Miles Ahead: Strength for The Inner Life

Dr Aziz, who we have mentioned multiple times on the podcast is here! We begin the podcast fresh from an hour of sauna together, so if we sound drunk, we are all just in a zen-like state.

In this episode, we discuss the secret to transformations, both inside and out. Dr Aziz Walks us through the physical and mental transformations he has been through and what the commonalities and the differences are between changing your mind and changing your body.

Learn why money, sex and six pack abs won't make you happy, and why that is a good thing.

Why you sometimes have to be the villain in another person's story or narrative.

How to not give others the custodial duties of your own self confidence.

Learn about the different levels of motivation and what they are based upon. How motivation changes many times over in the same journey, and how fears relate to playing small and keeping motivation at a distance.

Dr Aziz’s website

Book: Not Nice

Shrink for The Shy Guy Podcast

YouTube Channel

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Links to listen to:

Coldplay's New Album (Moonmusic)

Coloratura (The Coldplay song Miles is listening to on repeat)

LowFi Christmas

Lightning Rod :By The Offspring

This was a BIG episode. We get into our personal stories of pain and growth and the people who helped us get there. This one is very much worth the listen.

We discuss postulating and thinking about our emotions vs actually experiencing them, and how to do this.

If you're a man and struggle with intellectualization vs emotional experience and expression, or a woman who does or has a man in your life that does, this one is for you.

YouTube Channel

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Coldplay Yellow

Coldplay All of My Love

Public Enemy/Prodigy Mashup

How to set goals, make them fun, and what to do about inevitable resistance.

We get tactical and psychological.

Anytime is a good time to set goals. It's the new year, when everyone decides to set "resolutions". What is this exactly ? What are we trying to resolve?

Achieving a resolution is hard without having a goal and the accompanying strategy, tactics, and psychological/emotional skills toward resolution. In this episode we will explain how to move into and through what you want to change, accomplish, adapt to, or acquire.

YouTube Channel

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UNKLE

What this episode is about:

Josh and Miles interview one of Josh's clients/students about her "overnight success" body fat percentage loss and muscle mass gain.

Josh highlights how astonishing and fast the transformation was, Stacy's work ethic, how they achieved this together.

Miles asks probing psychological questions to understand Stacy's drive and what pains she may have had to overcome growing up to become the person she is today.

This episode is inspirational and the listener may find pieces of themself in her story, and will find pieces that may direct any budding motivation or resistance to change.

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In today's episode, Miles and Josh go deep on social media and the "for you" feed, how psychographics trumps demographics and how tik tok changed the social media landscape.

Most importantly we examine what we can learn about ourselves based on our feeds, how parasocial relationships impact our lives for the better and for the worse, and we also examine what "rage-baiting" or value-insulting content tells us about ourselves.

Dr. Jennifer Barnes: Para Social Relationship Ted Talk

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Phil and Miles give an After Action Review for Josh about their recent seminar with Duey Freeman and Traver Boehm (from the ManUncivilized Podcast, book, and movement), titled, How Best to Work with Men.

The seminar was filled with both clinicians and curious folk alike, both men and women seeking how best to support the men in their personal lives and professional settings. Miles and Phil talk about their key takeaways, what they learned, and what personally came up for them.

This seminar is highly recommended to anyone interested in men's work, their relationships with men, their sons, uncles, father, grandfather's and how to locate and cultivate heathy masculinity and heal/grow attachment wounds, or wounds of "contact" as Duey likes to say. Have a listen for a brief peek on what the seminar is like. We'll include all of the links you are wanting below!

Duey Freeman’s IG

Traver Boehm’s IG

David Boyd’s IG

How Best To Work With Men, Man uncivilized

Man Uncivilized book

Man Uncivilized Podcast  

Phil’s IG/Grounded Warrior Page

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How to work with physical and psychological pain.

The first Noble Truth of Buddhism has many translations, the one we like is "life involves suffering".

"Pain is available to everyone."

The discussion today was around pain, how we can choose to perceive it in order to best work with it (or the opposite) and to find a lesson or two, and grow from it (or the opposite). This was a more informal episode, with less of an agenda, however the listener will still profit from the conversation. If you are going through a hard time right now emotionally or physically or both, or have in the past (or plan to in the future-because we all are not exempt from pain), this discussion will likely resonate and help guide you to a trailhead on your path.

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Today we discuss the dynamic of co-dependency under the oft used terms, "Nice Guy" or "Good Girl" and what this means, where it comes from, how it presents, and how to know if you are running some of this energy and behavior. We attempt to illustrate what this looks like using personal and other types of examples and how to train it out of you for a better overall functioning authentic self.

No More Mr. Nice Guy

https://a.co/d/fOigTyv

Not Nice

https://a.co/d/0lidQuw

The Courage to be Disliked

https://a.co/d/19AFx29

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In today’s episode, we discuss the essentials of warrior-hood.

Resilience. Service. Teamwork.

To find out how masculinity and manhood intersect with warriorhood, listen to this episode.

Stephen Press-field

Warrior Ethos

https://a.co/d/71IF5EO

Michael Singer

Untethered soul

https://a.co/d/6NekCuJ

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In today's episode, we discuss one of the most important topics in mental health right now: Sovereignty, and How To be Self-Led.

We'll talk about how much of our lives we spend insulating ourselves from the discomfort of change, vulnerability, and connection with others.

We'll go into a little bit of Internal Family Systems and how our parts unconsciously guide our behavior.

We'll talk about identifying what parts of our lives need the most work and what parts of ourselves need the most love.

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Weezer

Pork and Beans

The greatest man that ever lived