NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

In this live event recording, sex educator Luna Matatas breaks down why kink can feel so electrifying by exploring the psychology of power, risk, and taboo and how “eroticism” is really the felt sense of being lit up in mind and body. She offers a practical way to translate fantasy into real life by focusing less on props and more on the feelings and “flavors” you want to create, building a clear container of consent, and asking the two questions that change everything: How do I want to feel? How do you want to feel?

Then sexologist and coach Ashley Manta introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a powerful tool for relationships and non-monogamy: learning to notice your “parts,” stop speaking from them, and start speaking for them. With vulnerable, funny stories and concrete steps, she shows how to work with jealousy, fear, and insecurity without outsourcing your safety to your partner, and how self-energy (calm, curiosity, compassion, clarity, courage) turns conflict into repair, intimacy, and better sex.

Website:

www.NaughtyGym.com

Upcoming Events:

1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat

2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026

3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

April and Scott recap Be Better at Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism—day by day—covering the themes, the workshops, the connection circles, and the parties that made this year’s week feel like the best yet.

From Rave Bingo and fundraising for the Hedo Foundation to the Glow Party, foam party chaos, and the Superheroes & Villains night where “Professor X” somehow became “Doctor Strange,” they share the funny, the sexy, and the surprisingly meaningful moments that built real community.

Plus: Wild Love Theory retreat updates, the Toronto X Club Pride weekend announcement, and why “Irish goodbyes” might be the secret to surviving a full takeover week.

Website: www.NaughtyGym.com

Upcoming Events:

1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat

2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026

3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

This week’s second special episode is Scott’s opening keynote from Be Better At Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism II Resort: The Freedom Mandate: The Ethical Case for Relational Freedom.

Scott unpacks Wild Love Theory’s seven-word thesis, “Maximum relational happiness requires maximum relational freedom,” and asks the question that can feel both inspiring and terrifying: If your partner’s happiness matters to you… do you owe them freedom?

From there, he draws a crucial line between true boundaries (inward-facing choices for self-protection) and what most couples call “boundaries” but are actually imposed limits designed to manage fear. He explains why rules can be necessary early on, but only as scaffolding: temporary supports meant to loosen as trust, regulation, and repair become load-bearing.

The talk ends with a raw, personal story from Scott and April’s relationship: the moment Scott kissed April goodbye as she got ready for a date with no rules, and what that taught him about control, courage, and what it means to build a relational cathedral two free people can actually live inside.

Next week we’ll release our full recap of BBBB 2026. If this keynote brings up questions or reflections, email Scott anytime at [email protected].

Website:

www.NaughtyGym.com

Upcoming Events:

1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat

2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026

3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

In this opening keynote from Naughty Gym's Be Better At Being Bad Takeover at Hedonism Resort, Coach April invites you into a deeply honest exploration of desire, identity, and self trust. Through personal stories and lived experience, she challenges the roles, labels, and expectations that shape what we think we should want and asks a more powerful question: what do you actually want?

This talk is about unlearning goodness, releasing approval seeking, and reconnecting with the quiet wisdom of the body. It’s an invitation to stop performing the life you were taught to live and start listening to the truth that’s been waiting underneath it all.

This is not about having it all figured out. It’s about coming home to yourself and beginning again, on purpose.

Website: www.NaughtyGym.com

Upcoming Events:

1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat

2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026

3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

2025 was a LOT… and we’re ending the year with one of the biggest growth moments in our relationship.

In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, we tell the full story of April’s first real autonomous solo date—the nerves, the ugly Christmas sweater plan, the chemistry, the decision-making in the moment, and what it was like for Scott to sit at home and feel the “flutter” (aka jealousy/activation)… without making it her responsibility.

We also break down the real stuff people avoid talking about in ethical non-monogamy:

• What compersion actually feels like (not the internet version)
• How jealousy shows up even when you’re secure
• Autonomy vs. caretaking (and how to stop people-pleasing)
• Debriefing after a big night: what helped, what didn’t, and what we learned

And yes… Scott shares the sleep-aid + vodka + couch disaster that happened DAYS before the date. 😬

Events & trips:

🇯🇲 Be Better Being Bad (Jamaica) — Jan 3–10 (few rooms left)

🏔️ Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat — Apr 15–19 (booking fast)

🇪🇸 Barcelona — Aug 14–21 (limited spots)

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April and Scott recap a wild (and unexpectedly meaningful) night out: a sexy Santa & Mrs. Claus gig at an LGBTQ-friendly Christmas party that turns into a real-time relationship test. By the end of the night, April, who historically hasn’t felt fully comfortable claiming that kind of freedom, finds herself laughing, connecting, and eventually agreeing to a dinner date with a newly divorced single guy from their extended lifestyle circle.

What follows is the real conversation: how do you support your partner’s autonomy without turning it into pressure, surveillance, or “constant check-ins”? Scott shares how past attempts at separate dating triggered anxiety and control impulses (even when “nothing” was happening), and how this time felt different, calmer, steadier, more grounded. Together they unpack the difference between intuition vs. projection, explore “The Bad Prophet” (mind-reading, future-forecasting, spiraling), and practice “The Unprophet” (staying present, responding only to real data, honoring privacy).

They also dig into a powerful desire question April is building her Hedo keynote around: “What would I do if there was nobody I could disappoint?” The episode closes with upcoming Naughty Gym events and a thoughtful note on protecting partners’ anonymity, because this show isn’t about sex-capade storytelling, it’s about the real emotional skills non-monogamy demands.

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Welcome back to The Naughty Gym Show! In this episode, April and Scott catch you up on everything that’s been happening behind the scenes — from finishing their Wild Love Theory book to launching a stacked calendar of retreats for 2025 and beyond.

They start with updates on Be Better at Being Bad at Hedonism II and their new “Fuck Melissa” fundraiser shirt supporting the Hedo Cares Foundation after the hurricane. From there, they share exciting news about the upcoming Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat (a “relationship black belt” experience for already solid couples) and why WLT isn’t therapy to “fix” something broken, but a radical, freedom-based reframing of how we do love.

Wild Love Theory Retreat Info: https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat

Then they dive into heartfelt recaps of their two November retreats:

 • Mancation Mountain – a men’s-only cabin retreat that was supposed to be steaks, bourbon, and bowling… and turned into one of the most emotional, transformative weekends of many guys’ lives. Scott talks about how connection circles, deep questions, and a non-judgmental container led to tears, breakthroughs, and 20 new friendships — plus a twist on their usual format that he’ll carry into future events.

 • Wild & Wise – April’s menopause-focused women’s retreat, where women from all over the country and all relationship structures gathered to learn, cry, laugh, and reconnect to their bodies. She shares stories of workshops on hormones, desire, and aging; sensual (not sexual) touch; late-night bunkroom bonding; and an impromptu boudoir shoot that helped women see themselves as sexy and powerful again.

They also talk about what’s coming next:

 • A Religion & Non-Monogamy retreat with two tracks (for those keeping faith and those deconstructing it)

 • A future men + women split-then-merge couples retreat

 • Adventure trips to Barcelona and El Salvador

 • Local events like Sapphire Starlington’s sex-positive Christmas party where April and Scott will appear as a very spicy Mr. and Mrs. Claus

Finally, they close with a reminder that NaughtyGym.com isn’t just about travel — it’s also their online fitness and coaching community, with weekly live calls, workouts, and 1:1 coaching spots available for people who want to thrive in their bodies and their relationships.

If you’re curious about their retreats, coaching, or Wild Love Theory itself, this episode is a perfect snapshot of where the Naughty Gym universe is headed — more depth, more freedom, more community, and as always… never stop playing.

April and Scott are back from the Smoky Mountains and very well-rested… because they slept for 3 days. In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April & Scott share details about their upcoming gig as sexy Mr. & Mrs. Claus at Sapphire Starlington’s Christmas party in Huntsville before diving into a day-by-day recap of their Naughty Holidaze retreat.

You’ll hear how 14 adventurous couples (plus host couples) turned a giant mountain cabin into a rotating celebration of Halloween, Friendsgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Year’s Eve—complete with connection circles, icebreaker bingo, a “lazy man’s” gratitude drive through bear country, moonshine tastings in tacky Christmas sweaters, and a day of roller coasters at Dollywood. They talk about pop-up play spaces with massage tables and flogging demos, why consent and vibe made this group feel uniquely safe and non-predatory, and the unexpected intimacy of group massages and cuddle puddles.

April and Scott also unpack their Relational Freedom workshop based on their Wild Love Theory book, why Telegram groups can totally mislead you about people, and how a dueling piano New Year’s Sneaker Ball brought their entire origin story full circle. They wrap with a look at upcoming Naughty Gym trips and retreats—and why, whatever you do, you should never stop playing.

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Today we go deep on throuples—what makes a three-person relationship (triad) work in real life. Our guest is Dr. Rachael Meir, a Stanford-trained psychologist, sex & relationship coach, author of 50 Questions to Ask Before Opening Your Relationship, and host of retreats designed specifically for throuples.

In this episode (throuple-forward):

• Shapes of throuples: V vs. closed triad, the “everyone dates everyone” myth, and why symmetry isn’t the only path to stability.

• Avoiding triangles (the bad kind): How to reduce coalitions, secret alliances, and “two against one” dynamics with simple, predictable check-ins.

• Jealousy in 3s: Why jealousy feels different in a triad, Dr. Meir’s “dashboard warning light” frame, and how to respond without spiraling.

• Differentiation = less codependence: Staying three whole people (not one fused blob) actually strengthens the connection between all of you.

• Logistics that keep love humane: Calendars, re-entry rituals, and short “state-of-us” huddles so no one becomes the project manager (or the parent).

• Ethics & invitations: Power imbalances, “unicorn hunting,” and creating consent that’s real for all three partners—not just the original pair.

• Retreat lessons: What Dr. Meir sees thriving throuples do differently (language, expectations, and how they handle NRE without breaking the triangle).

Plus, we pull 5 key prompts from Dr. Meir’s book to ground any non-monogamy journey:

• What desires/needs do I believe non-monogamy could fulfill (for me, not just my partner)?

• Do I have enough self-esteem to stay out of comparison traps?

• Are we differentiated—two/three whole people with overlap—rather than merged?

• Are we opening to fill a void/fix a problem (and what would repair look like first)?

• What small agreements would make us feel safer without turning into surveillance?

Big takeaways you can use tonight

• Trade control for clarity: one short weekly check-in beats constant play-by-play.

• Re-entry rituals after solo or third-partner time keep connection warm and resentment low.

• In triads, fairness ≠ sameness—aim for dignity for all three, not equal minutes.

Find Dr. Meir: https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/

Naughty Gym: https://www.naughtygym.com/

Rejection happens in the lifestyle. What do you do with the sting. April and Scott sit down with pleasure educator Luna Matatas to unpack expectations, etiquette, and empathy when play does not line up for all four people. They dig into clear asks, enthusiastic consent, and how to set goals that are sexual, sensual, and social so the night still feels like a win. Luna shares her worst threesome, her best threesomes, and practical scripts for saying yes and no with kindness. Plus a peek at what she is bringing to Be Better at Being Bad this January. Tune in for real stories, real growth, and a reminder that someone else’s no is a big yes to themselves.

Luna Matatas website: https://lunamatatas.com/en-us

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