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In riding, negative expectations so often become the reality (as in ‘I hope we don’t stop at the ditch!…’). When things are going well you have to ‘make it again, make it again’ - not stop doing it - and you can’t even afford to take time out and congratulate yourself! Hoping something good will happen is very different to expecting it to happen, and when it comes to impulsion, many riders set themselves up to ensure that it won’t happen. Naive teachers feed this rider lots of energy, and end up exhausted. There are other ways to encourage someone who is probably constrained by fear to step out of her comfort (and ineffectual) zone. I describe some difficult pupils who specialise in being their own worst enemy, and invite you to consider, ‘How teachable are you?’

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Most riders give repeated leg aids that actually train the horse to be dead to their leg. If you have to kick to get each step of walk, how are you ever going to ride a canter pirouette? To be an effective rider, you have to believe that you have the right to be up there, being the brains of the rider/horse partnership, and being the leader your horse really needs. This requires self believe, good technique for giving a leg aid, a lot of conscious attention, and the ‘kick, don’t, don’t’ technique described here.

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Trainers will always be prejudiced against the toolkits they don’t understand, can’t be bothered with, or do so brilliantly (and easily) that they fail to recognise their brilliance. This complicates the ‘map battles’ between the proponents of the various toolkits. It pays to ‘outframe’ the zero toolkit to include saddlery, farriery, bodywork etc. - the supporting arts that help your horse to not be one of the ‘walking wounded’ who doesn’t limp, but is not physically robust. If he throws tantrums, suspect a physical problem as you ask yourself if the issue rooted in pain, in his brain, or in his training. A kick or whip tap needs to change your horse’s brain chemistry (and can do so ethically) so that he has more ‘get up and go’ chemicals. The aid needs to rebound like a slap, and not be a nudge or squeeze.

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How proponents of the 3 toolkits interact like the proverbial 3 blind men with the elephant. More on the Zero toolkit, overshadowing, and the transition from ground work to riding.
Being strong in one of the ‘maps’ of riding and training makes up for weaknesses in the other ‘maps’ - and also allows trainers to negate the other maps. Trainers often attribute their skill to one of the toolkits, not realising that they are also strong in a different one. Incongruent riding happens where there are conflicts between two toolkits eg the reins say ‘stop’, but the rider leans back during a halt so the laws of physics say ‘go’. Operant and classical conditioning as toolkits zero and 1. Making the transition from groundwork to riding.

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On ‘the map is not the territory’, even though riders and trainers the world over act as if it is - and go so far as to ‘eat the menu’!

If a rider, vet, physio, saddler and farrier were all looking at a tricky horse, each would see a different problem within their area of expertise. We all see what we are looking for, informed by the ‘maps’ or internal representations that we have developed over years, and we tend to think that the problem we perceive is the one and only problem - complete with our tailor-made one and only solution. The zero, first and second toolkits are different approaches to riding and training that do not negate each other, but are simply different maps. But few exponents of these different maps perceive that their map might not be the only map.

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So much of riding is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You get run away with from the moment you decide you’re being run away with… so we review how rider ‘lose it’ through the model of polyvagal theory. All of your insecurities are likely to be triggered when you buy a new horse, who may offer challenges that are on the limit of your skills (do you remember the flow channel, where these stay in balance over time?). The pitfalls are many, and when you buy a schoolmaster, a lot depends on how well he was ‘danced’ previously. If you start pushing and he starts pulling, it will feel to him as if he doesn’t know the steps. Remember what it’s like in a couple’s dance form, when you (the woman) go from the ease and delight of dancing with a good partner (where you don’t have to know the steps) to dancing with a partner who hasn’t ‘got it’. The dissonance can feel horrible! Also, when riders buy a young horse, they often have the equivalent of ‘eyes bigger than their stomach’, and when they cannot match the forces of his movement, things again go wrong. It’s humbling to realise that very horse can only go as well as he is danced….

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The patterns in the pupil’s body are part of this, and we have both the ‘foetal crouch’ and the much more common ‘Landau response’, where the rider pushes down into the stirrups, hollows her back, stretches up and stops breathing (like a horse in ‘arrest’). But in addition, is the rider’s mental/emotional state more ‘fight or flight-ish’ or ‘freeze and fold-ish’?. The latter riders, who are disengaged, and a bit floppy, are lacking authority and boundaries. Teaching authority is the hardest task: The rider has to believe that she has the right to be up there, and instead of fading into the wall paper she has to find a more ‘Me Tarzan, you horse’ way of being. ‘Come along horsey, come along horsey’ is a much more busy (and flighty) way to interact, but horses rarely believe this either. When you can be present, and able to look, listen and feel, you will learn much more easily - and a good coach teaches you how to become this more embodied version of yourself.

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Imagine yourself as a mouse in a house where there is cheese available on the opposite side of the room to your mouse hole. But there is also a cat. Which is more real to you, the reward, or the risk? Your perception of one might far out way your perception of the other. Or you might not care about either, or you might be aware of both. This is the most stressful situation, and it mirrors wanting to ride, but also being nervous.
Skilled, resilient riders can both generate a lot of rightness, and tolerate a lot of wrongness - they have lots of ‘brainspace’, and the sense of plenty of time. Courage is moving in the face of fear, it isn’t not feeling fear. Strategies to help nervous riders who are easily triggered.

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I learnt many years ago that my observations just before a lesson were a more accurate risk assessment than some riders made before mounting. But my words of caution did not stop them getting on - and then remaining on for a very short time! The hypervigilant horse paired with a hypervigilant rider can really wind each other up, and keeping the horse’s attention can be vital. We all know about ‘rest and digest’ and ‘fight or flight’, but research has shown that there is actually a third system. This is evolutionarily the oldest, and it makes us freeze (which works well for a reptile on a rock) and ‘fold’ - going limp when we perceive that there is no possibility of escape. These responses present riders with the biggest challenge.

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Many riders, epecially those with a fixed mindset struggle on alone, thinking they’re the only one who doesn’t ‘get it’, but this is not true. Dressage as ‘the passionate pursuit of perfection by the obsessively imperfect’. Many riders confuse their behaviour with their identity, so ‘I rode a bad transition’ soon becomes, ‘I’m a bad rider’ which has the implication of ‘I’m a bad person.’ This can become an emotional roller coaster, and fear compounds it, wether it’s fear of falling or fear of being judged.