Jody Moore is a mother, speaker, Master Certified Life Coach and the owner of Jody Moore Coaching where she helps women improve their self-concept, live from empowering emotions and accomplish their goals. She has a multiple-7-figure coaching practice where she works with her clients online, teaching classes and hosting live calls, supplemented with live events.

She has four children ages 4 to 13 and resides with them and her husband in Spokane, Washington. Prior to founding her coaching practice, Jody earned her Bachelor’s degree from Utah State University and a Master’s Degree at the University of Phoenix where she worked for many years as a sales trainer and leadership coach.

Highlights

4:55 Life as we expected it this past year did not happen and this has especially affected the youth

Tools to use with youth:

#1 5:45 Normalize feeling unhappy

* Give our kids permission to feel something that isn't happy

* This is a normal part of being a human and nothing has gone wrong

* 8:15 Kelly McGonigal study on stress

#2 11:30 Focus more on thoughts and less on actions when speaking with the youth

* Our thoughts are different than God's thoughts

* We need to start by choosing our thoughts intentionally

* Agency is also the ability to choose how/what to think and this is a skill youth can learn

#3 16:30 Teach the youth how to feel their feelings

* Different approaches to emotion: resisting, avoiding, or feeling

* The "easy" button

* Relaxing into emotion instead of resisting

* Opposition in all things: we are not supposed to feel happy all the time

#4 24:00 Seek to minimize shame

* Shame is natural but toxic

* The message of shame can easily slip in, even when we don't mean for it to

* Empathy is the antidote to shame

* Shame thrives in hiding

* Example of her experience with a bishop that steered her away from shame

#5 29:15 Stop labeling everything as anxiety

* Sometimes it is anxiety, but sometimes it's just labeling negative emotion and thinking it needs to be fixed

* The better we become at accurately labeling our negative emotion, the better our chances at learning how to manage them

32:45 We have to get better at doing these things ourselves; learning to manage our own thoughts will help us help others better

36:00 Slowing down and making space for feeling emotions; "this is the part where I feel ____"

39:10 Learning how God thinks so we can become more like Him; asking the question, "What would Jesus think?"

41:30 Stress is a very useful thing and we can learn to handle it

42:40 Taking a deep breath and relaxing into the emotion

43:30 Her daughter's experience getting shots at the doctor: it's okay to just cry

44:30 Shame and guilt

* Shame is the feeling of guilt gone wild when the first feelings are not addressed

* Most people have learned to go straight to shame

* Guilt is information

48:30 Increasing our emotional vocabulary so we can have more leverage over the emotion

51:20 Addressing the thoughts and feelings first, and then the behavior

54:00 Final advice to leaders: embrace that you will do an amazing job and also not such a great job

Links

JodyMoore.com

The Upside of Stress, by Kelly McGonigal

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