Mommying While Muslim

Abdiya Iman joins us to discuss the Modest Fitness movement and how that has morphed from a response to the pandemic and lockdown to now elevating Muslimah wellness. From creating safe spaces online to elevating moms’ experiences in person, Abidya and her team are pioneers in the Muslim wellness industry. Learn how Modest Fitness is now offering more programs as a woman-led business, including the Ramadan Program, which is coming BACK for the second year in a row to power our fasting this year!

We are pretty sure you’ll want to “aubergine” and “courgette” with us after this episode, especially.

Seek mind-body-spirit wellness to power this year’s worship and tune in on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, Alexa, or Amazon Music. OR just click on the link in our bio and go to our website landing page and click “Listen.”

Links:

1. Find Modest Fitness on FB: https://www.facebook.com/modestfitnessweek 
2. Abdiya’s book recc: The Invisible Muslim Medina Whiteman
3. Sign up for the Ramadan Program on IG: @modestfitnessweek
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Zaiba & Uzma were so excited to talk about Ramadan prep and the physical, spiritual, and mental work that has to start now, that they recorded an episode together documenting what’s worked so far for them. While Zaiba has been on her journey longer than Uzma now, it’s useful to find out what we aren’t saying correctly to ourselves, and within earshot of our kids, that can sabotage our success before we even begin.

Sorry, but the conversation that one CAN’T do something like make up their fasts, run a mile, or complete a perfect Pinterest Ramadan tableau is untrue. Allah SWT made us capable and barring any actual disabilities, we can and need to stop convincing ourselves that we aren’t enough to reach our fitness goals. Yes, we are.

Now get to work and tune in at 6pm EST on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon, ask Alexa, click the link in our bio or go to our website mommyingwhilemuslim.com and click ‘Listen.’ Share this episode’s link with a friend today!

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Megan Wyatt of Wives of Jannah joins us today to discuss sex positive sunnah practices, and the real history of Islamic sexual tradition subdued by colonization and toxic cultural beliefs. From observations of sexual belief systems she’s made from coaching couples for years, learn about about:

●      sex positivity in Islam the RELIGION

●      the spiritual nature of sex in Islam

●      the role of pleasure in Islam for either gender, and especially for women

●      giving vs. getting and their significance, sexual dissatisfaction, boredom, emotional abuse, and porn among many others

●      how sex positivity and shame CULTURE of colonization replaced the sunnah of sex

We could NOT cut out the excellent advice and wisdom shared by Megan today, so sit back and absorb this one, singles and partnered people! Tune is at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music, Pandora, or just go to our website and click on the home page to listen. 

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1. Find Wives of Jannah online and on Instagram:https://wivesofjannah.com/ http://www.instagram.com/wivesofjannah 
2. Dua before sexual intercourse:

 بِسْمِ اللهِ اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ ، وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْـتَنَا

In the Name of Allah. O Allah, keep the shaytaan away from us and keep the shaytaan away from what You have blessed us with. 

Note: *The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, “Whoever says this dua and the wife was pregnant from that night, Shaytan will never be able to harm the child.”

1. Will the Angels Curse Me? free ebook: https://wivesofjannah.com/wtacm/?fbclid=IwAR3i0KFKnmyFyA6eiTYdiLrpCkS7kfvoI-NEO_HO5FNgqj2x6bOlvCIcqnA 
2. For those dealing with porn or sex addiction: https://purifyyourgaze.com/ 
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Half Our Deen’s team member and mom of 4 Maryam Adham joins us today to talk about how the company’s matchmaking algorithm works, what to expect when one signs up, and what certain results may mean. As a special treat, HOD reviewed Uzma and her husband’s online profiles to see if they were compatible and essentially, the right match for each other. Tune in to find out what they learned.

Explore how we determine compatibility and find our partners for life insha’Allah. There are some terrific tips in this episode on some of the internal work and questions we have to ask ourselves before we go trying to get married to another person. Do not miss! 

Mommying While Muslim is offering ONE yearlong subscription to Half Our Deen for FREE, but you have to tune in to hear how to get it. That’s an $84 value with priceless rewards if a compatible match results insha’Allah.

Links:

1. Find Half Our Deen online and on Instagram: https://www.halfourdeen.com/
   https://www.instagram.com/halfourdeen/ 
2. The Psychology and Meaning of Colors: https://colorpsychologymeaning.com/ 
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Dr. Shaakira Abdullah aka The Halal Sexpert joins us today to talk all things clitoris because let’s be real, how many of us know exactly what it is….or WHERE it is? And it’s a part of our bodies!!! As Zaiba says in this episode, “We don’t know what we don’t talk about.” 

Find out about our God-given organ (and He does NOT make mistakes!), its power, and the ways in which men have tried to oppress us through it. Good news: female circumcision is another failure of men and internalized female misogyny to thwart female pleasure. This episode includes terms like “lick,” “kink,” “orgasm,” and “squirt,” so stay tuned for that, preferably without the kids. 

Let’s fix that today and appreciate the candor and passion Dr. Abdullah brings to the topics of intimacy, sex, and Muslim sexuality. Don’t miss her advice to parents on how to talk to our kids about sex. 

And let’s all get cliterate!

Links:

1. Find Dr. Shaakira Abdullah and her classes, resources, and oh-those-Reels on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehalalsexpert/
2. Find Dr. Shaakira Abdullah online at her website: https://halalsexpert.com/ 
3. Read Blackness in Islam: https://www.imamghazali.org/store/blackness-and-islam 
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We kick off our series this month breaking down some of the toxic practices and mindsets associated with sex and sexuality in the Muslim community. Who better to address some of those taboos than Zaiba and Uzma themselves? No guests for this episode, folks! 

Your favorite cohosts are talking about some of their sexual hangups and breakthroughs, how they got over them, and how they’re raising sex-positive kids who aren’t afraid to talk or learn about sex or to be ashamed of the sexual beings they were created to be. Let’s be our kids’ role models for sex positivity, mamas! Cheers to breaking sexual trauma and sexual negativity!

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1. Islamic Perspectives on Sexual Intimacy: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/islamic-perspectives-on-sexual-intimacy/id1457266799?i=1000465568550 
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Aisha Jalali joins us today to discuss her survival guide to raising a 6-pack (of kids, not soda or beer) and being the hot, hot, hot mother in law she is now masha'Allah. The good news is, she is winging it while making it look easy. Like Aisha, WE want to "wing it" via many road trips, sujood ash shukr (prostrations of gratitude), family halaqa traditions, mama self care, and keeping all our ears and doors open, even when there's cucumbers and watermelon sugar involved. Yes, we said it. You'll have to listen to find out why!

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1. The US commits war crimes: https://www.cair.com/press_releases/cair-says-any-pentagon-officials-who-approved-reckless-war-crime-in-kabul-should-resign/?ms=Dailynewsbrief&emci=bf7ccf68-2d7a-ec11-94f6-c896650d4442&emdi=6ae75a01-317a-ec11-94f6-c896650d4442&ceid=68826  
2. Find Aisha on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aisha-jalali-78913559/ 
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Chaplain Kirsten Jawad joins us today to engage in thoughtful conversation about parenting mindfully in an era when our young people are so much more dynamic than in the past–from flying the nest to staying in it and what work is required to keep our relationships healthy, faithful, and rewarding. While it’s great that our kids don’t want to leave yet, we still serve in our maternal roles to support their continued independence, resilience, and to help our mom-adult child relationship reach another level. Even when our kids fall off the path of Islam, there is a place for us to guide them back as adults without going nuclear (Uzma!!!) using the Kristenism “carefrontations” to bring them back home. It’s about maternal mindset and truly having tawwakul (truly trusting God’s plan) Allah, as well as tawwakul in our kids and our momselves!  Write down her 5 rules to mommying that can make a difference with all ages, but really apply to our adult Muslim kids!

Links:

1. Compassionate Spiritual Care With Kristen Jawad: https://illuminatedlifeways.com/ 
2. Kristen’s inspiration on positive parenting and maternal inner work: https://www.amazon.com/Continuum-Concept-Happiness-Classics-Development/dp/0201050714 
3. Find the poem Kristen quotes in Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting: https://www.amazon.com/Everyday-Blessings-Inner-Mindful-Parenting/dp/0786883146 
4. CAIR’s press release on the moles working for Investigative Project on Terrorism: https://www.cair.com/press_releases/breaking-cair-to-release-new-evidence-showing-anti-muslim-hate-group-used-paid-spies-to-surveil-prominent-muslim-leaders-groups-for-more-than-a-decade/ 
5. Tariq Nelson’s statement on why he defected CAIR: https://www.cair.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Statement-Tariq-Nelson.docx.pdf 
6. Proving to Zaiba that “hotboxes” are real: https://mohavedailynews.com/news/85597/patience-key-in-winning-contest/ 
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When we asked Joy Turner, mom of 3 adults 

●      How do we conduct ourselves when adult kids don’t practice or act according to what we expect?

●      How do we retire the red panic button?

●      What keeps a mom from going nuclear?

we didn’t expect to end up in tears. Joy threw us a curveball on this one because y’all know we like to end on a laugh, but instead we shared happy snot. “Just love them.”

Thank you for bringing back joy, Joy. We pray that mommying these adult kids will build far better than what we shared before. Allahuma ameen. 

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Nora Abbasi, mom of 4 adult children, joins us today to share motherisms that helped her reach this glorious point as grandmother to 12 little Muslims, mashaAllah. Her advice and reflections are so helpful to those of us on the cusp of being empty nesters or those of who fear reaching that point. All things our kids face with us at their sides can be good. Caring about “what will people say,” sabotages us, though and her tips on how to avoid doing that are GOLDEN. 

We learned SO MUCH about how to have healthy mindsets about our kids growing up, avoid opening the door to Shaytaan, and how to keep the spark alive with our partners while raising kids and especially after!

Tune in at 6pm EST tonight and let us know what you think on the reviews on Apple podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Google play, or go to our website and hit the ‘Listen’ button on the landing page. You can send us a message about what you think about the episode there, too. We LOVE hearing back from you.

Links:

1. Standard info on raising Muslim children: https://www.iqrasense.com/muslim-character/raising-children-in-islam-how-to-raise-children-into-responsible-muslim-adults.html 
2. The first 21 years, but we know mommying doesn’t stop when the kids turn 21: https://withaspin.com/2019/12/22/principles-of-islamic-parenting/ 
3. On Being the Best Muslim Parent (it’s an online manual but Nora assures us THERE’S NO MANUAL!!!): https://www.isacademy.net/admin/uploads/29617_On_Being_the_Best_Muslim_Parent.pdf 
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