Miles Ahead: Strength for The Inner Life

What's it about: A continuation on the theme of Hope.

What mistakes do people make when it comes to setting goals?

How to set goals, even if you feel less empowered.

How to set goals that are right for you and not default goals that society gives you.

How will the listener benefit:

Learn what questions to ask of yourself to get centered on what you really care about.

Learn how to tell whether your goal is high or low confidence.

How to manage a difficult goal in a challenging space in your life.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions

James Doty's Book: Into the Magic Shop

Alan Watts: Into the Shadow

The Dandy Whorhols: A loan tonight

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Hopelessness, What it is, and how to define hope in an empowering way.

What's the episode about?

Zooming out for a moment and examining the state of affairs in America with more options than ever and also more despair.

How we go from despair to numbing, even from positive emotions and "normal" situations.

What Brene Brown's definition of Hope is, broken down into Goals, Pathways, and Agency.

How will the listener benefit:

Learn the components and benefits of hope.

Learn how we lose hope so easily, and what to do about it.

Learn about the power of resourcefulness and reference points, that can completely change your ability to self-lead.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions:

Keith Ferrazi and learning to ask people for help.

Leili Hormozi's definition of confidence as the willingness to experience any emotion that comes up during the day.

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Island (band)

https://open.spotify.com/artist/1UqvcbBmsHw8rjIZe1WiZl?si=zT0fv9ljQcWRA4PqssV8-Q

Soundgarden, Spoonman

https://open.spotify.com/track/1jMaB19DiVR8OihLSuYFOt?si=9aa38ced5d0040a3

This episode deepens the conversation about mental health and what our medical system is doing to make it worse.

What's it about:

How our Medical Establishment and symptoms-based approach is making our mental health crisis worse.

How our personality develops with pain and trauma in a way that changes our physiology.

How this process culminates in a disconnected sense of self that feels hopeless and purposeless.

How will the listener benefit:

Understand why they may feel psycho at times.

Understand why the problems are getting worse.

Learn about how we may be able to re-establish hope, as clinically defined in future episodes.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions:

Children in Poverty are 4X more likely to be prescribed an antipsychotic.

Our brains degrade over time when our disassociated parts are not re-associated through mental hygiene practices and various treatments.

Alan Watts- Meditations on Letting Go

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4XNyPjRUl1L3eKUTUaDFgL?si=e2d43e3dbab64994

White Buffalo-Wish It Were True

https://open.spotify.com/track/1TSCUaX1XkklmuxpuPUxyR?si=8d4422295c5a4869

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This episode drops into the conversation about mental health and why it is on everyone's mind.

What's it about:

What is the cause of overdiagnosis, over analyzation, and under-happiness of the US population?

How to stop yourself from getting pulled into armchair experts or even your friend's labeling of themselves in medical-speak?

How can we empathize with ourselves, our traumatic experiences, and the struggle we have with our family and friends?

How will the listener benefit:

Learn why the medical systems allow for random diagnosis of patients that may or may not have been vetted or reviewed.

Learn why so many people degrade in mental health function over time despite not technically having PTSD or a formal diagnosis.

Learn how families perpetuate trauma accidentally from one generation to the next.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions:

As much as 35% of the US population admits to some form of childhood trauma that is not classified as abuse or criminal neglect.

Developmental Trauma Disorder affects the brain development of as much as 40% of the middle class according to a 2011 Kaiser Permanente Study.

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Rhonda Patrick's Found My Fitness Podcast

https://open.spotify.com/show/5QjpaU0o1Q2MkVZwwG3y7d?si=c5d93b9f0431406b

Bad Religion

Sorrow

https://open.spotify.com/track/5KiS8SFnu21xI74mHgfZ3D?si=da03f1cb30fe47f5

This episode is about learning how to change your own health, your own relationships, or your own life.

What's it about:

The 5 types of students there are in any situation and why it sucks to be most of them.

How can you empower yourself as a student to learn and grow the most readily?

Why it is SO hard to change ourselves, or other people, based on our unique talents and circumstances?

How will the listener benefit:

You will learn key components to being a high performer in any category, including health and fitness or the emotional/relational realm.

Learn this one simple trick to immediately improve your ability to grow in any mental or physical program you are studying.

Learn how your perspective on failure, challenge, or threat, will completely change your level of enjoyment and your level of commitment to your own personal growth

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions

"Nothing ever works for me, the laws of physics do not apply to me because nothing can ever help me" is a sign you are one step from a breakthrough.

We don't need to learn more, most of the time we need to unlearn what is holding us back.

The Drive

https://open.spotify.com/show/63AWQmsSnFNFHUqnRAOFtD?si=8323ef371cf04138

Modern Wisdom

https://open.spotify.com/show/63AWQmsSnFNFHUqnRAOFtD?si=8323ef371cf04138

Five Finger Death Punch

https://open.spotify.com/track/2KZXCH4npY28gtZKXcB2N8?si=2bd2149574144cea

This episode is about a friend of the Pod, Phil Horning, and his work building himself as a man and serving others in the capacity of a coach

What's it about:

Why is it so challenging to grow up as a man today?

What is missing from our family lives that we need to learn, develop, and grow on our own?

How family tragedy strikes and yet motivates the work of the coach and the warrior alike.

How will the listener benefit:

How your suffering and confusion as a teen is different but also similar to those of your peers.

Learn how being driven is not enough without a clear vision.

How sharing your painful moments in life can be healing and connecting.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions

Balance in life does not mean equal time and energy or equal weight in decision-making.

A shamanic journey can be just what the doctor ordered

Why letting go is just as important as learning how to do something?

Grounded Warrior By Phil Horning

https://thegroundedwarrior.com/

Purpose discovery worksheet

https://thegroundedwarrior.com/s/Purpose-Discovery.pdf

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Changes

Bill Withers

https://open.spotify.com/track/3HC6U39266ytr7fMW9M2Mz?si=0Jxvvy-tSn6vwPHu1KPdnQ&preview=none

Neffex

Give me a sign

https://open.spotify.com/track/6E6LOtyRIzxb3RVhP98Onw?si=hPhZYNnYQV2J7Got3X1GYA&context=spotify%3Aalbum%3A23O9mUYzS4wveMzS8EAdQQ

Ich Will

https://open.spotify.com/track/1SlMYQmLe0yNEvBIfaPTAW?si=evPXVp-AReW3YuCVZdSMzg

Miles and Josh talk about what intimacy is and why it is so critically important to a happy life.

What's it about:

What keeps people from having the positive, intimate relationships that they desire?

How people confront their past in order to heal the trauma that keeps them from connecting.

What trauma looks and sounds in the life of a child whether it's physical abuse, neglect, abandonment, or enmeshment.

How will the listener benefit:

How a person learns to attune to themselves with the help of a therapist.

When you can do it on your own and when you cannot.

Why it matters that you uncover your traumatic past and heal it.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions:

Neurological loops and needs attunement- what happens when kids' needs are ignored, shamed, or suppressed for the convenience of adults

How these traumas contribute to a lack of intimacy between men and women.

Why is it impossible to heal by ourselves?

Songs mentioned:

Lauren Daigle

Thank God I do

https://open.spotify.com/track/2rpZ2T8xOiDnn5VpYXvwIC?si=f5e5d1e297af4504

Blink 182

Dammit

https://open.spotify.com/track/6WkSUgo1VdpzgtiXKlFPcY?si=70091c30fb884c133

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joshsabraw.com

Coach Josh solves the food issue once and for all

What's it about:

How Your Body Works, How Your Central Nervous System uses food to regulate hormones, heal tissues and build muscle

What Protein, Fats, and Carbs do for your body

How we go wrong with the food conversation

How will the listener benefit:

Learn why certain foods are labeled "healthy" and other foods are not

Learn what to eat in the right ratios to improve your mind and body

Identify the pitfalls that people fall into when trying to burn fat or change their shape

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions

Which carbs are healthy and unhealthy?

When to supplement and when to change your lifestyle?

Is eating too much protein bad for your kidneys?

Is vegan or carnivore the better diet?

Josh's program:

https://www.joshsabraw.com/metabolic-restoration-program

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Lovely Day

Bill Withers

https://open.spotify.com/track/0bRXwKfigvpKZUurwqAlEh?si=31b1f7d0cce344d6

Matt Kearney

Rochester

https://open.spotify.com/track/4KnYR8z11NP4EHFfe1z73I?si=14e48466d17e4267

Miles goes through the experiences that people have seeking therapy

What's it about:

Why people are motivated to seek therapy and what their problem REALLY is (hint, it's not always your mom).

What mistakes do people make including "working harder" at a job or relationship that they don't want?

What must shift inside a person to access emotions and their own authentic hopes and dreams?

How will the listener benefit:

How to address unconscious patterns, relationships, and traumas.

How to listen to yourself and address the shame that might overlay your wants, needs, and desires.

Learn how your subconscious mind will trick you into lying to yourself.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions:

How to know if you are ready for change?

How does Miles create a sense of safety with his patients so that they can share their feelings or experiences?

How does one separate the ego from the emotional body? The elephant from the rider?

The elephant represents the subconscious and emotional motivation and truth while the rider represents your ego, conscious mind, and executive function. The rider can influence the path of the elephant and often thinks they are in charge, when in fact the powerful pachyderm can shift the course of their journey at any time.

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Pearl Jam

Even Flow

https://open.spotify.com/track/6QewNVIDKdSl8Y3ycuHIei?si=e1de5c742b094a18

Neil Young

Heart of Gold

https://open.spotify.com/track/26QKxvjlCo2fSd3T4c8Zpb?si=172031ed33cf4451

Episode- Why do I have no friends?

Josh and Miles talk about the barriers to authentic relationships 

What's it about: 

How do we create toxic relationships? 

Attachment Theory and Styles Having strong connections, why they are important, and how we get in the way of real, authentic connections.

How will the listener benefit: 

Learn the most common mistakes that we unconsciously make which keeps us from real quality friendships and supportive relationships. Learn to be a better friend Learn why trying to fit in is ultimately destructive Learn an empowering definition of friendship and belonging.

Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions:

Letting other people influence you Being the dumbest person in the room 

What it looks like to be an anxious or avoidant person tiers of friendships 

What are your RULES for what it means to be a friend?

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Talking Heads, Once in a lifetime

https://open.spotify.com/track/38Ngied9rBORlAbLYNCl4k?si=1t0HIuxQRlWNfu-rhotnaw

AystarKop That Shit

https://open.spotify.com/track/0DsFdhimhkfSGEuBqY5kwE?si=oB50bXpdS36o6nEu-JWx4g