No one is going to check in with you to make sure you're enjoying your life.

What if fun—not self-care, not optimization, not doing more—is the thing missing from modern motherhood?

This week on Under the Influence, we’re talking about why moms feel guilty for wanting joy, adventure, and pleasure that doesn’t serve anyone else. Our guest is Kelly Conroy, the creator of Your Mom Races Rally (YOMO), who went from feeling invisible and depleted in early motherhood to learning how to race rally cars—yes, actual rally cars—on dirt tracks at high speed.

This episode is about the lies we’re told about motherhood: that it should fulfill every need, that good moms are selfless, and that fun has to be earned, justified, or monetized to be allowed. We talk about why women feel pressure to prove the “ROI” of their hobbies, why dads are never asked to account for their leisure time, and how reclaiming adventure can radically change how we parent, partner, and exist in our bodies.

Kelly shares how racing became a form of deep presence, confidence-building, and community—and why modeling joy, risk, and selfhood for our kids might be one of the most important things we do as parents.

This conversation is about identity, autonomy, and why choosing fun isn’t frivolous—it’s revolutionary.

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