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Burnout is a topic that I feel like is tossed around a lot in media but I have a question for you to ponder: do you know what the signs are of burnout? And maybe even more importantly, do you know what to do if you are starting to feel like you're creeping toward the edge of burnout? Or maybe you're even already there! Let's talk about how to spot it and then what to do if it's invading your life and happiness.

Time Stamps:

[00:33] - What’s the definition of burnout?

[06:30] - Let go, and start to live a different lifestyle.

[11:31] - Getting the most important things done. PART 1

[16:04] - Getting the most important things done. PART 2

[22:11] - “I’m going to be better if I allow other people to help me.”

[27:36] - Receive help when people offer to help you.

[33:08] - What unnecessary tasks are you doing?

[39:28] - Unplug, recharge, and get back to who you are at the root: A real person.

Supporting Resources:

"Stand As True Millenials" Talk by Russell M. Nelson

"The Great Commandment-Love the Lord" Talk by Ezra Taft Benson

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If you've ever felt confused by how Jesus did everything for everyone and saved people and helped them and yet you can never do enough to feel like enough, then today's episode is

for you. If you've ever felt like you're not sure how to be a good Christian and also take care of your own needs, today's episode is also for you. I'm so excited to share with you the many examples I've found in the scriptures of how Jesus was not a codependent.

Time Stamps:

[00:53] - “Jesus was not a rescuer.”

[07:17] - “Mind your own business.”

[14:23] - Codependents usually want to save people from consequences, but everyone reaps what they sow.

[19:54] - Don’t expect people around you to mind-read. (Hint: They can’t.)

[24:13] - What is the sermon on the mount actually about?

[36:56] - “I’m not participating in this.”

[42:53] - There’s freedom and love in allowing people to choose for themselves.

Supporting Resources:

Go to codafree.org to get 20% off the Becoming Codafree Bootcamp through November 22nd

Scripture references in this episode:

Paul's thorn: 2 Cor. 12:7-10

Be of good cheer: John 16:33

Judge not: Matt. 7:1

Not a victim: John 18:11

Reap what you sow: Galatians 6:7-8

Powerlessness: Romans 7:14-15, 17, 19

Act, not react: Rev. 3:20

Ask for what you need: Matt. 7:7-8

It's okay to not be liked: Matt. 5:11-12

Misunderstanding the sermon on the mount: Matt. 5:38-42, but ALSO 44-47

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Jessica N. Turner is a content creator and tastemaker for busy moms looking for hacks to live life with more intention and less stress. She is a blogging veteran, having established her platform in 2006, and has continued to evolve to meet the needs of her community and the influencer industry. Jessica lives with her three children in Nashville, Tennessee. She is also a vocal LGBTQ ally and is proud of her positive co-parenting relationship with her ex-husband, author Matthew Paul Turner, who came out as gay in 2020.

Today Jessica and I are talking all about her experience as a divorced mom and what she's learned about co-parenting. So whether you're in that situation needing to co-parent through the holidays or you're trying to be a supportive family member to someone going through this, I think you're really going to learn a lot and feel very uplifted after hearing Jessica's story and message today.

ALSO, this whole topic came about because we are doing a big series live on Instagram on healthy holiday boundaries! Every day the week of November 13-17, Monday through Friday at 10am Pacific Time, I'II be going live on Instagram on my personal account @corrinestokoe to give you some tips on how to establish healthy holiday boundaries in your family interactions and what makes a healthy boundary, what's NOT a healthy boundary, and then some of the most common mistakes you can avoid while setting boundaries, especially during the holidays. If you happen to find this episode after that week, you can still go back and find the replays of all of those lives by going to my Instagram page @corrinestokoe and I'II have the series saved to a highlight bubble called BOUNDARIES.

You'll hear Jessica mention in today's episode that one of the key things she did in her divorce journey was her own work on herself, and if any of the episodes or content I've shared here or on Instagram about boundaries and codependency have spoken to you, we're officially RE-OPENING the becoming codafree bootcamp this week with a Black Friday discount, THE biggest discount we'll offer the entire year. If you want to hear more, DM me the word codafree on Instagram and I'lI send you more info. Now let's get into today's episode.

Time Stamps:

[02:40] - Jessica Turner talks about how she started her blog.

[06:53] - Jessica recalls the start of her divorce and her journey into co-parenting.

[10:11] - Jessica talks about being able to recognize herself as a person among the many roles she fills for others.

[15:44] - How can co-parents discuss ways to manage the time children spend with each parent?

[20:52] - What is Jessica’s advice if you’re starting your co-parenting journey?

[24:33] - What if it’s your first holiday season while co-parenting?

[32:46] - Jessica talks about the people in her support system that helped make things easier.

[41:36] - How do you create a new normal while co-parenting, especially during the holidays?

Supporting Resources:

Jessica's IG @jessicanturner 

Jessica’s Website

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If the holidays make you nervous, anxious, or stressed because of any kind of FAMILY dynamic, then today's episode is specifically just for you. We're going to talk through some of the ways you can avoid having drama, stressing yourself out about people pleasing, and instead hold really good, healthy holiday boundaries to make 2023 your most codafree holiday season ever. I also have a download for you if you feel like you could use a little help with some examples of healthy holiday boundaries! Go to my profile on Instagram @corrinestokoe and DM me the word HOLIDAYS, and I'lI send you my list of healthy holiday boundary examples that you can keep in your back pocket and brush up on before all your family holiday gatherings or as those conversations pop up in your family group texts or when you see your in-laws phone calls come through. ALSO if you find today's episode helpful to you, make sure you're following me @corrinestokoe on Instagram because we're going to be doing a LIVE series every day next week, November 13-17, at 10am pacific time, where we'll talk about having codafree holidays this year in way more depth, we'll be answering more questions that people submit and giving lots of tips on this topic.

Time Stamps:

[01:22] - Corinne and Neil recall one of the worst fights in their relationship, which happened around the holidays.

[10:26] - What does codependency look like during the holidays?

[15:32] - “What would it look like if _____?”

[22:31] - Corinne and Neil give examples of how to have a Codafree Healthy Holiday.

[30:31] - Do you find it tricky to balance time between families during holidays?

[41:16] - Do you have an overbearing family member disrupting your holiday?

[47:57] - Are you close to family members who don’t get along with each other?

[54:36] - How do you communicate your holiday non-negotiables?

Supporting Resources:

If you're curious at all about how codependent you might be, go to mintarrow.com/quiz to take our free "how codependent are you" quiz to find out!

Get our list of Codafree Healthy Holiday Boundaries by DMing me the word

HOLIDAYS on instagram.com/corrinestokoe

"Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself" Book by Melody Beattie 

"Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If You Life Depended On It" Book by Chris Voss

"Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less" Book by Greg Mckeown

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This year I challenged myself to be as unfiltered and real as possible on this podcast so today I'm really putting that to the test as Neil and I share our most unpopular opinions. The point of today's episode isn't to persuade you to think just like us in all aspects, but to hopefully encourage you to stand out, speak up, and be different from the world. Be OKAY with not going with the flow of the world. I promise you that as you stand for something, in your homes, in your private lives, in your conversations, in the way you live and teach and lead, you will find greater happiness.

Time Stamps:

[00:43] - Corinne explains her experience of going to the Taylor Swift: The Eras Tour movie and why her recent reel went viral.

[05:18] - Corinne and Neil talk about staying close to what matters to them personally, even in the little things.

[10:19] - “You should do whatever you feel good about.”

[12:46] - Corinne and Neil discuss relative truths vs consistent truths.

[19:23] - Although romantic, another person does not actually “complete” you.

[24:19] - Your parents aren’t responsible for your adult problems.

[27:50] - “Get used to it.”

[31:27] - The idea of dissolving the patriarchy could be more balanced.

[37:14] - Corinne and Neil talk about having an open mind while keeping your values.

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We all have funny, quirky, sometimes weird, sometimes empowering thoughts and beliefs about money. How much it defines us, how we use it, how we get it, and what it's for in this life. Today Neil and I are going to unpack our beliefs about money and what we’re still working on, and our tools for success and happiness and having enough money for everything we need in this life.

Time Stamps:

[00:30] - What mindsets do you have around money?

[05:29] - Corinne and Neil talk about money beliefs being different from person to person.

[11:52] - Truths are truths.

[17:53] - “You don’t get to take it with you.”

[20:23] - Corrine and Neil explore the idea of generosity, abundance, and money mindset.

[26:41] - “What’s your secret to success?”

[31:51] - Corrine and Neil talk about feeling impressions when it comes to money and financial decisions.

[38:06] - “I can do this.”

Supporting Resources:

"Think Celestial!" Talk by Russell M. Nelson

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Mary Beesley has been a daydreamer since childhood, but after having profound difficulty learning to read, she couldn't be more surprised to have fallen in love with books. She writes stories that find hope in hardship and shine light on the goodness and strength of the human spirit. She's received a Crowned Heart of Excellence Review and a five-star Readers' Favorite Award. Her seventh published novel, called The Second Time Around, comes out October 31st.

Mary and I have been friends for 20 years and are now living close by in the beaches of South Orange County. She and I chatted recently about writing and creativity, and when she shared her inspirational story of going from struggling to even learn to read to now being a seasoned author, I knew it was something I wanted to share with you. And with her new book releasing at the end of this month, I figured there couldn't be a better time! If you love inspirational stories, or even have been curious about what it takes to become a published author, you're going to love today's episode.

Time Stamps:

[01:06] - Mary Beesley talks about struggling with reading when she was younger.

[05:15] - When did Mary start writing?

[11:39] - How does Mary approach writing?

[15:14] - Mary talks about wanting people to have their own experiences while reading.

[21:33] - Are you willing to put in “10,000 hours” for your goals?

[26:18] - How does Mary decide when a book feels complete?

[31:55] - “We have to let our minds rest.”

[37:10] - Mary talks about the strength of human spirit and hope.

Supporting Resources:

Find Mary's latest books at https://www.marybeesley.com/

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We all know the Tim McGraw song, "Live Like You Were Dying," but this topic has been on our minds and hearts recently after losing some really incredible people in our lives, who we'll share a little about today. If you've ever wondered about how to really make life worthwhile, or the regrets of the dying, or how to not regret the little time you have on this earth, that's what we're going to talk about today.

Time Stamps:

[00:37] - What is it like to live a full life and look back on it fondly?

[05:12] - How does life change when finding out your life will end soon?

[10:33] - People remember the little things most because those were the big things that left a lasting memory.

[15:51] - “Travel well the journey.”

[21:44] - Corrine and Neil talk about making the most of life and not waiting for the “perfect time.”

[26:24] - “We were born to die, and we die to live.”

[31:08] - “Let it be.”

[36:19] - Treat this life like the gift it is.

Supporting Resources:

"Finding Joy in the Journey" Talk by Thomas S. Monson

"Doors of Death" Talk by Russell M. Nelson

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Nicole Walters is a former top-selling corporate executive who quit her six-figure sales job to pursue her passion and build a multi-million dollar business, coaching fellow dreamers and entrepreneurs. She is the host of a popular podcast, a TV personality, in-demand motivational speaker and the author of the forthcoming memoir NOTHING IS MISSING: A MEMOIR OF LIVING BOLDLY. Nicole is passionate about teaching everyday people how to own their power and trust they already have everything they need to succeed. She and I have been friends for MANY years throughout our online entrepreneurial journeys and I can't wait to share more of her wisdom and goodness with you today.

Time Stamps:

[00:50] - Nicole Walters helps women build businesses without compromising themselves or their values.

[06:24] - Nicole recalls her daughter's cancer journey and trusting faith.

[10:21] - Humility changes the way you pray.

[15:28] - “Everything’s right, everything’s wrong, but nothing is missing.”

[18:18] - What childhood lessons shaped Nicole’s life perspective most?

[22:36] - The journey is the purpose, not just the destination.

[29:02] - “Grant yourself some grace.”

Supporting Resources:

Follow Nicole on social media 

Instagram @nicolewalters

Facebook @nicolewalters

Twitter @nicolewalters

Get Nicole's new book "Nothing is Missing" at nothingismissingbook.com

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Joshua Broome, once a renowned adult film star, went on an empty journey that led him to realize that fame, wealth, and worldly success couldn't fill the void in his heart. Overcoming depression, battling suicidal thoughts, and healing from the emotional scars of his past, Joshua has spent the last five years sharing his story on podcasts, TV shows, and stages, spreading God's message of restoration. Transformed by the life-giving power of Jesus, he has found healing and replaced lies with God's truth. Joshua holds a bachelor's degree in Christian Ministries from Liberty University and is dedicated to helping those who feel their lives are irreparable due to the brokenness of their past to find hope, healing, and restoration.

Time Stamps:

[00:54] - Joshua Broome recalls how he developed an unhealthy relationship with success at a young age.

[06:46] - Joshua moved to LA for modeling, but it led to something else.

[11:54] - What did Joshua think of the industry, and how did it impact the way he viewed himself?

[15:57] - Joshua talks about a visit to a church that changed his perspective. What happened?

[26:49] - People may be struggling with the same issues, but most don’t discuss their experiences.

[34:44] - Seeking false intimacy can drain your energy emotionally, spiritually, and physically. How can you get out of the cycle?

[43:13] - “Don’t do things that are going to lead you into temptation.”

[45:56] - What’s the message Joshua wants to share today?

Supporting Resources:

Joshua's Instagram @iamjoshuabroome

Joshua's TikTok @iamjoshuabroome

Joshua's webpage joshuabroome.me

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