Miles Ahead: Strength for The Inner Life

In this conversation, Miles and Karden explore the intricate relationship between the body, nervous system, and emotional health, awareness and agency in managing one's autonomic nervous system, the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior, and the necessity of emotional tools for navigating discomfort. The dialogue emphasizes the allostatic load and its effects on health, the significance of inner child work, and the intersection of psychology and body awareness in achieving holistic wellness. In this conversation, Karden and Miles explore the themes of masculinity, inner child work, and the importance of men's initiation. They discuss the significance of vulnerability and the healing power of brotherhood, emphasizing the need for men to connect with their inner selves and seek mentorship. The dialogue also touches on the midlife transition, the challenges of self-discovery, and the role of trust in relationships. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the journey of embracing one's true self and the value of community in this process.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Body Awareness and Nervous System

02:54 The Importance of Balance in Autonomic Regulation

06:10 Agency Over the Autonomic Nervous System

08:42 Understanding Male Responses to Threat

11:36 Childhood Wounds and Adult Reactions

14:37 The Allostatic Load and Nervous System Paradox

17:21 Training the Nervous System for Peace

20:05 Reintegration Challenges for Veterans

28:57 Reclaiming Personal Power

29:56 The Journey of Self-Discovery

31:55 The Challenge of Healing

33:43 Understanding Emotional Responses

36:39 Navigating Depression and Overwhelm

39:36 The Dorsal Vagal Response

41:03 The Role of Perception in Healing

42:38 Inner Child Work and Emotional Healing

45:12 The Power of Community and Brotherhood

48:20 Experiencing the Men's Initiation

54:41 The Importance of Trust and Rest

56:24 The Value of Trust Over Control

57:48 The Transformative Power of Jiu-Jitsu

59:55 Embracing the Beginner's Mind

01:02:37 The Importance of Humility in Learning

01:05:42 Navigating Midlife Transitions

01:09:30 The Role of Mentorship in Men's Work

01:17:38 Finding Authenticity Beyond Ego

In this conversation, Miles and Zac Miller delve into the transformative experience of Ibogaine treatment, exploring its potential benefits for mental health, particularly for veterans and first responders. Zac shares his personal journey of surrender, the importance of medical supervision, and the holistic approaches taken during the treatment. They discuss the neuroplasticity effects of Ibogaine, the significance of setting intentions, and the challenges of coping with life changes. The conversation emphasizes the importance of community support and the ongoing process of healing and integration, as well as Zac's insights on coaching and helping others navigate their own journeys.

Work with Zac

Work with Zac

manuncivilized.com/coaching

beondibogaine.com

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https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod

https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/

00:00 Introduction to Ibogaine Treatment

02:50 The Journey of Surrender

06:08 Medical Supervision and Holistic Approaches

08:58 The Experience of Ibogaine

12:00 Neuroplasticity and Integration

14:56 The Role of Intentions

17:39 Coping with Life Changes

20:44 The Importance of Community

23:36 Reflections on Healing and Growth

26:24 Coaching and Supporting Others

29:31 Final Thoughts and Future Directions

The legend himself joins me this episode to talk about some of the body of his works. I talk about being MIA and going through a difficult time.

In this episode, Miles and Duey Freeman explore the complexities of personal challenges, attachment theory, and the importance of male figures in healing. They discuss the impact of fragmentation in relationships, the role of addiction in emotional struggles, and the therapeutic benefits of working with horses. The conversation emphasizes the fluid nature of healing and the significance of connection and contact in fostering emotional well-being. In this conversation, Miles and Duey explore the intricate dynamics of animal interaction, particularly with horses, and how these principles can be applied to human relationships and therapy. They discuss the importance of building trust through incremental steps, the unique communication methods of horses, and the challenges men face in the therapy world. The conversation also delves into the impact of patriarchy on mental health and the growing epidemic of male loneliness, emphasizing the need for authentic connections and the integration of various therapeutic modalities.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Struggles

03:03 The Impact of Loss and Grief

05:53 Father Wounds and Male Mentorship

08:44 Attachment Theory and Its Evolution

11:48 Fragmented vs. Integrated Attachment

14:16 Addiction and the Need for Contact

16:57 The Role of Food, Touch, and Movement

20:03 Fluidity in Attachment and Relationships

35:47 The Importance of Relational Contact

38:07 Addiction and Predictability in Relationships

39:38 Contingent Eye Contact and Attachment

43:04 Connecting with Horses: A Therapeutic Approach

45:12 Understanding Horse Behavior and Communication

55:04 The Art of Therapy and Personal Growth

01:05:26 Integrating Dance and Self-Expression

01:06:44 The Concept of Wholeness and Health

01:08:08 Authenticity in Relationships

01:10:10 Masculinity and Therapy

01:13:15 Celebrating Differences in Gender

01:14:00 The Crisis of Male Therapists

01:16:26 The Nice Guy Archetype and Male Vulnerability

01:19:31 Patriarchy and Objectification

01:23:00 Isolation and Mental Health in Men

01:25:50 Healthy Masculinity and Connection

In Memoriam to Marty

Grief is Only Love

https://www.dueyfreeman.org

Duey Freeman’s IG

Duey Freeman’s FB

The Elder Council

https://www.manuncivilized.com

https://mantalks.com

YouTube Channel

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod

https://milessalisburylpc.com

My guest today is Lindsay Dettwiler. She has an amazing back story and thousands of amazing stories of survival, perseverance, and the best dating "war stories".

Topics covered:

Origin Stories

Childhood wounding and trauma

Addiction and Recovery

Journey to becoming a Personal Trainer

Bonus content on dating and what women want

Work with Lindsay:

Lindsay’s IG

https://project360pdx.com

Email contact/sign-up: [email protected] 

YouTube Channel

Work with Miles:

https://milessalisburylpc.com

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod

Josh Sabraw is back and drops in to let us know what he has been up to. We get off and go like he never left. Early adopters of the podcast will especially enjoy this one.

Topics covered:

Music currently listened to

What Josh is creating

Making decisions and how grief and loss are involved

How shame is involved if you don't make decisions and try to do it all

How to make and trust change

"The Red Shirt Phenmena" for boys in school

Climbing out of dark holes and being self-led

YouTube Channel

Work with Josh:

https://www.joshsabraw.com

https://joshsabraw.substack.com

Work with Miles:

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

https://milessalisburylpc.com

Music Mentioned:

Wake Me Up

Something In The Orange

My guest today is Zac Miller. He is a former civil servant of Public Safety, having been in Law Enforcement, Dispatch, and the Fire Service, a rare feat, and is now working with the Uncivilized team. He also does coaching, breathwork, and other healing modalities for first responders, veterans, and people from all walks of life.

Topics covered:

00:00 Introduction to Zach Miller and His Journey

02:53 Exploring the Ibogaine Experience

05:44 The Impact of Public Safety Work on Mental Health

08:53 Coping Mechanisms and the Role of Alcohol

19:53 Breath Holding and Nervous System Resetting

22:21 The Connection Between Trauma and Healing

25:28 Finding Purpose Through Pain

26:21 Finding Gifts in Adversity

27:12 The Journey of Self-Discovery

30:33 Confronting Dark Thoughts

34:39 The Impact of Intrusive Thoughts

37:50 Navigating the Chaos of Public Safety

41:47 Moral Injury in Law Enforcement

50:39 Finding Community and Support

53:21 Recognizing and Addressing PTS

56:38 The Role of Breathwork in Healing

59:52 Struggle vs. Suffering: Understanding the Difference

01:01:28 The Journey into Coaching and Breathwork

01:08:32 Sharing Knowledge and Resources for Healing

Work with Zac:

https://www.evolvingguidance.com

https://www.instagram.com/evolvingguidance/

https://www.instagram.com/zac_evolving/

Work With Miles:

https://www.instagram.com/zac_evolving/

YouTube Channel

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

Man Uncivilized book

Michael Returns to the podcast. We get an update from him moving from New York to Georgia and the contrast between the two. Then we get into all things relationships, dating, mating, and much more. Here are some of the topics covered:

03:00 The Importance of Male Friendships

06:03 Navigating Dating and Relationships

08:58 Understanding Masculinity and Vulnerability

17:59 Accountability and External Support

27:05 The Intersection of Neurobiology and Therapy

29:58 The Limitations of AI in Therapy

32:52 Exploring Masculinity and Relationships

38:55T The Dynamics of Attraction and Control

55:45 Biological Imperatives and Relationship Dynamics

01:00:00 The Impact of Societal Changes on Family and Community

01:05:11 Balancing Career and Family Life

01:12:49 Navigating Modern Dating Challenges

01:18:01 Polyamory vs. Monogamy: A Biological Perspective

01:20:32 The Complexity of Female Attraction

01:22:47 Understanding Emotional Needs in Relationships

01:25:18 Integrating Masculinity and Femininity

YouTube Channel

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

Work With Miles

https://milessalisburylpc.com

Work With Michael

https://www.adaptivemen.com

My guest today is Marlin Bernabe who is one of the most impressive fitness trainers I have seen work live. I have the fortune to watch him work at my gym and am always amazed at how differently he works with people individually and in a group setting.

We cover a range of topics:

Marlin's background and brief origin story

How he got into becoming a trainer and coach

The types of training her provides and how he tailors it to each person

How to help one make the leap to becoming someone who goes to the gym consistently

How to help your spouse or significant other become interested in going to the gym

Marlin's future plans and goals.

Work with Marlin:

https://www.instagram.com/movethatbody13/

Work with Miles:

https://milessalisburylpc.com

YouTube Channel

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

My guest today is Davy . We were connected through Dave Boyd and the Man Uncivilized Nation. We hit it off immediately and knew we needed to plant the flag for the Uncivilized Nation's Men's Group in the Portland area, and that we would become close friends given we have similar origin stories and backgrounds.

We cover a lot of interesting terrain in this one:

Religious Trauma.

Davy's story from his upbringing, current work, and moving towards becoming a psychotherapist and Men's Work supporter.

How Men's Work is Women's Work and Vice Versa.

Healing the gender wars.

Male Loneliness.

Why speaking with a Chaplain is easier than a Psychologist in Veteran and LEO circles.

AI "therapy".

Fatherhood, divorce, and breaking generational legacy wounds.

Our experiences having done Men's Work, retreats, and how we all are standing on the shoulders of giants.

This is a great listen for both men and women.

If you would like to sign up to join a Men's Group through the Uncivilized Nation, email us here: [email protected]

You can also send an enquiry via my website below.

Work with Miles:

https://milessalisburylpc.com

YouTube Channel

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

https://www.manuncivilized.com

My guest today is Davy Gillespie. We were connected through Dave Boyd and the Man Uncivilized Nation. We hit it off immediately and knew we needed to plant the flag for the Uncivilized Nation's Men's Group in the Portland area, and that we would become close friends given we have similar origin stories and backgrounds.

We cover a lot of interesting terrain in this one:

Religious Trauma.

Davy's story from his upbringing, current work, and moving towards becoming a psychotherapist and Men's Work supporter.

How Men's Work is Women's Work and Vice Versa.

Healing the gender wars.

Male Loneliness.

Why speaking with a Chaplain is easier than a Psychologist in Veteran and LEO circles.

AI "therapy".

Fatherhood, divorce, and breaking generational legacy wounds.

Our experiences having done Men's Work, retreats, and how we all are standing on the shoulders of giants.

This is a great listen for both men and women.

Davy's contact info for questions or if you would like to sign up to join a Men's Group through the Uncivilized Nation: [email protected]. You can also send an enquiry via my website below.

Work with Miles:

https://milessalisburylpc.com

YouTube Channel

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

https://www.manuncivilized.com