Miles Ahead: Strength for The Inner Life

In this episode Miles and Josh address the saying of "pressure creates diamonds" by finishing the often-used idiom with, "pressure often creates dust".

We discuss pressure, and how it looks when it is put upon us mostly negatively.

We also illuminate how pressure can be applied to create an environment of reinforcement.

Finally, we address the core of motivation, define it for ourselves, and talk about how changing your internal reference points and modeling will permanently motivate you toward your goals.

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In our final discussion of the plight of men and health outcomes, we end on the problem of delusions, misinformation, and distracted attention.

Most people do not have a solid sense of what their physical potential is, because they (us, as both Miles and I have experienced varying degrees of this) don't have a clear perception of what actions we are truly taking on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis.

We not only have fuzzy and unclear health objectives and processes, but we also have fuzzy and unclear visions of what we look like in the mirror, how many steps we take, how much we eat and sleep, and how hard (or easy) it might be to change.

We talk about how men delude themselves, and what simple steps you can take today to become aware of your actions and what it takes to "get healthy".

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In today's episode Dr Miles and Josh delve a bit deeper into the obstacles that men face when tackling their own mental and physical health and today is the big topic of hormones and aging.

Testosterone in the average male does peak in their 20s, but that doesn't mean that you have to peak. It's ok if you have a renaissance of vitality and energy in your 40s and 50s and it doesn't take injections of exogenous hormones!

We address the common experiences of men trying to diet and exercise the way they did in their 20s, why this falls short, and how we can continue to improve our physical fitness despite our advancing age. Much of this advice can apply to women too, although a more nuanced discussion about men's and women's hormones would be needed in future.

How hormones get blamed, and what is behind the fat, tired, and out-of-shape men in their midlife crises, is the discussion for today.

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In this episode, we discuss men's struggles in terms of health and economic outcomes, as well as social struggles like lack of dating participation. The current trend is an alarming 4 times the likelihood of suicide, as well as poorer graduation rates, employment rates, and economic prospects.

When it comes to the health conversation, men are less likely to have a primary care provider, less likely to visit the doctor, and less likely to purchase self-development books or programs, meaning not only are their health and economic prospects worsening, they are also not investing in themselves to arrest this dive.

Today we crack open the biggest struggle with self-awareness and self-management including hormonal and physiological differences in the brains of men and women and how this impacts empathy, connection, and self-compassion.

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Dr. Ray Doktor helps Josh cope with relationship issues.

What's it about: Do you have the ability to check in with yourself as to how you show up, including your own definition of love for yourself? 

Dr. Ray compares emotional training to the physical training of Bruce Lee who has a higher level of commitment to being the best martial artist alive.

Having a clear process to sharpen your own physical and emotional awareness is critical to creating the connected life you desire for yourself.

How will the listener benefit: 

Cultivating presence and self-awareness will allow you to parse the information coming to you at any one moment, discern what is useful and valuable, and decide how to respond.

This allows you to get out of your way, stop "cock-blocking" yourself (or women, the female equivalent!), and show up as a better man, woman, partner, and friend.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions:

What is your definition of Love and where did you learn it?

Do you have the ability to be present in your life and choose your response to situations?

Do you have a process for building mental and emotional resilience?

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All it Takes is One

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You Tube Episode

Phil Horning returns. In this episode, we discuss how we get wounded in relationships and how we heal in relationships. The relief that we feel being seen in our pain and our struggles. How this is comforting and can aid the healing process. "I believe you, that does suck" is all that is required.

Josh covers stillness and reconciliation including recapitulation, the process of teasing apart your experience to summarize the mistakes, lessons, and most importantly the learning or behavioral change from your own life. This was largely the focus of James Wedmore's Next Level retreat this past week.

Phil reveals part of his attempts at repairing a damaged father/son relationship with his dad, who has demonstrated the willingness to acknowledge his own shortcomings. He shares an important connecting tool called attunement, which is the process of meeting someone where they are emotionally, energetically, and philosophically. Not to endorse, condone, or change someone, but to simply be with them in a way that helps them feel understood.

Learning the value of stillness, clarity, attunement, and recapitulation will help you drop your baggage and engage more fully in your relationships.

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Phil Horning Previous Podcast Episode - Journey of a Maturing Man

Fury

STIM, RJ Pasin

All my life

Foo Fighters

The Anthem

Good Charlotte

Today's guest is Evan Transue, who is a public speaker and podcaster and is spreading his message about mental health and functional health care to the world. Evan has a unique gift for speaking with high school students about mental health, if you are a parent, this episode will be of extra interest to you. 

What's it about:

How early onset mental health issues occur, and can be avoided with Evan Transue and the FDN family. 

A young man from PA shares his experience of being misdiagnosed and how it changed his childhood experiences around drugs, alcohol, and coping.

How will the listener benefit:

Learn the presentation of panic attacks and how they feel for a young child.

Learn about the FDN network and how collaborative health coaching modalities can help people solve seemingly intractable health issues.

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FDN Training Discount code for our listeners:

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Evan's Book: https://a.co/d/brGXRjS

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Today, we cover the most common issues that people run into when tackling their health and fitness.

What's it about: 

Staying in shape and the obstacles to staying in shape.

Injuries

Ego Lifting

Past Benchmarks that are not relevant

Functional Paralysis

Inconvenience Tax

Not hard enough workout/good enough workout

I can't train HARD anymore

Kids dictate food or exercise habits

Adrenal Fatigue-Stuck in "The Gray-zone" or purgatory

Disease or Special Circumstance

Josh's Definition of Strength Training

How will the listener benefit:

Learning how to listen to yourself as you argue for limitations or put off living your best life.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions:

Most of the problems we confront are problems of priority and perception.

The solutions to most problems are counter-intuitive; "Don't train as hard" or "Let bad things happen".

Peter Gabriel

In your eyes

Group Love

Hollywood

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What's it about: 

How to control your own life, from the inside, and out.

How we lose our felt sense of being able to affect our own world and environment.

How Josh's childhood struggles impacted his personality and contributed to his core challenges and growth.

How the listener will benefit:

See how people in real-life situations create trauma for their kids (or don't).

Learn how to cope and work through various conflicts with core identity and beliefs.

Josh tells the story of why and how he left home at a young age in search of a safe place to study algebra (and drink beer).

Miles tells the story of arguing with his wife and exhibiting safe conflict for his kids while protecting their personhood.

Empire of the Sun, Walking on a Dream

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Tiger Army, Forever Fades Away

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Pathway, the "HOW" episodes

The biggest problem that arises to interfere with hope is the lack of a "pathway" to the goal, be it love, career, or inner peace. Today we look at why that is.

What's it about: Don't let the How, get you down.

The mind, especially of smart and proactive people is very adept at finding problems. Our rapid-fire emotional brain will then turn those obstacles into reasons why the path will not work and needs to be fine-tuned to create opportunities from all these problems.

What is possible is typically just the marketing from folks selling solutions.

The path of least resistance is the pathway that other people choose for you, which discourages dreaming and creative thinking.

How will the listener benefit:

Learn how resourcefulness provides more opportunities than resources often do.

Learn how to identify who has done what you are setting out to do. Ask them how they did it. Meta Version-Ask the industry leader or category creator. Not just a coach, but a coach specific to what exactly you are trying to create.

The ability to let go of resistance and baggage is a key skill to traveling towards your goals and one of the biggest variables to creating the life that you actually want to lead.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions"

Pathway to Become a Millionaire example.

Josh talks about dealing with the emasculating shame of not being able to support his partner's dreams, and how he continues to work with that.

The more intelligent you are, the more problems you see with your pathway. Success is about forgetting what could go wrong with your choices more than it is about making the "best" decision- Alan Watts

Neil Young

Harvest Moon

Coldplay

Up in Flames

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