Miles Ahead: Strength for The Inner Life

Phil Horning and I are freshly returned to the relative and "civilized world". We give a brief synopsis of what we learned and went through at Traaver Boehm's Men's Initiation Retreat, as well as the deep healing we received from the experience.

For the Women listeners, this episode will help you understand the men in your life more and the pain they face (and good news, Uncivilized Inc. has an upcoming Women's retreat!, I'll link the website below).

Listen in to see how working with Duey Freeman and horses can change your life, how Michael Gay and Dave Boyd can help you to heal, and a shout out to Zach Miller for helping us fuel. And of course, how the legend Traver Boehm himself who started this movement to reach a million men is going.

I did a prior retreat and AAR podcast episode from Connor Beaton's retreat last year (3/25/24) and it was amazing to see how these two retreats interlock in amazing ways.

If you are on the fence about going to a men's retreat or wonder what you may be in for, this episode will give you a little peek through the lens of Phil and I's personal experiences there. And they were life-changing. Enjoy!

YouTube Channel

https://www.manuncivilized.com

Work with Phil:

https://thegroundedwarrior.com

https://www.instagram.com/the_grounded_warrior/

Work with Miles:

https://milessalisburylpc.com

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

Ever wondered how massage can heal men? Wonder no more.

Martin and I get into a lot of interesting topics:

Plant-based medicine.

Martin's Origin Story, growing up "on base", running from the military police, being homeschooled, his messaging about what manhood was and was not, and how he has come out of a dark night of the soul recently.

Martin talks about male loneliness, the problems men face with dating these days, and how he has overcome being a "nice guy" and more integrated.

How to more effectively cope with ADHD.

His approach to massage therapy in working with men and women, and how men could really benefit and heal from massage, not just physically, but emotionally as well.

Work with Martin:

www.wakepdx.com

Martin’s IG

https://www.youtube.com/@wakemassage_pdx

Work with Miles:

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

https://milessalisburylpc.com

 YouTube Channel

In today's chat, I have Todd Leuch who is a Voice Actor and also does Men's Work With Connor Beaton. We get into a lot of interesting topics:

Men's Work, how we both got into it.

Todd's growth experience doing the work, his adverse childhood experiences and trauma, and how he navigated having his father go to prison and needing to become the "man of the house" as a young boy.

Todd's voice-acting career and its budding success.

ADD/ADHD and how this has affected both of our lives and how we have battled and worked with it.

Parenting and fatherhood.

Todd's spiritual experience that changed his life.

And much more.

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

https://milessalisburylpc.com

 YouTube Channel

https://www.toddleuchvo.com

https://www.youtube.com/@ToddLeuchVO

www.linkedin.com/in/todd-leuch-a3262624b

https://www.facebook.com/todd.leuch

Books Mentioned:

The Mountain is You

Good Inside

The Power of Showing Up

Reclaim Your Nervous System

My Guest today is Dr Grant Headley, who is a Dr of Physical Therapy.

We cover how to be active and avoid injury, what to do about it if you are injured, how to stay physically healthy, and how one's psychological health can play a factor in injury prevention or contribute to it.

Other topics include how endurance sports or physical training can sometimes masquerade as addictions to avoidance of underlying mental health conditions or ways to cope with problems, rather than facing them, and how this can be a slippery slope. Grant talks somewhat about his past challenges and how he has grown into the healing and success he has in his personal life and business. We also talk about men's pelvic floor health, how this can affect erectile dysfunction and fertility, and what to do about it.

This conversation was a great synergy of mental and physical fitness.

Dr Grant's bio, contact information, and content:

Dr. Grant Headley, PT DPT - Specialized Physical Therapy for your evolving health

As a Doctor of Physical Therapy specializing in pelvic mobility and men's pelvic floor dysfunction, I offer comprehensive care that goes beyond symptom management to address the root causes of musculoskeletal issues.

My approach integrates precision movement education with cutting-edge therapeutic technologies. I empower you to understand your body's mechanics through proper exercise form and alignment principles drawn from yoga and strength conditioning—teaching you skills to maintain lifelong mobility and prevent joint degeneration.

For accelerated healing, I utilize advanced modalities including Winback TECAR therapy and Piezowave Focused Shockwave, providing non-invasive options for tissue regeneration, chronic pain relief, and skin health.

Whether you're dealing with pelvic dysfunction, or joint pain, or seeking to optimize your movement patterns, my goal is to equip you with both immediate relief and the knowledge to maintain long-term musculoskeletal health.

Schedule a consultation to begin your journey toward pain-free, confident movement.

I integrate this approach in the gym setting of Project 360 for athletes, in the medical wellness clinic Evergreen Factor for those dealing with chronic pain and dysfunction, and in the industrial setting for manual laborers. 

https://www.bodylistener.net

https://www.instagram.com/thebodylistener/

https://www.evergreenfactor.com

https://project360pdx.com

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

https://milessalisburylpc.com

 YouTube Channel

This was my first-ever crossover podcast. Michael has a podcast called The Adaptive Men. We decided to get together and talk about a variety of topics. We cover a lot of ground.

How Michael is transforming his gifts as a massage therapist into becoming a Men's Work Coach

How to Prioritize yourself

What Society Teaches Men

Why you need to Feel your Feelings

How hormones can dictate perception

Why modern psychotherapy sometimes doesn't land well with men

And so much more.

Pass this one on to a man you think could use it

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

https://milessalisburylpc.com

YouTube Channel

https://www.youtube.com/@AdaptiveMen

Michael's contact:

[email protected]

Micheal's Ebook https://docs.google.com/document/d/1FS0pHNXN7RVD1PC6KPwLuYlytc6CPadDUCltuc-O_nc/edit?usp=sharing

Fork in the Road Episode

In this episode, Miles and Josh discuss the struggles of the sandwich generation. How each of us copes with family, career, and health demands.

Miles shares his breakthroughs with his therapy and what has led to his growth in terms of addressing his narratives. How to complete the loop of learning and dismantle the trauma holding you back from your best.

What Josh is up to, why he has to take a step back, and how he will be a return guest.

YouTube Channel

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

https://milessalisburylpc.com

https://www.joshsabraw.com

https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/

https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

DMX

It's Dark and Hell is Hot

Gretta Von Fleet

Meeting the Master

Book: The Courage to be Disliked

By Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

This was a super fascinating and engaging conversation. Cedric's work is very powerful (as you will witness as Josh offers for me to be in the hot seat). He is sharing the stage at some big conferences coming up, (check his website and social media for more information) such as Gabor Mate, Matthias Barker, Peter Levine, and Thomas Hubl.

I think you will find this a very interesting and unique approach to doing deep work and finding change that has lasting effects.

https://www.cedricbertelli.com/free-guide

Cedric’s IG

YouTube Channel

https://milessalisburylpc.com

https://www.joshsabraw.com

https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/

https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

This is a spur of the (big moment) minisode brought about by the Eagle's HUGE win last night. I thought I'd take some time to relish in this but also use the moment to talk about the great connector for men, AKA, sports, and how we can move to more conversations of depth, and ultimately closer friendships. If you are female and have a man in your life who struggles to find male friendships or talk to men more, this one is for them. If this short episode helps anyone, please forward it on! I will do a deeper dive on this subject at some point as it is very rich. In the meantime, Go Birds!

In this episode Miles and Josh discuss the butterfly effect question, and how that may or may not reveal your unacknowledged regret or even areas of your life that you have been lost to "the maze"- a term coined by American Psychologist Phil Stutz- to describe where we abandon our power and become victims.

Dr Miles does a deep dive into meditation and how it can be extremely useful or an extreme waste of time.

Radiohead-Pyramid Song (What Miles is listening to)

Tiger Army- Forever Fades Away (What Josh is listening to) 

YouTube Channel

https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod

https://milessalisburylpc.com

https://www.joshsabraw.com

https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/

https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

How to use the pain of being human to your advantage.

In this episode, Miles and Josh go deeper into how developmental trauma influences the creation of the ego, the shadow, and what the "golden shadow" is, and what to do with this. We blend Jungian approaches, Buddhist Psychology, and other current psychotherapies, and usual bro-science (N of 2!) to the conversation. 

You will also learn how your past traumas and struggles contribute to your dharma (an aspect or truth of reality) or sacred duty (or not) to your life's purpose (or not).

YouTube Channel

https://milessalisburylpc.com

https://www.joshsabraw.com

https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/

https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

Links to music:

"Sometime After Midnight", The Airborne Toxic Event

Logic

100 Miles and Running