Charlie had a wife, a friend group, and a lifestyle that looked great from the outside. None of it was working.

In this episode, Charlie opens up about a marriage that started in their twenties and slowly drifted into two people growing in completely opposite directions — and a friend group straight out of Mean Girls who made everything worse. She was working overtime to meet everyone's expectations while the one person who was supposed to love her unconditionally couldn't give her the basics.

Spoiler: you can't love your way into being enough for the wrong person.

This one is about toxic friendships, lifestyle pressure, LGBTQ+ relationships, and the quiet devastation of being surrounded by people while feeling completely alone. It's also about what happens when you finally decide your own worth isn't up for negotiation.

All details have been kept anonymous out of respect for everyone involved.

Narcissists, Gaslighters, & Cheaters, Oh My! — real folks, real stories, survival & healing.

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of toxic behavior, narcissistic abuse, infidelity, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

Behk and LAH are not doctors or therapists. Nothing shared on this podcast should be taken as medical or professional advice.

Have a story you'd like to share? We'd love to hear it. Submit yours here.

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LAH is back. And this is the harder part.

In part two, LAH picks up where she left off — past year one and deep into the years that were harder to survive and harder to talk about. The financial wreckage. The sexual coercion. The toxic family dynamics that made leaving feel impossible. The moments she thought things might actually be okay, and what happened after.

This is the episode where LAH stopped holding back.

If you've ever stayed too long because leaving felt unsurvivable — this one is for you. LAH made it out. Here's how the rest of the story goes.

All details have been kept anonymous out of respect for everyone involved.

Narcissists, Gaslighters, & Cheaters, Oh My! — real folks, real stories, survival & healing.

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of toxic abuse, alcoholism, drug addiction, child neglect, child molestation, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, you don't have to figure it out alone. Call the SAMHSA National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357 for free, confidential support — 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It's a judgment-free call.

Behk and LAH are not doctors or therapists. Nothing shared on this podcast should be taken as medical or professional advice.

Have a story you'd like to share? We'd love to hear it. Submit yours here.

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This time, it's LAH in the hot seat.

In part one of this two-part episode, co-host LAH opens up to Behk about her own story — the one she's been holding while helping everyone else tell theirs. She takes us back to the childhood experiences that quietly laid the groundwork for an eight-year codependent relationship with an addict. The kind of relationship that makes complete sense when you understand where it came from.

This one is personal. This one is real. And honestly? This one has been a long time coming.

All details have been kept anonymous out of respect for everyone involved.

Narcissists, Gaslighters, & Cheaters, Oh My! — real folks, real stories, survival & healing.

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of toxic abuse, alcoholism, drug addiction, child neglect, child molestation, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, you don't have to figure it out alone. Call the SAMHSA National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357 for free, confidential support — 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It's a judgment-free call.

Behk and LAH are not doctors or therapists. Nothing shared on this podcast should be taken as medical or professional advice.

Have a story you'd like to share? We'd love to hear it. Submit yours here.

If this show has meant something to you, consider supporting us on Patreon for exclusive content — every bit helps us keep the curtain rising.

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QUICK NOTE: We apologize for the audio quality in this episode. We did this one in person and it didn't turn out like we'd hoped. If you can bear it, it is a great episode.

In this episode, hosts Behk and LAH welcome the incomparable Dyson, also known by her stage name, Trinity Monroe. A two-time title-holding drag queen, Dyson joins us in the studio to share his remarkable journey through the world of drag performance.

• How Behk celebrates Pride Month with LGBTQ+ friends
• Where do we find Soul Minor’s Daughter music?
• Renaissance Fair and spittin’ fairies
• The younger DRAG generation
• Keeping old-school DRAG alive
• History of DRAG and William Shakespeare
• The bad rap DRAG gets from some “straight” folk
• The effects of having to grow up masking who you are
• Losing family and friends to AIDS
• Why do some parents not accept their gay kids?
• About Trinity Monroe
• Remembering Bianca Paige
• Message from Dyson

From starting out in the vibrant yet challenging drag scene of 1980s Nashville to rising as a celebrated performer, Dyson’s story is one of resilience and passion. He opens up about his experiences with the elder gays who paved the way, the profound loss of friends and lovers to AIDS, and the transformative power of performing drag.

Join us for an intimate conversation that dives deep into the highs and lows of a drag performer's life, the evolving landscape of the LGBTQ+ community, and the enduring spirit of those who perform in the face of adversity.

Tune in for a tribute to the art of drag, the memories of those we've lost, and the enduring fight for acceptance and equality.

Don’t miss this episode of Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters, Oh My! – it’s one you’ll carry with you long after the final curtain call.

Content Warning: This episode discusses various forms of toxic abuse, AIDS, child molestation, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

We are not doctors or therapists; you should not take our opinions as medical advice.

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A lesbian, a gay guy, and a witch walk into a podcast. Yes, really.

In this episode, Behk & LAH welcome one of their oldest and dearest friends — John — for a conversation that is equal parts hilarious, heartfelt, and genuinely eye-opening. John opens up about his toxic relationship with who he calls "the greatest showman" — a successful, influential partner in the theater world whose charm came with a price tag John didn't see until it was too late.

Power imbalances. Manipulation. Cheating. And a narcissist so confounding that just trying to understand him is its own kind of trap.

But this episode doesn't stay heavy for long. Three friends with ADHD, history, and absolutely no filter means things go delightfully sideways more than once. The Stephen Baldwin story alone is worth the listen.

John also ran for office and launched a nonprofit in Africa while all of this was happening. Because of course he did.

This one has everything — toxicity, theater, nostalgia, and the kind of friendship that survives decades and still makes you wheeze laughing. Don't miss it.

Narcissists, Gaslighters, & Cheaters, Oh My! — real folks, real stories, survival & healing.

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of toxic behavior, narcissistic abuse, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

Behk and LAH are not doctors or therapists. Nothing shared on this podcast should be taken as medical or professional advice.

Have a story you'd like to share? We'd love to hear it. Submit yours here.

If this show has meant something to you, consider supporting us on Patreon for exclusive content — every bit helps us keep the curtain rising.

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Two podcasts. One very illuminating conversation.

In this special collaboration episode, Behk & LAH sit down with Amanda Arnier — host of The Dichotomy Diaries — and things get deep fast. Together they unpack the emotional architecture of toxic relationships: how trust works, why we attach the way we do, what narcissism actually looks like up close, and why telling our stories out loud is one of the most powerful things survivors can do.

Amanda also brings her own story — including Dick's case, which Dichotomy Diaries listeners will know well — and together they explore Dr. Vaknin's dual mothership theory, Carl Jung, attachment styles, and what healing actually looks like in practice.

This one is equal parts fascinating, validating, and genuinely fun. Two hosts, two shows, zero holding back.

📖 Book mentioned: The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck M.D.

Subscribe to The Dichotomy Diaries wherever you listen and follow Amanda's journey.

Narcissists, Gaslighters, & Cheaters, Oh My! — real folks, real stories, survival & healing.

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of narcissistic abuse and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

Behk and LAH are not doctors or therapists. Nothing shared on this podcast should be taken as medical or professional advice.

Have a story you'd like to share? We'd love to hear it. Submit yours here.

If this show has meant something to you, consider supporting us on Patreon for exclusive content — every bit helps us keep the curtain rising.

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Eight years. One man. So many secrets.

Shirley thought she had found her person. Turns out her person had found quite a few other people too — including, somehow, his first cousin. As the layers of his infidelity peeled back one by one, what emerged wasn't just cheating. It was a carefully maintained double life that Shirley never saw coming.

This one is about betrayal in its most audacious form — and the long, hard, worthwhile work of rebuilding yourself after someone you trusted turned out to be a complete stranger.

Shirley is also one of our listeners. And she's not done talking.

Keep an eye out for Shirley's upcoming podcast — The Audacity of Men: Utah Edition — where she'll dive even deeper into her story of betrayal and healing, joined by her ex-husband's sister, her betrayal coach, and special guests. We'll drop the link here the moment it's live. You're going to want to follow her. 💜

Narcissists, Gaslighters, & Cheaters, Oh My! — real folks, real stories, survival & healing.

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of toxic abuse, narcissistic abuse, drug use, incest, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, you don't have to figure it out alone. Call the SAMHSA National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357 for free, confidential support — 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It's a judgment-free call.

Behk and LAH are not doctors or therapists. Nothing shared on this podcast should be taken as medical or professional advice.

Have a story you'd like to share? We'd love to hear it. Submit yours here.

If this show has meant something to you, consider supporting us on Patreon for exclusive content — every bit helps us keep the curtain rising.

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In this episode, hosts Behk and LAH take a break from the heavy and dive into a whirlwind of ADHD-fueled topics, from holler goblins, men who just don’t get it, to our favorite songs from Taylor’s The Tortured Poets Department album.

• What is sassy water?
• The 5th-grade dance drama
• Upcoming guests
• Corporate event butt sketch artists
• The Kinky Renaissance Fair
• Have you ever heard of the Holler Goblins?
• Harry the Bigfoot
• Fuck venomous snakes!
• Bear vs Man in the Woods
• The clueless guy
• Taylor Swift and TTPD

You can tune in to this episode for a rollercoaster ride of topics, sprinkled with lots of laughter.

• Hellier
• The Unbinding
• Greg & Dana Haunted Podcast
• Finding Bigfoot

Content Warning: This episode discusses snakes and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised. 

We are not doctors or therapists; you should not take our opinions as medical advice.

Would you like to be a guest and share your story on the pod or do you have a question for us to share and answer on one of our banter episodes? Please fill out our form.

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Jodi had known John for five years. She thought that meant she knew him. She didn't.

When John moved in, everything unraveled — fast. Within ten months, he had manipulated her into addiction, turned her home into a place police visited regularly, ignored every protective order, and drained her of everything she had. Ten months. Her sons knew something was wrong before she could even name it.

Jodi is one of our listeners. And she came on to tell the whole truth.

This one covers narcissistic abuse, meth addiction, and what it actually looks like to crawl back from both at the same time. It is not easy listening. It is absolutely necessary.

Narcissists, Gaslighters, & Cheaters, Oh My! — real folks, real stories, survival & healing.

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of toxic abuse, narcissistic abuse, drug use, domestic violence, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, you don't have to figure it out alone. Call the SAMHSA National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357 for free, confidential support — 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It's a judgment-free call.

Behk and LAH are not doctors or therapists. Nothing shared on this podcast should be taken as medical or professional advice.

Have a story you'd like to share? We'd love to hear it. Submit yours here.

If this show has meant something to you, consider supporting us on Patreon for exclusive content — every bit helps us keep the curtain rising.

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Sarah has already survived her father, her ex-husband, and state custody. In part three, we get to her mother.

In this episode, Sarah opens up about the parent who was supposed to be her safe place — and wasn't. A mother who withheld love, a racist stepfather, and the very specific pain of watching that hatred directed at Sarah's own partners and children. This isn't just generational trauma. This is a choice her mother made, over and over again.

Sarah made different choices. For herself. For her kids. And eventually — for her peace.

This is the part of Sarah's story about breaking a cycle so thoroughly it can never touch the next generation.

Narcissists, Gaslighters, & Cheaters, Oh My! — real folks, real stories, survival & healing.

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of toxic abuse, narcissistic abuse, racism, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

Behk and LAH are not doctors or therapists. Nothing shared on this podcast should be taken as medical or professional advice.

Have a story you'd like to share? We'd love to hear it. Submit yours here.

If this show has meant something to you, consider supporting us on Patreon for exclusive content — every bit helps us keep the curtain rising.

Hosts: Behk & LAH

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