
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For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. 

>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<
We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE

Click here for the interest list

Support the show

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GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here 

>>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. 

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we interview our friends Anna & Alan Mullikin who share about the breaking of a ten year cycle. We were so encouraged by their story and know that this testimony is for everyone who's felt hopeless in their own cycles of pain and hurt in their marriage. You can follow Anna at 

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>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<
We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab
------------------------------------------------------------
Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.
------------------------------------------------------------
For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. 

Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE

Click here for the interest list

Support the show

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GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here 

>>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. 

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

We interviewed our friends Joaquin and Renee Evans pastor a church called Bethel Austin in Austin, Texas. In this episode they share about what it requires of them to co-pastor a large church while staying connected in their marriage and in their family life. 

They hit on:

• Boundaries
• Intentionality
• Signs of disconnection
• Time to get away just the two of them
• Staying connected to mentors and peers

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>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<
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Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab
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Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!
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Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.
------------------------------------------------------------
For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. 

Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE

Click here for the interest list

Support the show

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here 

>>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. 

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In a previous episode, we when into depth about no requiring an apology from your spouse when you felt hurt from them but rather focusing on sharing your heart in order to be known. This is one side of the coin for us. And an important one at that. The other side is that due to not requiring apologies from each other, we wind up giving way more genuine apologies than ever before.

In this episode, we talk about how the lack of requiring an apology from each other and the grace that accompanies that allows for genuine repentence and a desire to change in order to take better care of each other's heart. Isn't this the basis of Romans 2:4, that His kindness is meant to lead us to repentence and not his anger, guilt or shame? That's what He does for us and we want to be more like Him. This is one of the ways we do that.

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Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!
Registration for next round begins January 3, 2024.
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Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.
------------------------------------------------------------
For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. 

>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<
We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<
We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE

Click here for the interest list

Support the show

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here 

>>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. 

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Choosing a spouse is choosing the person you'd like to offer the most forgiveness to of anyone else over a lifetime. Why? Because the intimacy in marriage creates more opportunity for hurt than any other relationship. Therefore, to have a thriving marriage, we must lean into the heart of Jesus and forgive each other like He forgave us. Generously, for the big and the little trangresses, without measure.

Especially when we feel we've been hurt by our spouse so often or so deeply, it can feel like an injustice to offer forgiveness. It feels unfair. Like they don't deserve it. It feels like "healthy boundaries" to withhold it. And yet, Jesus showed us a better way. One that actually produces transformation. That way is forgiveness. It's part of what loving your spouse means and love never fails.

Please rate, review & share the podcast!
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Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!
Registration for next round begins January 3, 2024.
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Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.
------------------------------------------------------------
For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. 

>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<
We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE

Click here for the interest list

Support the show

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here 

>>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. 

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Have you ever been trying to honestly explain what you're thinking or feeling and say the words "Part of me feels..." or "Part of me thinks..."? Most people do intuitively.
In this episode we talk about how to utilize this phrase into our communciation with our spouse to give the most accurate picture of what's happening inside of us. We also explore how this is used in therapy and how you can use it to bring more compassion and connection within yourself.

Please rate, review & share the podcast!
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Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!
Registration for next round begins January 3, 2024.
------------------------------------------------------------
Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.
------------------------------------------------------------
For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. 

Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE

Click here for the interest list

Support the show

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here 

>>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. 

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode we break down a couple tools for connecting with your spouse even when you're in the middle of conflict or have something unresolved between you both.

Please rate, review & share the podcast!
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Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!
Registration for next round begins January 3, 2024.
------------------------------------------------------------
Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.
------------------------------------------------------------
For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. 

Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE

Support the show

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here 

>>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. 

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Have you ever been looking forward to the weekend only to find that what was intended to be restful and relaxing, never actually filled you up? Have you ever headed back into your workweek feeling like you wasted an opportunity to take good care of yourself and your family?

We definitely have! In this episode, we talk about the shift that's happened in the last year that has transformed our weekends, especially with young kids, into times of true rest, rejuvination and connection.

Please rate, review & share the podcast!

Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!

For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book one-on-one or couples coachings for emotional and relational health with Jenna and Aaron,  and check out Aaron's new book Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn. Aaron also run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness.

Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE

Click here for the interest list

Support the show

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here 

>>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. 

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode we talk with our friend Serena Angeli who has gone on her own journey around awareness, understanding and growing in her attachment style. Interestingly, she began her journey with an avoidant style and later with an anxious style.  Jenna and I, Aaron, talk about how our avoidant and anxious styles, respectively, seem to perfectly trigger each other. Each of us talk about the growth paths we've identified for our specific styles.

Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!

Please rate, review & share the podcast!

For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book one-on-one or couples coachings for emotional and relational health with Jenna and Aaron,  and check out Aaron's new book Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn. Aaron also run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness.

Promo Price until 9/13/26:    Wives- Click here for YOUR HALF OF THE MARRIAGE

Click here for the interest list

Support the show

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here 

>>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. 

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn