Mistakes Were Made

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Mistakes Were Made episodes

August 08, 2022 Ep 11: Advice for Opening a Relationship - Season 1 Finale!
Thinking about opening your marriage? This episode is full of advice from long-term couples who have transitioned to non-monogamy: common mistakes to avoid, arrangements that seem work best, and genuine guidance from folks who have been through it.
1 hr 6 min
July 25, 2022 Ep. 10: Cheating (and trust)
Sarah and Alex revisit a past infidelity. Jessica wonders if non-monogamy is an 'answer' to cheating in a relationship. Will and Jada stop by for a tearful conversation about continuing their marriage after a breach of trust.

Will & Jada clip on YouTube

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1 hr 15 min
July 11, 2022 Ep 9: Moral Autonomy (and Reproductive Justice)
Really America, forced preganacy?? What's next? Sarah, Alex and Jessica talk about the intersections between reproductive justice and non-monogamy: How free are we to define our own morality and make our own choices? Why do we cede these choices to government or religious authorities? What happens when those authorities lose their legitimacy?

NPR on Abortion access impacts on men: https://www.npr.org/2022/06/27/1107715589/abortion-access-impact-on-men

Pew Research on conflicting conceptions of morality: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/04/15/whats-morally-acceptable-it-depends-on-where-in-the-world-you-live/

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1 hr
June 27, 2022 Ep 8: The Monogamous Skeptic with Reagan Jackson
"But why tho?" A lovingly skeptical friend presses Sarah and Alex on their decision to open their marriage and gets all her nonmonogamy questions answered. Featuring Seattle artist, author, executive director and podcaster Reagan Jackson.

Y-We * Reagan's website * South End Mixtape

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1 hr 36 min
June 13, 2022 Ep 7: The Meaning of Love with Carrie Jenkins
"Philosophy's Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" talks about the amatonormative scripts, mental health and her new book introducing the concept of eudaimonic love. That's a lot of $5 words, but don't worry, we also talked about fish sticks and nursery rhymes. https://www.carriejenkins.net/
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1 hr 3 min
May 30, 2022 Ep 6: Platonic Polyamory (And loving your friends)
A weekend retreat with a friend reminds Sarah that non-monogamy isn't just about sex.

Opening/closing quote from Kai Cheng Thom: https://kaichengthom.com/

Ban on co-living: https://www.kansascity.com/news/local/article260770552.html

It's your friends who break your heart: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2022/03/why-we-lose-friends-aging-happiness/621305/

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1 hr 4 min
May 16, 2022 Ep 5: Polyam Parenting (and how to talk to your kids)
What do you say when your kid outs you as non-monogamous to their teacher? How does growing up in a non-monogamous family impact kids? Won't anyone think of the children??? https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ [email protected]
Episode links:

The reddit post about swingers with an upset adult son

Between 1993 and 2018 about 45 percent of marriages ended in divorce.
1 hr 11 min
May 02, 2022 Ep 4: Falling in Love (and attachment)
Sarah and Alex hit a rough patch after he says the three magic words to his new partner. What is attachment? What is new relationship energy? What does 'love' really mean?
1 hr 3 min
April 18, 2022 Ep 3: Breaking up (and the monogamy escalator)
Sarah recalls ending a relationship with a text, and realizes she's been insensitive to new partners' feelings.
58 min
April 04, 2022 Ep 2: Dating a couple (and trauma)
Sarah prepares for an overnight tryst with a new connection, and finds out that trying to "keep up" with your partner can lead to ignoring your own boundaries.
54 min

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Non monogamy for imperfect people. Hosted by a queer therapist and her husband of 15 years. Sarah & Alex share their experiences opening their marriage, and interview guests about the struggles…