“What can I expect from my spouse?”  That was the lead question.  Because over and over, her expectations had not been met.

“Expectations,” I told her, “can wreck your marriage."

“Which expectations?”, she asked.

I noted, “Any."

But shouldn’t you have expectations?  Shouldn’t you be able to expect things from your spouse?

Let me ask you question:  How’s that going so far?

Some expectations are explicit.  Others are implicit.  Some are internal.  Others are external.

And generally, expectations fail.

That same person said, “So I should just expect my spouse to do nothing, is that right?”  I noted that she just changed to another expectation.  But still, it was an expectation.  And expectations cause problems.  Negative or positive.  They still cause problems.

The solution?  Actually, there are two parts.  Listen in as we take apart your expectations… and shift to something more helpful.

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