Mistress Wellbeing

Does anxiety blight your life? It can take hold like a weed and build momentum so easily.

 

Today, I have a powerful anxiety interruption tool to share with you.

 

Anxiety is like allowing what you don't want to grow and flourish in your mind and consequently, in your life.

But it also gives you a clue about what you DO want!

I'll bet what you want is the exact opposite of what you worry about, so here's the hack.

When you notice yourself worrying, stop and ask, 'What is it I want?'

Now repeat what you want in the present tense as if it's actually happening.

There's your mantra, and if you use it every time you worry, life will unfold differently.

How life evolves is a direct expression of our feelings, beliefs, and thoughts.

That's a scary idea!

Especially as our conscious mind only contributes to 5% of what we feel, believe and think.

What I think of as 'Me' is just the tip of the iceberg Freud described, and underneath is the greater 95% of the unconscious mind.

This is where conditioning from our life experiences resides, in ideas which rarely rise to the surface of conscious awareness, yet influence everything from our attitude to money to our day-to-day health.

And not just our experiences live here.

Also, the experiences from at least three generations before us have taken up residence and are impacting the way our contemporary life unfolds.

Interested?

I am, because these epigenetic changes in our DNA which affect gene expression and give rise to the stories we tell ourselves can shift when we work with them.

I refer you to Mark Wolynn's excellent book, 'It Didn't Start With You', which is eminently readable and may just change your life.

So today on the pod I'm exploring this idea, and giving you some tools to work with this unconscious imprinting so you can liberate yourself from the limiting beliefs and stories from the past.

 

I've been practising yoga at home for the past three months, and today I'm exploring the variety of ways this can support you.

During lockdown, I completed a 200 hr yoga teacher training and I teach on my retreats and one to one. 

 I really enjoy teaching, and have created my unique way to create classes which support inward turning and reflection, while moving the body through poses which allow it to decompress.

The after effects of yoga never cease to amaze me!

I feel calm and energised, centered and still, strong and balanced.

So today I'm exploring how my home practice has become a varied delight to suit how I'm feeling and what I need each day.

Between meditation, mantra, pranayama, yin, restorative and vinyasa, there's a lot to choose from, so let's dive in and see how a home practice might support you too!

Are you holding onto an identity that no longer serves you?

Often it's a part of your identity which has taken a lot of time, effort and money to win.

Like me with my Medical Registration.

 I graduated in 1987 and I've been registered as a doctor ever since.

Till now.

The time is upon me to release this part of my life, so that other, new, exciting opportunities can flood in.

 Today I'm exploring how to do this with self compassion and kindness, so that life can flow and emerge organically in the true direction of your desire.

Have you ever become really excited about an idea for a creative project, a business, a holiday, or an adventure, and then come crashing down because it all becomes too overwhelming?

It's a thing, and I call it, 'The Speed Wobble'.

Today I'm exploring this phenomenon and how to ground yourself so that the speed wobble doesn't derail your excitement and drive.

Because when you can hold the energy of excitement in your body, you can do great things!

Knowing how to ground your energy will support you to have those wild ideas and take them to fruition, so you can be all you may be.

 

 

🔸 Don't Be a Hostage of Your Mind 🔸

 I often find my mind chasing what I desire and avoiding what I fear, causing a lot of suffering.

 I want to break free from this cycle and experience peace, love, and joy, but my mind is very persistent!

It's programmed to seek pleasure, attaching itself to what I like, and trying to avoid anything unpleasant. It's like being trapped in a loop of craving and aversion, where I never feel satisfied, and really, there is no peace.

When I allow my desires and fears to rule my mind, it creates a sort of "hell realm" within me, where I miss out on fully experiencing life. I end up burdened by unfulfilled desires and unsubstantiated fears.

Psychotherapy is a powerful way to understand this judgemental, grasping, unsatisfied nature of mind and gently stepping away from its grip. 

If you want to break free from the mind's stronghold, gain clarity, and experience profound tranquility and confidence, psychotherapy can be a powerful step on the journey.

 

Embracing experimentation. Getting unstuck   A year ago, I took up ceramics.   In a very experimental way.   I had little belief that there was much artistry inside me after years of giving myself the message, “I can’t draw”. Has anyone out there had a similar experience?   Here’s what happened.   I felt driven but lost. 😱 I wanted to achieve and realised it was about playing. I turned a joyful light thing into work 😂 (there’s a pattern!) I pressed on and explored new things. I felt down hearted as much as uplifted by the process of birthing a new part of me. I found a community to share the struggle and the failures and the success.    

Wellbeing Myths explored in this episode,   🌻Your happiness is entirely within your control.   🌻It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you make meaning of those events.   🌻 It’s not betrayal to move beyond your family story   🌻 You’re not destined to be depressed/anxious because it’s in your family   🌻 Giving feels better than receiving. What can you give that feels comfortable, easy, and fun?   🌻 Those sad, negative self views may not be true   🌻 If a thought isn’t helpful, you can replace it with a more uplifting one.

It’s completely free. 🥰   What am I talking about? Nothing is completely free!!   But this is. A sense of inner wellbeing.   And when it’s topped up and fizzing over, life is so good. It builds momentum in an upward spiral.   When I feel good, I choose a healthy lunch, go for a walk, do yoga.   When it’s on empty, not so much.   I’m having a nearly empty day today.   It happens.   But I know how to fill up my tank. It’s completely free and just requires my awareness and a few minutes of time.   What do you do when your well-being gauge is negative?   Here are my go-to tips.

Hit your mid-forties? Maybe even fifty?   Are you noticing that building career, wealth and status is no longer satisfying, and you’re hungry to reconnect with your values and bring meaning to your life?   If so, I’m excited for you.   Because midlife is the time for making exactly this shift, it’s a different season of life.   The change involves recognising that you’re done with ego building, you’ve explored the economics of enough, and you’re ready to incorporate a new metric into your life.   It’s the metric of wellbeing and creating what brings you joy.    Because Mother Nature isn’t messing around.   You won’t be here forever.