Mistress Wellbeing

I'm off today to Nice, where I'll spend a week with my family before joining my retreat ladies in Villefranche-sur-Mer.

It's very exciting and uplifting to be at this point.

I came up with the idea of adventure-wellbeing retreats a while ago and started off going to Bali every six months.

I know that many of you are hungry for adventure, and also hungrey to travel with a group of like-minded women.

We will be exploring sights, museums, restaraunts together while also doing a serious piece of wellbeing work.

I'd love to invite you into my community so you can experience the joy of adventure while looking after yourself with yoga, meditation and music.

Join me today for more.

 

Personality has huge of momentum.

The stories we tell ourselves have often been running for decades, and consolidate into who we think we are.

But actually, they're just that.

Stories.

Which arise from experiences and meaning-making when we're small, vulnerable and prone to another of our unhelpful thinking styles, personalisation. 

This is where we make the event all about us.

I'll be exploring this in more detail in a few weeks time, but for now, let's feel into the momentum these stories develop, and how they can come to feel rigid, stuck and inescapable.

'I'm just a depressed person'

'People don't like me"

'I don't belong.'

These are some of the fundamental beliefs which can arise from our meaning-making and the repetitive stories we choose to tell ourselves.

The good new is, this can change.

Join me today on the podcast to hear more.

How did you spend your Easter break?

How often do you do what lights you up?

Whether walking in nature, camping on a deserted (except for 1000 4WD's) island, making music, playing sport; how do you find pleasure in life?

I can hear the sharp intake of breath.

Is it ok for us to take pleasure or should it be all hard work?

It's not an uncommon belief that taking pleasure is too much, too lax. It will make us soft and it will lead to failure.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

So today I'm exploring how do you find fun and enjoyment in life and how often do you make this a priority?

Come join me.

Yoga calms the fluctuations of the mind. Today I'm talking about 'Poser', a novel about life in 23 yoga poses. It's a joy to read, and really sets out the benefits of yoga during difficult times of growth and learning. I relate to many of the experiences Claire had as she developed her practice, and I'm sharing this over the Easter weekend because you might just have time to read the book! PS It's available as an ebook on Libby

Joy is a simple thing.   I experience it every day when I let myself.   And there’s the rub. Most of us are actively pushing joy away. I know I did, for the longest time.   😱   Our houses are bigger, cars are better, fridges are fuller. Yet we are the most unhappy we have ever been.   Child and adolescent suicide and mental illness is through the roof. Anxiety disorders are rising.   We’re paying all our attention to making outer circumstances better, and expecting that to translate into inner happiness   But it doesn’t.   It just makes us hungry for more external stuff without ever quenching our deep need for happiness and joy.   Meanwhile, our inner lives are neglected and atrophied.   And that matters, because Joy arises inside you.   And it can’t arise unless we water and fertilise the ground within us.   Join me on the podcast as we explore how to grow joy!

Self-judgement and shame.

It's a potent dynamic. I know it well first-hand and see it a lot in my work.

Are you quick to judge yourself when you have a 'difficult' emotion, like anger, fear, rage, jealousy?

Do you rush to hide them away where no-one will ever know you could be so out of character?

I would answer yes and yes to both those questions, and today in the podcast I'm exploring how to exchange this self-judgement with curiosity.

Because all our emotions are information towards growth. They are emergy which is supposed to move us. Our challenge is to allow them and find a skillful way fro them to move us!

When we hide them away we make ourselves stuck, becoming rigid and uncomfortable.

One way to work with this is to take a step back, examin the whole situation and engage your interest and curiosity instead.

A healthy dose of self compassion can also be helpful!

Join me for todays episode.

 

 

 

 

I made a boundary this week, and it feels so good.

It's one reason this episode is 'late'.

Today I'm exploring how I made the boundary and why, as well as how I'm feeling afterwards - spoiler alert - I feel good!

Our boundaries shape our lives. If your life isn't looking the way you want it, where do you need to make a better boundary?

Sometimes the boundary is with yourself. Exercise daily, eat better, walk in nature once a week. Sometimes it's with other people or screens or social media.

We are bombarded with data, like never before, and good boundaries with the digital world have never been more needed. 

How many of you would flinch if I suggested checking facebook once or twice a day instead of 1700 times a day?

No judgement, I've been there too!

I'd love to hear where in your life you've made a fresh, shiny, sparkling boundary, and how thats working out for you!

Here's the link to the webinar replay on boundaries.

 

 

I have a secret 😳   Nobody can read your mind.   Not your partner, your boss, your friends or even your kids.   If you want them to know how you feel, what you need, and what’s acceptable or not acceptable, you have to tell them.   I know it can be hard.   Pushing our needs away is the super power of most professional women.   It’s served us so well to power on and get ahead.   But it’s also creating a world where you feel frustrated, resentful and overwhelmed.   Because everyone thinks you’ve got this. You’re strong You’re always available You’ll do all the work. You’re invincible.   All that is true, but there’s also another side of you.   A side that needs a little gentleness, support, encouragement and kindness.   If you’d like to get better at asking for what you need, developing your voice to tell others what’s acceptable and what’s not, join me at the webinar.     'AHow to Make Boundaries like a Badass' Free webinar Thursday 9th March, Midday https://www.subscribepage.com/a8r2n0_boundaries

‘Absolutely no problem at all. I’d love to help you with that.’ Internal groan. 😱 When will I find time? I feel overwhelmed. I’ll have to not sleep. I can get up at 4am.   It's time to learn how to make better boundaries, so you can improve relationships, stop working 60 hour weeks and earn the money you are worth.   Come and learn how to tolerate the brief but difficult emotions that go with creating good, protective boundaries so you can dedicate your time to what you really love.   There’s an enormous personal cost to agreeing to others' demands. A cost in time, energy and trust that you can keep yourself safe. Now is the time to start valuing you and your precious, limited time and energy.   Saying yes against your will, so others don’t get angry or disappointed is the quick fix to avoid difficult emotions, with a long-term payment plan in resentment and overwhelm.   I know your conditioning is powerful. To always be nice, always be amenable, never disappoint. To be a good friend, a fabulous wife,  the best mother, a hard worker.   But it’s not sustainable or possible or even desirable.   This webinar is perfect for you if you want to stop,   🌻 Saying yes when you mean no 🌻 Sacrificing your time and energy to other people’s projects 🌻 Feeling spread way too thin over your commitments, fueling overwhelm 🌻 Avoiding short-term pain for long-term discomfort   How you will benefit,   🌻 Understand the dynamics which keep you stuck in people pleasing, and make change. 🌻 Align your time and energy according to your values and purpose. 🌻 Connect with your big why, which will support you to make those boundaries and keep them 🌻 Protect yourself and your loved ones as you shape the life you desire.     'How to Make Boundaries like a Badass' Free webinar Thursday 9th March, Midday  

Running on empty? I know how hard it can be to truly allow yourself to rest. 🌻   And here’s a last chance to join the self compassion retreat this Sunday. One place remains 🥰.   If you want to stop,   ☀️Punishing yourself to get work done ☀️Listening to your internal velociraptor ☀️Never feeling you’ve done enough ☀️Being at war with yourself   Come join a remarkable group of women committed to,   ☀️Working from a place of spaciousness and ease ☀️ Recovering inner calm ☀️ Finding courage to make change ☀️ Uncovering their own inner, gentle power.     Link below to find out more. We would love to have you with us!   Day Retreat, Sunday 26th February, 10-4, Bardon.   How to Shift From Self-Criticism to Self-Compassion.   Here's the link to find out more, https://www.subscribepage.com/day-retreat