This week's Hello Hayes advice column: Our letter writer, a chronic overthinker, is "freaked out" about getting engaged because her boyfriend isn't as family oriented as she is. (Or is he?) We discuss: family dynamics and being "family oriented," getting engaged, relationship standards, and whether there's validity to the "80/20" rule.
 
In the back half, we're getting a pulse check on generative AI. What are your feelings? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

This week's Hello Hayes advice column: Our letter writer, a chronic overthinker, is "freaked out" about getting engaged because her boyfriend isn't as family oriented as she is. (Or is he?) We discuss: family dynamics and being "family oriented," getting engaged, relationship standards, and whether there's validity to the "80/20" rule. In the back half, we're getting a pulse check on generative AI. What are your feelings? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's Hello Hayes advice column: Our letter writer, a chronic overthinker, is "freaked out" about getting engaged because her boyfriend isn't as family oriented as she is. (Or is he?) We discuss: family dynamics and being "family oriented," getting engaged, relationship standards, and whether there's validity to the "80/20" rule.
 
In the back half, we're getting a pulse check on generative AI. What are your feelings? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices" rel="noopener noreferrer">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

“My Boyfriend Isn’t Close With His Family. Is That a Red Flag?”

Hello Hayes is an advice column podcast. 

Originally known for her advice column on TikTok, Hayes brings a clear, curious, and emotionally intelligent voice to long-form audio. Her work — featured in BuzzFeed, The New York Times, and CBS — explores the questions beneath the surface: Who am I, really? What gets in the way of that? And how do I keep showing up as someone I recognize?

This isn’t about self-help shortcuts or expert advice. It’s about asking the right questions, honoring your process, and knowing you’re not alone in it. Whether you’re navigating a major life shift or craving more clarity in the everyday, Hello Hayes is here to help you feel supported, capable, and curious about who you’re becoming.

Send letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.com

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Hello Hayes is an advice column podcast. Originally known for her advice column on TikTok, Hayes brings a clear, curious, and emotionally intelligent voice to long-form audio. Her work — featured in BuzzFeed, The New York Times, and CBS — explores the questions beneath the surface: Who am I, really? What gets in the way of that? And how do I keep showing up as someone I recognize? This isn’t about self-help shortcuts or expert advice. It’s about asking the right questions, honoring your process, and knowing you’re not alone in it. Whether you’re navigating a major life shift or craving more clarity in the everyday, Hello Hayes is here to help you feel supported, capable, and curious about who you’re becoming. Send letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.com

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