By Lindsey Wilson
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Despite goal setting becoming super mainstream over the last decade, most of what you hear about it just barely scratches the surface.
Sure, breaking down your goals, building vision boards, and learning to manifest is great, but what happens when you don’t feel like getting out of bed? What happens on weeks when you lose the spark and motivation to achieve your goals? Is the payoff of your goals really worth what it’s going to take to get there?
When you rely on mainstream goal setting techniques you leave yourself vulnerable to all the real life shit that makes it hard for anyone, even the most disciplined people in the world, to make real, lasting change.
So in today’s episode, we’re going to dig deep. We’ll talk about:
If you have a big goal, whether that’s to start a business, make the Olympic team, or move out of the country, this episode breaks down 6 key questions that will give you the absolute best shot of taking your goal from a dream to a reality.
Listen to the full episode for context, and come back to these 6 questions whenever you need them.
8 KEY QUESTIONS FOR GOAL SETTING
Let’s say your goal is to get in shape, here’s how you might answer these 8 questions.
#1. How will achieving this goal change your life? I’ll have more energy in the morning to play with my kids, I’ll feel strong and able to do the activities I love. It may help my mental health.
#3. What can I do to increase the likelihood of my success in this goal? Getting a trainer, planning ahead, getting friends on board, getting a babysitter, meal planning, joining a meal delivery service.
#4:What are some numbers behind the goal? Are they realistic? # of hours I’ll work out every week, $ of a membership/training, # of months to achieve my goal, # on a scale.
#6. Who am I going to become in this process? I get to become the person who shows up for myself and works at what I want, I get to become someone who works hard even when I don’t feel like it. I get to become someone who sets an example for my athletes and my kids.
#8. What’s my plan when I get off course? When I get off course, I’ll journal about my goal and re-commit to it. I’ll reach out to my accountability buddy and schedule a workout.
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This month in the Insider Program, we are going through a challenge that is designed to get us over our fear of rejection. It's about not letting our ego control our actions, and about interrupting thought patterns that work hard to keep us small.
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One of my coaches used to have this thing he called "The 5 Minute Rule". I come back to this rule anytime I don't want to do something.
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Today I am diving into something called The Motivation Triad.
The motivation triad basically says that your brain won’t waste energy on something that it doesn’t believe is going to work out.
Now, this manifested in my own life recently in a silly way, where I was struggling to figure out a new app and gave up, not realizing the solution was right in front of me. And I see it manifesting in the lives of my students as they build their businesses. Honestly, you can see the effects of The Motivation Triad everywhere and in your own life, once you understand what it is.
I highly recommend you listen to the full podcast, and remember this key takeaway: Before you decide to give up on something, whether it’s using a new app, or building a business, or working on any new skill, remind yourself to keep looking for a solution, even if one isn’t obvious right away.
Because the second you stop looking for a solution, that’s the moment you stop being curious. And when you stop being curious, it’s over. your creativity will shut down and you’ll get stuck in your own blindspots.
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What makes you feel STRONG?
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Today, I'm talking all about something called The Tutor Effect.
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When people ask me "What's the easiest way to get started with Mental Training?" The mistake ritual is one of the first tools I recommend.
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My interview earlier this year with Positive Psychologist, Chris DeSantis was such a goldmine that I immediately asked him to come present to our Insider Mastermind to teach them about positive psychology.
In our first episode together, Chris introduced positive psychology, but we really just scratched the surface. I’m thrilled to say that this episode goes so much deeper and leaves you with so many actionable ways to better help your athletes.
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Here’s a glance at the episode…
[0:55] Chris starts the episode by talking about some of the positive psychology concepts (like “growth mindset”) that have gone mainstream, and how these interpretations fall short.
[3:30] Classical psychology asks, “What’s wrong here, and how do we fix it? Positive psychology asks “What is the situation, and where is the opportunity?”
[6:06] Why do people practice visualization? Chris explains the value of visualization, and how it helps the human brain prepare for high stakes situations.
[8:46] There are a lot of unwitting disciples of BF Skinner, The King of Behaviorism. Chris believes humans are more complex than these studies are able to measure. Chris talks about how behaviorism feeds oversimplified assumptions about visualization.
[13:58] If your goal is to NOT think about something, you’ve set an impossible goal. Chris gives a “white bear” analogy that proves his point.
[17:54] Chris describes what’s happening in your brain during fight or flight, and how he helps to coach swimmers through the “worst case scenario”.
[20:15] Chris shares a specific example of working with an athlete and how he utilized negative visualization to help her move through her fears proactively.
[24:53] Sharing personal examples, Chris talks about a situation with a swimmer, one challenge of working with young athletes, and the importance of keeping everything in perspective.
[31:35] Bianca asks how Chris handles athletes who say “I don’t know” in response to his questions. Chris talks about his background in sports media and what it taught him about getting information out of athletes (like Michael Phelps).
[34:59] Lindsey shares a different way she has used negative visualization as an athlete, and the way she teaches it today.
[39:39] Lindsey and Chris discuss the role of negative visualization in calming the nervous system. Chris answers some questions from the group, starting with one student that asks if negative visualizations should be followed up with positive visualizations.
[45:40] The Insider Mastermind students are challenged to come up with a metaphor to help athletes release feelings after going through a negative visualization.
[47:36] Chris chats about his understanding of the relationship between Michael Phelps and his coach. A student asks how Chris finishes a negative visualization session with an athlete. Chris explains his intuitive approach, and relates to feeling nervous about using negative visualization as a coach.
[51:39] Lindsey wraps up the episode with a quick chat about fear of failure, how to anticipate obstacles, and how anxiety can increase by ignoring the worst case scenario. Chris shares his contact information and plugs his podcast, The Swim Brief.
NEGATIVE VISUALIZATION - SCRIPT
Ask your athelte to sit down and prepare to visualize. Then move through the following questions:
Continue to ask “what will happen next” until you get to the existential question.
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Mental Mondays are designed to give you one tip, tool, or technique that you can implement this week.
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If you are feeling 'off' it can be so easy to sink into chaos and forget just how easy it can be to pull yourself out of it - WITH the right process in place.
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