Mistakes Were Made

Are the youngs living in queer poly utopia or what? Sarah and Alex recruit their 20 something barista, Mattise Wood, to find out.

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Special live episode featuring some of our favorite mistakes. Recorded May 9, 2024 in Seattle, WA.

Check out the slides from the live episode: https://www.mentimeter.com/app/presentation/n/alkskyvkpq54ehb844w3r2oejcjo4d6a/present

Evergreen hearts on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EvergreenHeartsOrg

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We finally get to learn about relationship anarchy. Hope you're hungry for a smorgasbord!

Maxx Hill, curator of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord, joins to talk about the infinite possibilities of how you can "customize your commitments" when you let go of societal expectations. Open the link and follow along!

Mentioned in the episode:

• Relationship Anarchy Manifesto
• Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord [https://tinyurl.com/rasmorgasbord]
• Maxx Hill, @maxxhillcreates, on Instagram

More about Mistakes Were Made:

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Mentioned in the episode:

• The Atlantic - Polyamory, the Ruling Class's Latest Fad
• Time Magazine - Polyamory isn't just for liberals: The Surprising Political Evolution of American Polyamory
• More: A Memoir of Open Marriage
• Stranger in a Strange Land
• Brand new logo by eroyn franklin! www.whateverfactory.org

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Encore episode!

Let's talk about sex (or die trying)! Sarah and Alex finally attempt to actually discuss sexual dynamics in non-monogamy without laughing or crying.

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An actually useful explanation of how to play the three minute game (since ours went so sideways): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KCzpNBNbVM&t=80s

Or download the pamphlet here: https://bettymartin.org/download-wheel/

Don't miss:

Evergreen Hearts - Polyamory Pitfalls - Thursday May 9th, 6:30pm

Evergreen Hearts Polyamory Expo

The Whatever Factory

Who should you tell you're poly??? A death in the family sparks different reactions from Alex and Sarah about how open to be with family and friends.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Evergreen Hearts - Polyamory Pitfalls - Thursday May 9th, 6:30pm
• The Cut: 5 people tell their coming out stories
• Business Insider: Coming out as poly is the hardest kind of coming out
• The Poly Coach: Coming out as polyamorous
• Feeld: Guide to Coming out as Poly

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Alex wants to talk about performance anxiety….and Sarah really, really doesn't.

Mentioned in the episode:

Evergreen Hearts - Polyamory Pitfalls - Thursday May 9th, 6:30pm

Cleveland Clinic: Erectile Dysfunction

Book: The Ice Storm, by Rick Moody

Hump! 2024 National Tour Dates

Book: Come as You Are, by Emily Nagoski

"5 things you can say to someone who didn't have an org@sm" from @QueerSexTherapy on Instagram

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Two local organizers talk about their experiences being solo poly; what they like about it, the challenges, independence, couples privilege and more. Stay tuned for the lightning round!

Mentioned in the episode:

• Puget Sound Polyamory Meetup Group
• Evergreen Hearts
• Poly Prom
• Newcomers Social
• Connections Speed Dating
• Puget Sound Polyamory
• The NY Times says solo poly is just a fancy word for dating around…lol

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Our guest is "Manthropologist" Dr Eric FitzMedrud (okay, we made that title up, he doesn't really call himself that). We asked Dr FitzMedrud to decode Sarah and Jessica's bad dates with men, using tools from his book The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex.

Dr FitzMedrud, who is poly and bi, takes a compassionate approach to understanding the patterns men bring to both poly and mono relationships, and helps them unpack their violent socialization, emotional isolation, and destructive masculinity in his psychotherapy practice, his writing, and in this episode.

To learn more, visit https://www.drericfitz.com/the-better-man/

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Special Midnight Mini episode: Polyamory seems to have suddenly gone mainstream, with the New Yorker and New York Magazine running cover stories in the last couple months. Sarah and Alex dig into the icky feelings that came up reading these stories, and realize that it might be about uncomfortable trends that implicate them.

Mentioned in the episode:

• The Cut, New York Magazine: A Practical Guide to Polyamory

• How did polyamory become so popular? (The New Yorker)

• American Poly, by Christopher M. Gleason

• More: A Memoir of Open Marriage by Molly Rodden Winter

More reading:

• How a polyamorous mom had a 'big sexual adventure' and found herself (NY Times)

• @Bimbo.Theory on Instagram

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