A mysterious green tupperware offers a portal to the past. Sarah and Alex talk about how their feelings about hierarchy, sleepovers, vetoes and more have changed over five years of being polyamorous.

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Sarah and Alex investigate mind-blowing, legendary, earth-moving sex, to find out if such a thing actually exists, and if so, how to have it.

Mentioned in the episode:

Sexucation for Men Podcast | "Take my Breath Away" Scene from Top Gun | Partner-Specific Learning

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Sarah and Alex unpack the mournful refrain: "if only I was into girls," and question whether modern relationships between men and women are fundamentally doomed.

Mentioned in the episode:

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward | Midsommar (film) | The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood | If Hetero Relationships Are So Bad, Why Do Women Go Back For More? On The Cut

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How does death, loss and grief impact our relationships? After a year filled with loss, Sarah and Alex talk to a trauma-informed spiritual care provider about the taboos around death, and what happens to our desire when people around us die.

Mentioned in the episode:

Close to the Knives: A Memoir of Disintegration by David Wojnarowicz | Without: Poems by Donald Hall | Wayward Lives, Beautiful Experiments: Intimate Histories of Riotous Black Girls, Troublesome Women, and Queer Radicals by Saidiya Hartman

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Is it you? Is it me? Are you moving to Antarctica?? In this episode we talk about how and how not to end a relationship.

Mentioned in the episode:

@karamintheworld on Instagram

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Are the same dynamics screwing up our relationships also hampering our social movements? Sarah and Alex talk to activist and law professor Dean Spade about the romance myth, capitalism and love in this f*cked up world.

Mentioned in the episode:

Love in a F*cked Up World | DeanSpade.net | The Death Panel | Movement Memos

Also by Dean Spade:

Mutual Aid | Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law

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Encore episode

Romance: what does it mean?? Sarah, Alex and Jess talk about their favorite romantic movies on the hottest day of the year. And finally answer the question: what IS romance? Or, do they just come up with 5,000 new questions? Listen to the end to find out! This episode first aired in August 2024.

Mentioned in the episode:

Say Anything (Cameron Crowe, 1989) | The Graduate (Mike Nichols, 1967) | Wayne's World (Penelope Spheeris, 1992) | John Mahoney | Limerence on Wikipedia | In Your Eyes

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Last episode we started to talk about race in dating, and tbh…mistakes were made. So this episode we're doubling down! Ramsey shares his experience dating as a Black polyamorous man in Seattle, offers advice for white people dating other races, and asks us "taboo" questions about our own experiences.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Pacific Northwest BIPOC Polyamory group

• TV Shows & Movies Recommended by Ramsey:

• Atlanta

• Insecure

• A Million Little Things

• Moonlight

• I Am MLK Jr.

• The Boondocks

• Kindred

• This is Us Season 1

• Match's 2023 Singles in America Study

• Facebook - Free Emotional Labor Club

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We had such an interesting side conversation with Reagan about her experience working with a dating coach that we had to make a bonus episode all about it.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Still True

• Reagan Jackson

• Anwar White, Dating and Relationship Coach

• Get Your Guy Podcast with Anwar White

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Sarah and Alex's skeptical monogamous friend Reagan Jackson is back to grill them about sex, jealousy, and whether they're just dating other versions of each other over and over.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Still True

• Reagan Jackson

• Sarah's interview in Psychology Today: Societal Implications of Consensual Non-Monogamy

• The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity and Love. bell hooks

• Queer and Questioning Men of Seattle Meetup Group

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