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Is polyamory a salve for loneliness? Or just a way to escape our fear of being alone with ourselves? Sarah reflects on her 'poly sabbatical' and Alex explores the psychological roots if his poly enthusiasm.

Mentioned in the episode:

HHS Report on Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation | Angela Garbes | The Cut - Quiet Quitting Your Marriage | Abigail Brenner - The Importance of Being Alone | Being Happy Alone is a Green Flag in Poly | Episode 18: Threesomes, Throuples and Unicorn Hunting

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Evangelical-turned-athiest Tyson returns to the show, this time to help us unpack why so many people from religious backgrounds like his find their way to polyamory, and how religious trauma impacts our relationships.

Mentioned in the episode:

Pew Research: Evangelical Protestants in the U.S. | Poly Philia: Why Unicorn Hunting Doesn't Work | Hierarchical Polyamory vs. Non Hierarchical Polyamory vs. Relationship Anarchy

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Sarah & Alex talk with Dr. Nicole, host of the Modern Anarchy podcast about jealousy, religious trauma and the first EVER study on relationship anarchy.

Oh, and the parallels between psychedelics and New Relationship Energy (NRE).

Mentioned in the episode:

Upstream Podcast | Layla Martin | Talk: "Everything you Know About Addiction is Wrong" | New Relationship Energy [NRE] | Seek the Risk | Suicide rates by gender | People chasing ICE with their cars in Chicago

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Modern Anarchy with Dr. Nicole

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It's an extra special live episode of Mistakes Were Made! Sarah and Alex are joined by Jessa Davis, Elizabeth Cunningham, and return guest Ramsey for a conversation all about relationship equality, representation, and how to talk to your family about polyamory. Tyson (remember him from episode 33: Solo Poly Showdown??) is our emcee.

Mentioned in the episode:

SCFRE | https://www.open-love.org/

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Has a relationship ever made you feel like a scared little kid? You might be resurfacing trauma from an earlier life stage. In the Season 5 premiere Sarah and Alex welcome spooky season with a deep dive into the many ways unexplored trauma could be what's messing up our relationships. Eek! 👻👻👻

Mentioned in the episode:

Erikson's Stages of Development | True adolescence disrupted by Queer phobic context | Performative Male | Extended Adolescence | Parts Work | Dr. Gabor Maté | DARVO | SCFRE

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What are my boundaries? What are my needs? How do I share them with my partners? Sarah and Alex try to understand the differences between rules and boundaries, needs and desires.

Mentioned in the episode:

Glitter & Greed: The Lisa Frank Story

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Hollywood made a movie about open relationships (sort of). We watched it so you don't have to!

Mentioned in the episode:

Splitsville | Together | Together's free couples therapy gimmick |

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Sarah and Jessica are fasting this week, so we're sharing an episode that first aired in the spring of 2024. Is polyamory inherently apolitical? Is it just an excuse for rich people to avoid thinking about climate change? Did Sarah accidentally make out with a Trump supporter at the ferry dock??? Tune in to find out!

Mentioned in the episode:

Parents Fast for Gaza | @parentsfast4gaza on instagram | @stute on instagram | The Atlantic - Polyamory, the Ruling Class's Latest Fad | Time Magazine - Polyamory isn't just for liberals: The Surprising Political Evolution of American Polyamory | More: A Memoir of Open Marriage | Stranger in a Strange Land

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Sarah and Alex talk with therapist and 'Crush Coach' (it's not what you think), Calvin Burnap, about mindfulness, queerness and the gift of bad sex.

Mentioned in the episode:

The Crush Coach | The Crush Coach on Instagram | All About Love | Esther Perel | The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin | Jenny Hayo | Dan Savage

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A mysterious green tupperware offers a portal to the past. Sarah and Alex talk about how their feelings about hierarchy, sleepovers, vetoes and more have changed over five years of being polyamorous.

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